Do you read your partners text messages?

I tend to know when my partner gets a text as it's such a rare occurence and it's usually someone wanting both of us anyway.

Most of mine are from my mum and a few from college mates, if he was that bothered he could read them but they aren't very interesting!
 
Freefaller said:
We share each other's phone, she can answer mine and vice versa and yeah we've looked through some of each other's messages when we're trying to organise things - she has no issues, I have no issues - I have her email passwords and so on, I think I've logged in once when I was trying to find an email she had sent to someone so I could get the reference number - haven't bothered to since as I can't be bothered. There are no hidden doors in our relationship.
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This is pretty much the same as my (our) relationship. I barely look through Laura's phone at all. It's all pap chain texts and jokes she forwards me anyway. She'll often look at my messages, for no particular reason. This is helpful as I ask her to delete stuff for me, general inbox house-keeping.

Unless I'd organised a surprise, there's not a problem with Laura looking at my phone, be it messages or anything else.
 
Yeah if there's a surprise going on then I'm not as open but then I just file the message somewhere else on my phone (smartphone's have their uses ;)).
 
all my previous gfs have read mine without my knowledge and iv been dropped in it for various reasons, usually its just because its a girl t hey dont know/are jealous of that im friends with and we're just chatting, once it was because i asked a girl for some advice cos i was struggling in our relationship, she took offence to it, even though id gone to her first. lol.

Dont bother with this gfs, she doesnt really get many and i trust her, if i think shes actin wierd ill have a quick check, not to put my mind at rest but just really to remove the hassle of having to make an effort if infact she was being wierd for a reason.
She thinks the sun shines out my behind though so i cant see me ever findin anythin, though i often have to wipe my messages just because i do get a lot of texts off girls.

Exs dont text me, theyd rather slit my throat :)
 
No...what is the point? If you don't trust them enough that you have to do this, then maybe you shouldn't be with then in the first place?

Friends who have done this always created unecessary worry/arguments.

I trust my OH enough for him to have his own privacy we are all entitled to that.

BB x
 
My boyfriend always deletes his messages as soon as he gets them out of habit from having an old phone that could only store 10 for a long time. I trust him not to have any messages that I wouldn't want to see anyway though and I generally don't touch his phone unless I need to or he asks me to do something. The same goes for my phone, he only checks messages if I'm driving or I specifically want him to see it.

I used to check up on my ex, but that was because I didn't trust him at all and he regularly lied to me. That was an awful relationship though, I can't see why anyone in a trusting relationship would check up on their partner.
 
I don't see it us a trust issue, it's not snooping, it's not wilfully going out of your way to read their messages. You know sometimes you just pick up their phone and start playing with it - she uses my phone if it's there, I use hers (though I find it annoying to use). It's fun sometimes just seeing what silliness they get up to - I don't really care, similarly she uses my computer and sees my emails/facebook it's just not an issue or an invasion of each other's privacy as we're quite open like that.
 
I have done on occasion.

When we first started going out she got a new phone, and was sitting next to me a week or so later trying to sort out her messages, I noticed she had quite a few from her ex in her saved messages folder on the new phone, and his number was in there after she said she deleted it.

I didn't ask her to delete his number, she just did it in front of me in case I was worried, so I was a bit suprised to see it back in there with saved messages from him.

I had a quick look through later to make sure he wasn't harassing her (he was a nutter) and also to make sure she wasn't giving him false hope and leading him up the garden path.
 
I read one once which mentioned a guy which it turned out my partner was having an affair with.

Whoops!
 
If i found my gf reading my txts i'd make her swallow the damned phone.
Such a breach of privacy.
I had a friend at work, who checked her bf's texts. I scolded her for it, but she found out he was having an affair with the next door neighbour !!!
She left him, naturally.
But i think its still wrong.
 
Freefaller said:
I don't see it us a trust issue, it's not snooping, it's not wilfully going out of your way to read their messages. You know sometimes you just pick up their phone and start playing with it - she uses my phone if it's there, I use hers (though I find it annoying to use). It's fun sometimes just seeing what silliness they get up to - I don't really care, similarly she uses my computer and sees my emails/facebook it's just not an issue or an invasion of each other's privacy as we're quite open like that.
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Again, this echoes the relationship I have.
 
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