do you trust your girlfriend on holiday with her mates?

Otacon · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:25

fatiain said:
The large Scottish contingent speaks the truth.

Read that as continent at first :eek:

branddaly · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:25

Of course I'd trust her. But then I have an ego the size of a small moon, so wouldn't envisage my missus ever wanting to screw things up with me.

Since the 2nd year of going out witht he missus, we've always holidayed together anyway,

UOcUK Poopscoop · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:31

Sorry to spoil any illusions here, but just because you trust someone doesn't mean it won't happen.

Trust is just a statement on your behalf, not an indication the other person is going to get up to something or not.

Arcade Fire · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:33

cleanbluesky said:
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO

Is the short answer, the long answer is the same but has expletives at the beginning and end

It must be horrible to be as cynical as you

fatiain · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:34

Otacon said:
Read that as continent at first

He's big, but not that big!

branddaly · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:34

UOcUK Poopscoop said:
Sorry to spoil any illusions here, but just because you trust someone doesn't mean it won't happen.

Ah, but then we can get all zen and say 'if you don't know it happened did it happen?'

and if she does get caught out we can have fun saying dump the ***** she obviously isn't worth it anyway the ****.

UOcUK Poopscoop · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:34

Arcade Fire said:
It must be horrible to be as cynical as you

Perhaps he is a product of his experiences?

UOcUK Poopscoop · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:36

branddaly said:
Ah, but then we can get all zen and say 'if you don't know it happened did it happen?'

and if she does get caught out we can have fun saying dump the ***** she obviously isn't worth it anyway the ****.

Yes, you can go with the whole "ignorance is bliss" bit and hope she used protection.

Ignorance isn't bliss.

I am sure the OP will be fine though and has nothing to worry about.

(Want to end on a positive note! LOL)

branddaly · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:40

I'm not really into 'ignorance is bliss', but its a damn lot better than tearing yourself, and the relationship apart with jealously and paranoia. If an anotherhalf cheated on me the relationship is over, but I won't spend anytime worrying that it was gonna happen just because they were away from me for a few weeks. I'd just enjoy the fact that I can leave my laundry on the floor, not do any dishes till I've run out, and being able to not shave for a few days, without being nagged.

Arcade Fire · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:43

UOcUK Poopscoop said:
Perhaps he is a product of his experiences?

Aren't we all. Aren't we all...

*shakes head*

cleanbluesky · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:44

Arcade Fire said:
It must be horrible to be as cynical as you

Cynicism or realism? Human nature decides...

Oh, and did I mention NOOoooooooooooooo!!!!!

UOcUK Poopscoop · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:46

Arcade Fire said:
Aren't we all. Aren't we all...

*shakes head*

Your, what, 22?

You have a lot of experiences to come yet. Trust me.

Smit · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:46

I trust her

Arcade Fire · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:47

How could it be realism, though, when you've never met the girl in question?

Unless you're going on past experiences - but then it's a bit unfair to bring someone else down just because all of your girlfriends have wanted to sleep with other men.

cleanbluesky · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:48

UOcUK Poopscoop said:
Perhaps he is a product of his experiences?

Not at all - but when the cats away the mice will play. There is a good chance that some people on here are mature enough to do something like that, but chances are if you have to ask the question in the first place you are not wise enough to know whether your g/f will cheat on you

Arcade Fire · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:48

UOcUK Poopscoop said:
Your, what, 22?

You have a lot of experiences to come yet. Trust me.

Cool, thanks for reassuring me! I was worried that you stop having life experiences when you reach 23, so it's good that you've put my mind at rest.

fatiain · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:50

How about one of these for added reassurance?

It was a chastity belt

cleanbluesky · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:51

Arcade Fire said:
How could it be realism, though, when you've never met the girl in question?

Unless you're going on past experiences - but then it's a bit unfair to bring someone else down just because all of your girlfriends have wanted to sleep with other men.

That's a lot of unpolite assumption AF. Perhaps I shouldn't give my opinion, perhaps this thread should be titled "help believe what I want to believe" - I could have posted a long, complex social anaylsis, asked various questions about the girl and her habits, ask whether there is any trust in the first place if he has to ask such a question, and ask why she isn't going on holiday with him... but simply using a large font and saying NOOooooooooooo was easier and probably more to the point...

UOcUK Poopscoop · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:53

Arcade Fire said:
How could it be realism, though, when you've never met the girl in question?

Unless you're going on past experiences - but then it's a bit unfair to bring someone else down just because all of your girlfriends have wanted to sleep with other men.

Not sure if you are referring to me or not as you haven't quoted?

It's not about meeting the girl, it's the situation. I would think the OP must have at least a small doubt if he has taken the effort to post this topic.

Not bringing anyone down, unless she reads this forum too?

No, not all my girlfriends have wanted to sleep with someone else. Thanks for the compliment though.

Trouble is it only takes one to make you far more cynical and realistic about the temptations in life.

Has it happened to you yet?

Arcade Fire · 9 Feb 2006 at 10:55

Dude, I was kidding.

He didn't ask for your opinion on his relationship anyway, he asked for your opinion on your own. I thought that was what you were talking about!

Edit; that was to cleanbluesky.