Do you read your partners text messages?

Kerplunk said:
Another thing is, if you do find some incriminating evidence, how do u approach it?
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What i did was start shouting and then smash a door up then shout some more. Then I became a depressed little monkey for a while. :D

EDIT - Avoid ovary punching.
 
Yes I'll admit it I did look once,

She had kept certain messages from me that went all the way back to the start of the relationship which she obviously found really special. At that point I felt incredibly guilty and I have never looked again.
 
i would like to... but it would be like opening your presants before chirstmas day

if you dont find anything... you'll just feel bad
if you do... chances are you'll feel bad too
 
sometimes its not all that bad, if you suspected something if you thought they were being off i cant really say its a bad thing.
Iv currently got quite a few i must remember to delete before tommorow ... :) <-- my smile alwayssss gets me outa trouble :)
 
I don't say anything to anyone that I wouldn't say in front of her. I flirt outrageously and will keep doing so until the day I die. If she had a problem with that she still wouldn't be with me! She doesn't get jealous of my female friends no matter how rude or silly I am, and ditto with her male friends - besides I'm bigger than all of them :D :p
 
Freefaller said:
I don't see it us a trust issue, it's not snooping, it's not wilfully going out of your way to read their messages. You know sometimes you just pick up their phone and start playing with it - she uses my phone if it's there, I use hers (though I find it annoying to use). It's fun sometimes just seeing what silliness they get up to - I don't really care, similarly she uses my computer and sees my emails/facebook it's just not an issue or an invasion of each other's privacy as we're quite open like that.
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I think it can be a trust issue if the 2 people see it differently. Most people probably won't agree with me (but whats new there eh? :p ) but if 1 is fine with it and the other not, I think the one trying to hide things has a problem with openess / trust. Neither sharing is trusting I guess but being open is a lot harder than being secretive, so I think both sharing is the ideal - even if they choose to never do it.

Hope some of that made sense :o
 
My GF always reads her text messages out loud anyway.
I got a bit annoyed last night by some guy she works with asking her out.
But I should try to encourage it really seeing as I'm leaving in a month and she'll be on her own.
 
Jesmond said:
I think it can be a trust issue if the 2 people see it differently. Most people probably won't agree with me (but whats new there eh? :p ) but if 1 is fine with it and the other not, I think the one trying to hide things has a problem with openess / trust. Neither sharing is trusting I guess but being open is a lot harder than being secretive, so I think both sharing is the ideal - even if they choose to never do it.

Hope some of that made sense :o
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The question wasn't about whether you have stuff to hide though, it was if you check up on your partner. I don't have anything to hide, but I don't see why my boyfriend would look through my phone without saying something to me first.
 
Ignorance is bliss.

I never have read texts on a girlfriend's phone.

It's only going to cause worry/distrust/anxiety in my opinion, regardless if what's read reads completely above board.

in a not too dissimilar way facebook/myspace does too
 
Vixen said:
The question wasn't about whether you have stuff to hide though, it was if you check up on your partner. I don't have anything to hide, but I don't see why my boyfriend would look through my phone without saying something to me first.
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The question was if you read your partners texts and how it effects trust :) I gave my opinion.
 
We view each other's messages and calls and it has nothing to do with a lack of trust.

If anything, it shows more trust because we let each other do it without worrying about the reason why they are reading them; i.e. we trust each other enough to know that they are not being suspicious, just curious :)
 
JollyGreen said:
My GF always reads her text messages out loud anyway.
I got a bit annoyed last night by some guy she works with asking her out.
But I should try to encourage it really seeing as I'm leaving in a month and she'll be on her own.
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Shouldnt you tell your girlfriend that before posting it on here?
 
Nope, not my business.

My ex did every so often, she tried to all the time, used to wind me up as its none of her business, plus anything i didnt want her to see i deleted. Owned.

My new girl. i dont even go into hers, she gives me it to hold all the time, i just put it in my pocket, not even tempted. Id expect the same.

If a girl dosnt trust me thats her issue not mine, she should get a grip as im totally commited. and as for her phone, i dont need to touch it as i trust her, if she cheated she would be gone and she knows it, she would get caught, and she knows that to so...

All happy :D.

James
 
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