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Diddums

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Right well, here we go. I don't usually share this kind of thing but this terrifies me so here we are.

My the TL;DR (full explanation upon request) is that the tumour in my wife's eye is growing and it looks like the removal of the eye is the only solution. This has been on the cards ever since she was 6 so it's always been a case of when, not if. As far as I'm concerned this will be good in the long run as there's a chance it could spread to the liver and ain't nobody got time fo' dat. On top of this we both use up at least 10 days a year annual leave for hospital visits and the constant uncertainty of it being there has always been in the back of our minds.

Anywaysssssss, looks like time's up so it needs out. We're slowly coming to terms with it and have even come up with some stuff to make it light hearted, we're gonna call her Mike Wazowski, or Minion, or Popeye or whatever.

Now the hard part is that it's gonna suck, there's no way around that, and it's going to hurt like a bitch at first.

I want to make this as painless and support her as much as I can during what will be one of the most difficult phases of her life and that's why I'm here asking for suggestions. She'll need a patch for a while so I'll be getting all sorts of cool funky ones but as far as ideas go that's as far as I've gotten for now.

Anyone got any ideas?

Ta :)
 
As tempting as I know you'll find it - no pirate jokes!

She got any particular interests? Or just a quirky sense of humour as I love the idea of custom patches! Even things like bloodshot eyes and whatnot on them or themed ones for times of the year.

Might be worth discussing a prosthesis with her too. She might want one. She might not. Support her whichever way she goes.

Still refrain from pirate jokes.

Perhaps some bond villain ones are ok though.
 
The floodgates for the jokes are wide open so have at it. Her eye looks like **** now anyway so a prosthetic will definitely be an improvement. She love Lego, maybe I should find a lego themed eyepatch or something.

Other ideas for eye patches are Terminator, and one which looks like it's got a spider living in it with the legs sticking out the eye socket. That'd be awesome.
 
So long as you and her avoid terribad sunglasses I think anything will look fine. Obviously it's hard to judge not having gone through it myself but I really don't think things like that or missing limbs etc. Carry the same kind of negative stigma they used to. They really can be embraced as part of a person's character and style.

No pirate jokes.
 
I imagine, like women I’ve known who have had a breast removed or lost their hair through chemo, she may feel less attractive or insecure. Best thing you can do is continue to tell her how much you love her, how attractive you find her and that there’ll never be anyone for you that compares to her and things will be just fine.
 
BigT said:
I imagine, like women I’ve known who have had a breast removed or lost their hair through chemo, she may feel less attractive or insecure. Best thing you can do is continue to tell her how much you love her, how attractive you find her and that there’ll never be anyone for you that compares to her and things will be just fine.
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She knows I love her. It's our 10 year anniversary and I bought her a pack of those new tangy wine gums so we're good.

I was also just in the tub when I whatsapped her, said "beer, gogogo" and when I got out the tub there was a nice fresh Kronenbourg on my desk, so I must be doing something right.

But yes, you make a good point. My mother had a double mastectomy and it took her ages to get past the appearance thing.
 
Diddums said:
Yes, full prosthetic, full movement, the lot. Doc says it'll look better than her current (messed up) eye, but then he's paid to say that so whatever.
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I believe it, my uncles wifes... cousin? *shrug* was born with some condition that meant the eye had to be removed, prosthetic in place and short of banging foreheads together you cant tell.
 
sorry to hear that mate :(

I guess the main thing you can do is simply be there and offer reassurance... I mean she's not going to need to look like a pirate full time! For example former PM Gordon Brown lost and eye/had a glass eye and people generally wouldn't have known if they hadn't heard about it/been told etc..
 
Diddums said:
Right well, here we go. I don't usually share this kind of thing but this terrifies me so here we are.

My the TL;DR (full explanation upon request) is that the tumour in my wife's eye is growing and it looks like the removal of the eye is the only solution. This has been on the cards ever since she was 6 so it's always been a case of when, not if. As far as I'm concerned this will be good in the long run as there's a chance it could spread to the liver and ain't nobody got time fo' dat. On top of this we both use up at least 10 days a year annual leave for hospital visits and the constant uncertainty of it being there has always been in the back of our minds.

Anywaysssssss, looks like time's up so it needs out. We're slowly coming to terms with it and have even come up with some stuff to make it light hearted, we're gonna call her Mike Wazowski, or Minion, or Popeye or whatever.

Now the hard part is that it's gonna suck, there's no way around that, and it's going to hurt like a bitch at first.

I want to make this as painless and support her as much as I can during what will be one of the most difficult phases of her life and that's why I'm here asking for suggestions. She'll need a patch for a while so I'll be getting all sorts of cool funky ones but as far as ideas go that's as far as I've gotten for now.

Anyone got any ideas?

Ta :)
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Surely **** loads of painkillers will help with the pain?


Also good man ^_^
 
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Diddums said:
The floodgates for the jokes are wide open so have at it. Her eye looks like **** now anyway so a prosthetic will definitely be an improvement. She love Lego, maybe I should find a lego themed eyepatch or something.

Other ideas for eye patches are Terminator, and one which looks like it's got a spider living in it with the legs sticking out the eye socket. That'd be awesome.
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Picture of a raven on the patch, a cloak and a broad-rimmed hat. Spear optional. Eight-legged horse a bit difficult to find, but that can be explained away as moving with the times in terms of transport and using a car instead. Same goes for the actual ravens - nowadays a phone is better for obtaining news.

If she's going to town with the eye patch stuff, Odin's a possibility. The wise one, the knower of things...not a bad angle. Maybe just on Wednesdays :)
 
Angilion said:
Picture of a raven on the patch, a cloak and a broad-rimmed hat. Spear optional. Eight-legged horse a bit difficult to find, but that can be explained away as moving with the times in terms of transport and using a car instead. Same goes for the actual ravens - nowadays a phone is better for obtaining news.

If she's going to town with the eye patch stuff, Odin's a possibility. The wise one, the knower of things...not a bad angle. Maybe just on Wednesdays :)
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Nick Fury is a good contestant tbh. 'Cos hell hath no fury etc.

Malevolence said:
Elle Driver nurse outfit for sexy time.
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Ha! This is a fantastic suggestion :D
 
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