Getting on ! To those over 40yr olds.

im 43 and i cant even be bothered to finish thi.......................... ;)

wife and kids bleeding me dry, mortgage making me skint, work a pain in the ass "everyone's a designer" apart from that life's as crap as it's always been at least im closer to death now YAY!!!

call me a pessimist lol

You're the most optimistic person in this thread :)
 
Approaching the big 4-0 later this year and whilst I've always said "i'm only a day older than the day before" I've definitely noticed a few key indicators that my body doesn't just want to keep going the way it has in the past!

The gym is a prime example - I remember being well out of shape in my mid-to-late twenties and I decided to do something about it - it took me about 3 months of going to the gym and I was as fit as a fiddle.

Now I go to the gym 3-4 times a week and I can't see it making any difference at all! :(
 
im 43 and i cant even be bothered to finish thi.......................... ;)

wife and kids bleeding me dry, mortgage making me skint, work a pain in the ass "everyone's a designer" apart from that life's as crap as it's always been at least im closer to death now YAY!!!

call me a pessimist lol

You and me brother :D

I'm 42 and knackered, but partly because I work nights.
 
41 and happier than i have been for most of my adult life - i care less what other people think off me, id say im fitter than i was in my 20's but i was a mega fat slob in my 20's and early 30's.

Other than problem with my knees i feel better than ever. I do however worry a lot about death at night, something i cant control and dont worry about at any other time of the day, i literally just jump awake with a jolt worrying about how much time I have left then cant get back to sleep but Ive kinda done that throughout my life.
 
I was 48 this year, I don't feel it, same weight as when I left school, all my own hair although some greyish bits are appearing.

I'm more chilled than 20 years ago, hobbies are different, I still game but not online any more, mostly RPGs, Skyrim, Fallout etc.

All in all quite content, hope it stays that way as 50 is perilously close...
 
Diminishing eyesight and middle aged spread :(
And grey hairs!

This, not to mention said hairs on my head are falling out.

I watch what I eat more these days. Aches & pains get worse with each passing year :( I now have two pairs of glasses, one for distance & one for reading.

I'm more cynical now than when I was younger, I suppose that comes with age. :p
 
Turned forty in May. Things I've noticed:
- My knees creek, all the joints in my feet make crackling noises as if I were stomping on bubble wrap, doctors say ninja career is no longer in the cards.
- When I smile to girls while walking down the street, they no longer give me the second look then lose interest, they now make that "eww... creepy old man" face and speed up.
- Gaming, is not that interesting any more, but then again, gaming has not moved forward for better part of a decade. Crysis in 2007 and then just cack.
- I'm still 25 on the inside. I have fashion sense of a 25 year old in late nineties, I feel the music ended in late nineties, girls were prettier, grass was greener.
- Technology in my eyes is going backwards. Poor functionality, bad design and terrible lifespan. But this time you can't throw money at it, overpaying for goods no longer guarantees quality, durability or functionality.
- 21st century will be century without memories. No dusty pictures in family albums, no yellow tinged photos on local pub walls. No hand written love letters, no first page polemics. This century will be remembered for gazillions of pictures, posts, interviews, letters and articles forever purged from caches and lost to expired domains, failed dotcoms and redesigned websites serving 404 pages to search engine links. Two high school buddies of mine were once very prominent figures among IT, motorcycling and mountain cycling community. They run online magazines and forums, owned stores, distributed gear, sponsored and won competitions, posted millions of National Geographic grade photographs from their national and international tours. Less than a decade back one died of cancer, the other one was killed in car accident. Within few years everything to do with them vanished from the net. Expired, redesigned, took over, turned into cybersquatting or simply gone down with dot com moving forward with time. Googling their names now doesn't even bring up old school pages or photos. We are all so quickly forgotten in the age of information.
- Kids. They annoy me. It started in mid 30ies. The older I got the less point I see to them. They're like those throw pillows - you know, the pillow sets that your wife buys to put on the couch or pile on top of bed - cost money, have no other function that to sit on the couch/bed, watch your TV, take up space, be always on the way and never be where you want them to and do what you expected them to.
 
No one has mentioned getting up in the middle of the night yet? :(

Once an hour - seriously, I forgot about the diabetes :(
It's not fair because ever since I've been a member here I've been running marathons/half marathons and cycling, I have one bottle of beer a week and my diet is OK.

Congratulations to your daughter Dimple!

