They should be treated equally as they wanted the vote and equality didn't they?lol
Do you charge your children "keep" or rent? Do/did you pay it yourself?
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I think it's perfectly natural and likely very common to feel more protective of women than men.
I would not like to feel that a young woman I've brought in to the world and been responsible for suddenly has to make a decision between financial sacrifice and ensuring that she has a safe roof over her head. I wouldn't feel quite the same about a man. In addition, I think women tend to feel less negative emotion about being supported, so are able to accept that support more positively, whereas men tend not to, on average. I think as a result, women are less likely to be detrimentally impacted from being given that support than men. I also don't believe women need to be taught quite the same lessons as men at every stage in their lives.
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OK, I didn't have it that bad. Only my weekends were sucked up.
At that point I thought **** it.. I'll rent. If I have to work my weekends for free, I'm basically paying full rent!
Soldato
I didn’t because neither of my daughters were working when they lived at home. They both went to uni and never came back.
When I lived with my parents, I was paying my share of the household bills. My share was decided by my mother who managed all the household finances as my dad was hopeless with money. He basically handed over his wage packet every week and was given back enough money for cigarettes and a little flutter on the horses on a Saturday.
When I lived with my parents, I was paying my share of the household bills. My share was decided by my mother who managed all the household finances as my dad was hopeless with money. He basically handed over his wage packet every week and was given back enough money for cigarettes and a little flutter on the horses on a Saturday.
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Christ that's based. Were his ancestors from thr South by any chance
?Christ that's based. Were his ancestors from thr South by any chance
South dakota... So.. Yeah!
That's not the south.. But it one of those states
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Soldato
Do you not think that is would stump their development? Would it not be better for them to learn this while they are young and still under your roof, so you can help them?
I mean if they are short one week/month.. then they can pay the difference in addition next week/month. Not many landlords would be as flexible as this.
The book, the millionaire next door did research on this and it turned out that naturally parents do free more protective of girls but the vast majority of them (the girls) never took on any financial responsibility in their lives and left it all to their man.
Man of Honour
Is the last paragraph really that much of a problem?
I don't really have massively strong opinions about it, just something I discovered about my feelings on it while typing the post. Your example about being short sort of proves my point, a man is likely to be in less danger by making the mistake and learning the lesson of being short on landlord rent than their female equivalent.
Soldato
In 2001 i was charged £35 a week, i was 16.
My eldest who is on a decent 25 k a year aged 18 is charged £200 a month, includes all food and weekly take always etc….
She has saved some 10k in 6 months i think so she’s doing well enough
My eldest who is on a decent 25 k a year aged 18 is charged £200 a month, includes all food and weekly take always etc….
She has saved some 10k in 6 months i think so she’s doing well enough
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As soon as I started college my parents said I had to get a part-time job and pay keep, which I did.
Think I was earning £270 a month (around 1998) for 15 hours work a week in the evening and had to give them £50 a month, so not too bad.
Ironically my 18 year nephew (their grandson) lives with them now, earns £1000+ a month and doesn't have to pay anything! Lucky git.
Think I was earning £270 a month (around 1998) for 15 hours work a week in the evening and had to give them £50 a month, so not too bad.
Ironically my 18 year nephew (their grandson) lives with them now, earns £1000+ a month and doesn't have to pay anything! Lucky git.
Soldato
Yes i gave £30 a week when i was 18 in 1994.
I probably earned about £100 a week working in the local SPAR shop.
I probably earned about £100 a week working in the local SPAR shop.
My parents charge nominal amounts, mostly to cover things like cost of electricity used that they otherwise wouldn't have used, etc.
Personally not a fan of when parents [secretly] save it up to give it back later, I don't think I'd forgive my parents for doing that rather than treat me like an adult and trust me to do my own finances and/or have a discussion about it up front with guidance or whatever in relation to saving/investing it.
EDIT: PS don't be the parent that always moans their kids never do chores but then also don't give them the chance to do it and/or expect them to jump in and do stuff they aren't in the loop of how it is done :s
Personally not a fan of when parents [secretly] save it up to give it back later, I don't think I'd forgive my parents for doing that rather than treat me like an adult and trust me to do my own finances and/or have a discussion about it up front with guidance or whatever in relation to saving/investing it.
EDIT: PS don't be the parent that always moans their kids never do chores but then also don't give them the chance to do it and/or expect them to jump in and do stuff they aren't in the loop of how it is done :s
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Soldato
When I lived with my parents when working - I gave them £150 a month (2007-10) and a portion of that was on a supermarket gift card as my then employer had a scheme where could buy gift cards and vouchers for various retailers with 4-6.5% off. That was taken from my monthly pay. Plus could ring up to buy a one off gift card purchase for things like holidays, TVs etc.
I never paid rent, I didn’t have any money left over to! On my 17th birthday my dad presented me with a new Corsa - he had got a decent deal and it came with 2 years free insurance - nice you might think, only he had only paid the deposit the monthly repayment was to go from me to his bank every month. It basically took most of my wage each month from the weekend job I had, all of it to put petrol in the tank so I couldn’t afford to do anything else except go to friends houses with it. I just remember being in 6th form and being in discussions about what everyone was doing at the weekend and I was just working to pay off my debts I hadn’t even asked for lol
Still in two minds about it now. My dad wanted me to have independence (and didn’t want to be my taxi), wanted me to learn in my own car (I passed my test a month after turning 17 so it did work) and it taught me never to go into debt again. On the other hand I missed out so much fun in my late teens…
Still in two minds about it now. My dad wanted me to have independence (and didn’t want to be my taxi), wanted me to learn in my own car (I passed my test a month after turning 17 so it did work) and it taught me never to go into debt again. On the other hand I missed out so much fun in my late teens…
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