disappointed..

Just tell her yo' goin out later to burn some embasiez and pimp up da ridez and that her name is Aleysha (Lenny Henry character...he did a good show a few months back).

Make sure you film that, and I wouldn't recommend saying it if she has a handbag or rolling pin nearby :) :p

She sounds like an idiot to me, maximum offence intended, because it's absurd.

Ignore her and be happy :)

ScoobyDoo69 said:
o there is no chance of me letting her go, trust me, no matter what others think.
she came in and apologised this morning, saying she doesn't really have a problem with it, she just never thought I'd be that way inclined, and so it shocked her somewhat!
she's never had problems with my friends, infact they love her, and she has no problem with them at all. ah well, It'll be fine me thinks :)
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Good to see she's seen sense - people have funny initial reactions/perceptions.

I have respect for people who can find themselves in an adverse situation and back down because although it's not what they are used to, it's what they know is best.

Good luck :)
 
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Spawn said:
LOL im not being ridiculous ya numbnut:p, just saying it how i see it tbh.

Although its nice that shes apologised for her behaviour, personally i wish more people would see people as people rather than their colour first tbqh.
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Jumping so quickly to the conclusion that someone is being racist on so little evidence is always going to be ridiculous. Maybe you should practice exactly what you preach and not judge people so rashly.

Nice use of the green tongue man by the way. Also sorry for the multiple replies im struggling to highlight anything without a mouse on this laptop.
 
AtreuS said:
I once dated a chinese girl for about a year. Her father took me aside one day after about a month and basicly said that he liked me but that i would never marry his daugter. He said he had no problemswith us dating indeffinately but that she WOULD marry a chinese lad no matter what. He was a nice bloke too and i found it a very odd experiance.

As it turns out we kinda drifted apart after the year for unrelated reasons but i never did mention it to her... she loved her father and i didnt want to cause problems. ( im white btw)
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Not surprised to be quite honest, it's our culture not to be loyal to the same person for life. But other cultures believe in long-term stable relationships so it's just one of those things I guess :)
 
My mother wouldn't really care but my dad is about as reacist as they come, he would either take the pi** for the rest of my life, or make my life a living hell..
 
lol o.0

She could be racist, as I dont know her exactly, I have seen/met people who are not racist but more racially inclined to their own colour in certain situations like this. So its hard to say "yea she racist" and its not easy to say "yeah she isnt".

She will learn to accept it eventually, all your mother wants is the best for you so she wont be nasty as you can see by her apology. Its a nice dream; where people see you by your personality (or even looks) rather than race first, something that will never happen.

Good luck
 
This reminds me of Dragon: The Bruce Lee Story.

His wifes mum was the same as yours. But they basically said "stuff you, we are a couple whether you like it or not". That worked out pretty well eventually. Its your mums problem anyway. She will have to get over it. You just enjoy the time your having with the new woman in your life.
 
Thankfully my parents are awesome, and have no problem with my girlfriend being half Indian or my brother's girlfriend being Jewish.

It was quite different for my mates parents though when he brought his white girlfriend home. His mum is a devout hindu and was telling us how she was crying herself to sleep when she found out about it. It was interesting being essentially told by your mates mum that she viewed your race as second rate :p
 
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If she's that narrow-minded that just don't involve her at all. If she gives you problems when your missus visits, I'd sit her down. Explain that her back-dated prejudices are hers to keep, but she has no right to let her misgivings encroach upon your relationship with a woman who matters to you.

Parents seem to think that they have a right to sway the decisions you make that impact you personally. I say nip this in the bud.

Ant :cool:
 
Skyfire said:
Not surprised to be quite honest, it's our culture not to be loyal to the same person for life. But other cultures believe in long-term stable relationships so it's just one of those things I guess :)
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Whose culture(s) are you talking about? Here in the UK, as far as I'm concerned, it still is our culture to believe in long-term stable relationships no matter what the media likes to feed us.
 
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