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your one up on a lot of people of similar age who are still stuck at home. you have a pretty good job.
I think something happens to us when we hit our thirties. When I reached 33 I looked long and hard at where I was going and where I wanted to be. Left my long time partner of 13 years, took redundancy and started again and now at 43 the last 10 years have been the best 10 of my life.
I'm 36 in November, have a good job, nice house, car, motorbike and pretty much everything I need.
I'm thinking of giving it all up to go travelling and being over 30 means working in America and Australia is hard so I'll be spending my savings. For me my 30's have been my best years by far and will only get better
I'm thinking of giving it all up to go travelling and being over 30 means working in America and Australia is hard so I'll be spending my savings. For me my 30's have been my best years by far and will only get better
I'm 25, single and still live at home with no savings. My biological clock is ticking and there is no sight of any men in my life at the moment
Same as me but male instead
here's a suggestion....
Not to put a damper on the "30 is young to get married" angle but...
I got married at 19, no she wasn't pregnant , also got a mortgage the same year, had kids almost four and five years later, and yeah sometimes it may well have been weird not going out every night with mates p*$$**g my cash up a wall.....now at 42 I have two grown up lads, one at uni, and one in his final year of sixth form, still happily married to the same girl I met all those years ago.....and the big plus factor for me now ? Well I look back at the same mates who may have laughed behind my back "married at 19 lol" and I see them with big mortgages, years left to run with it....me, I got a little over two years left to pay on mine and its literally peanuts at the moment.
So bottom line is you don't need to follow the trend, do what's right for you and look back in 20 years or so and see where you are then...as you get older you take a different view of things.
I got married at 19, no she wasn't pregnant
, also got a mortgage the same year, had kids almost four and five years later, and yeah sometimes it may well have been weird not going out every night with mates p*$$**g my cash up a wall.....now at 42 I have two grown up lads, one at uni, and one in his final year of sixth form, still happily married to the same girl I met all those years ago.....and the big plus factor for me now ? Well I look back at the same mates who may have laughed behind my back "married at 19 lol" and I see them with big mortgages, years left to run with it....me, I got a little over two years left to pay on mine and its literally peanuts at the moment.So bottom line is you don't need to follow the trend, do what's right for you and look back in 20 years or so and see where you are then...as you get older you take a different view of things.
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You played the long game and it looks like you won
And 42 is plenty young enough to enjoy the rest of your life despite the "you want to enjoy life while you are young" brigade. As Aleksandr Orlov says, congratulayshuuuuuuuns!!!Enjoy your probable early retirement, years of no mortgage and fine living that comes with it all.
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I think that one of life's biggest lessons is to learn how to be happy with what you have.
I am 44, have a wife I love, two children who are happy and healthy. We live in a lovely village in a 4 bedroomed terraced house dating from 1820. Total household income is about £50k and we have about a £80K mortgage and two cars both over 4 years old.
If you had asked me when I was 30 would I have been happy - I would have wanted more money, a bigger house, better cars.
But now I value things differently - you cannot buy time. The key for me is balancing work/life, far too many people (IMO) put too much priority on the work part. Am I happy - yeah most of the time and when I'm not I am learning to look at what is around me and get a grip.
A poor man can be rich just by being happy with what he has.
I am 44, have a wife I love, two children who are happy and healthy. We live in a lovely village in a 4 bedroomed terraced house dating from 1820. Total household income is about £50k and we have about a £80K mortgage and two cars both over 4 years old.
If you had asked me when I was 30 would I have been happy - I would have wanted more money, a bigger house, better cars.
But now I value things differently - you cannot buy time. The key for me is balancing work/life, far too many people (IMO) put too much priority on the work part. Am I happy - yeah most of the time and when I'm not I am learning to look at what is around me and get a grip.
A poor man can be rich just by being happy with what he has.
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I'm 25, single and still live at home with no savings. My biological clock is ticking and there is no sight of any men in my life at the moment
Oh well, at least I have a good job and a nice-ish car
How you doing?
I'm 20 i was hoping to have 7 wives and 31 children by now but alas it was not to be!
Not to put a damper on the "30 is young to get married" angle but...
I got married at 19, no she wasn't pregnant
So bottom line is you don't need to follow the trend, do what's right for you and look back in 20 years or so and see where you are then...as you get older you take a different view of things.
Agreed, You played the long game and it looks like you won. Well Done
I’m only 27 myself but I have a few friends round about the same age as you and they lost. Some are now divorced, going through one or have multiple kids by different people, trying to get back what they missed when they was in a long term relationship.On the bright side...
1. Married - lets be honest, a wife tells you what to do and can withhold sex from you.
2. Child - 18+ year responsibility and a money sink hole.
3. House - A mortgage is an anchor around your neck.
Number 1. can take 2. and 3. from you and expect you to continue paying for them.
You have a pretty good job and I assume a reasonable amount of money yet you have none of the negatives above, life is good man, enjoy it
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How you doing?
I'm 20 i was hoping to have 7 wives and 31 children by now but alas it was not to be!
Stop stealing my lines!
(See a few posts up!)
Amen to this, my eldest is at Wolverhampton uni, 5 mins on the train from home, my other half wonders why he shows no interest in a part time job......I know the reason....its cos she won't have any board money off him cos her dad never did off her, when she was his age ! So muggins here covers all costs.....suppose its only money !
Mates at work are having kids in their early twenties......that was the last thing I would have wanted at that age.
Even now at 7-8 years older, I'm only coming round to the idea of a wife and kids.
In my early twenties, my priorty was getting my career on track and saving up a large deposit for a house, which I doubt I'd have been able to do if I had kids in tow.
Each to their own really, no right or wrong way.
Even now at 7-8 years older, I'm only coming round to the idea of a wife and kids.
In my early twenties, my priorty was getting my career on track and saving up a large deposit for a house, which I doubt I'd have been able to do if I had kids in tow.
Each to their own really, no right or wrong way.