Girlfriend doesn't want me to work as a doorman?

Buchanan0204

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I'm thinking of doing my SIA course and becoming a doorman, just for the extra income really and a bit of security ;) Excuse the terrible pun.

However, she's not so keen on the idea and doesn't want me hanging around drunk girls all night.

I can see her point, but then she should see mine. I'm not going to cheat on her or have any intentions of doing so.

If the roles were reversed. I'd be a little edgy, but I'd soon get over it as I know she wouldn't do anything like that to me, like I wouldn't do to her.

So... what would you do if it was you?
 
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maybe not so serious answer - do the course and work as a doorman only at guys only gay bars, therefore no girls

a bit more serious - ask yourself how much the extra income will benefit both of you and will the time spent working outweigh and issues it could bring to the relationship? ie if you're off working every friday/saturday night when she wants time with you, how will that affect things?
 
I'm assuming that the question you asked in the thread title isn't a question at all, since your post answers it (she doesn't want you to work as a doorman).

With that assumption, in your shoes I'd like to know why she didn't want me hanging around drunk women at night. Either she doesn't trust you with other women or she's concerned that you'll be attacked by drunk women. It would matter to me which of those is true, but it's up to you how much it matters to you.
 
Time spent apart wouldn't be an issue as we're both self employed and spend enough time together anyway.

She's concerned I give in to temptation. In her eyes drunk good looking filthy girls in mini skirts are going to be chatting me up and propositioning me. She thinks I'll struggle to resist.

Of course I can't see this happening anyway! If it did, I'm quite sure I could hold myself back to keep my conscience clear. I'm not one for living with guilt and always try and do the right thing when it matters. A firm believer in Karma, although she think that's also made up :p
 
I'm going to reply with what I say to most threads in GD.

Man the **** up and do what you think is best.

There is no way some stranger on a forum is going to give you advice on how to handle your girlfriend who is also unknown to them.
 
Buchanan0204 said:
She's concerned I give in to temptation. In her eyes drunk good looking filthy girls in mini skirts are going to be chatting me up and propositioning me. She thinks I'll struggle to resist.
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This is the problem. You need to find out why she feels this way, if she has any valid reason for feeling this way, and then to stop her feeling this way.

You have three choices:

1) Stop her feeling this way, then become a doorman.
2) Become a doorman regardless of her feelings, and have more trust issues.
3) Leave her, then become a doorman and a gigolo.
 
I wasn't aware you had to do a course to be a doorman. Oh well, learn something new and what not...

I was actually thinking she was going to object because she was worried you were going to get beat up....

Her reason is all down to how much she trusts you....

kd
 
If she can't trust you to be a doorman i can't see how she would trust you to go to the gym/supermarket/book store/car wash we all know from porn those lead to sex.
 
asim18 said:
This is the problem. You need to find out why she feels this way, if she has any valid reason for feeling this way, and then to stop her feeling this way.
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She's probably been that girl in a mini skirt trying to chat-up door men :p

In seriousness, some of the story's I've heard from my doormen friends i can understand the womans objections but she should be able to trust you at the end of the day :)
 
Seriously is it really that easy as a bouncer to get with the drunk girls? I never see it happen ever, and most people I know hate Bouncers and wouldn't touch them :p

I could understand it if you were going to be some sort of Male Stripper, but being a Bouncer? I don't geddit :p
 
You're more likely to get a smashed glass in your face than to get noshed off. I think she has aligned herself with the wrong concerns.
 
Skidder said:
You're more likely to get a smashed glass in your face than to get noshed off. I think she has aligned herself with the wrong concerns.
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This. Having had a fair few friends working doors and they end up home alone nursing a fat lip / black eye / bruised rubs rather than with some drunken women.
 
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