I should say finally I can play Surfin with the Alien by Joe Satriani note perfect - only took me 22 years ...

Thanks

Funnily enough around 5 years ago when I was made redundant I decided to learn the whole of Surfing With The Alien and Whiskey In The Jar solos, they weren't note perfect though.
And that's another thing, on stage I now find I'm shaking my hand after every song or squeezing it :(
 
I'm 41 and feel pretty much the same as the OP + sciatica.

Anway, I'm off to bed, it's way past my bedtime.
 
I now find I'm shaking my hand after every song or squeezing it :(

I do that too. I have to be careful to intermix what I play with some slower stuff more tonal eg Santana. I am finding I get pretty bad RSI type pain when I do chords that are exaggerated horizontally over the fretboard. Maybe it's a sign I need to switch to drums. As for Surfin with the Alien - go for Day at the Beach it is easier, causes less pain and looks infinitely cooler.
 
I don't feel that much different in my mind from when I was a 20 something, my body tells me otherwise, feel like a sack of crap first thing in the morning and everything seems to creak. Otherwise, had a varifocal prescription for the first time last year and I can't read anything with small print without massive eyestrain. I just can't read your average paperback anymore, it has to be large print. Just like the old folks in the library whiling away their hours. :(
 
41 here, also happily married with kids. Agree with almost everything in the OP bar the risk taking - spent my whole life not taking risks, playing everything safe etc. At this point I'm a bit too prone to thinking "screw it, what's the worst that could happen?".
 
Turning 40 this year and I can see traits both positive and negative I recognise in these posts.

Pros:

Much more comfortable in my own skin than in my younger years. Helps I'm married to a woman who I adore.

Get up earlier and enjoy more of the day. I also find pleasure in some of the simpler things in life which has lead to healthier and less expensive pastimes like gardening, cooking and walking the newly acquired dog.

At my prime work wise in terms of plenty of experience but not past it.

Can afford things that I still enjoy from my youth like owning and driving fast cars.

More aware of my health - stopped smoking going cold turkey after 20 years and dropped a stone in weight through simple adjustments to lifestyle.

Cons:

Hair growing where you don't want it (ears and nose) and thinning where it doesn't matter (legs)

Eyesight, which was never good, is getting worse

Find it difficult to find common ground with the early 20 somethings at work.

In terms of communication I've always thought face to face is preferable to the phone is preferable to email is preferable to other text based communication in terms of getting one's point across - mainly because I can talk faster than I can type. I realise this is becoming old fashioned but it grates me people Skype each other across the office and miss the point when they could have a chat. I also think text speak has led to shocking written ability in the modern workforce. However I also think I probably need to adjust this view.

Worry about my parents who I thought were invincible and would live forever

I always prided myself on an eclectic taste in music but more and more I find myself becoming distant from the charts and what is popular. Most of it seems a poor derivative of something invented in the previous 50 years. However I am also self aware enough to know that people were probably saying that about music in every era.
 
Needing reading glasses :(

Computer work is all fine, but I swear the print on labels is getting smaller. Do they think they're saving ink by printing smaller ???
 
I'm lucky that I don't look my age. If I were to shave my stubble/beard (depends on how long I've left it) I could knock a few more years off.

But if you look a little closer: More grey hair, but I shave closer to hide it (12mm - 9mm - 6mm); A few grey/white hairs appearing in my beard; hair in nose/ears getting longer; I can't get up or sit down without groaning, or joints (esp. back) complaining; hangovers getting worse and worse, to the point I don't drink very often as I can't enjoy it thinking of the hangover to come; getting worse and worse at FPS (everyone on Titanfall is a cheating ****ing h4x0r!!!!111

Getting depressed, need to turn this around...

The older I get, the more content I am. Much like other people have mentioned. I care less about what people think of me, especially people that don't matter, e.g. strangers, colleagues, but rely on family and a close circle of friends to keep me on track and grounded.

I live for my family, for my kids. I look at them and see the untapped potential and get excited for them. Practically everything I now do is done for them.
 
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I'm 28 and relating to far more of this than I'm comfortable with :p
That said, as of this year I'm in much better health/fitness than I have been in ages, I was a fatty as a teen, still a bit to lose but nearly there
 
I'm sure that 10yrs+ ago there was never this amount of over 40's on here ?

That's because forum - as a form of communication, is a dying format exercised mostly by older internauts. For starters it requires the poster to actually hold opinions, express them in more than 140 characters and shape them into full sentences. ;)
 
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