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[carpmaster]

Perhaps something has happened in the past between this woman and your wife and she wants to get one over?

Perhaps this woman had no idea that the aerial guy who's number she was given, was actually the husband of the friend who gave it?

Either way I can't see the problem. She offered it to you, you turned it down.

You've done nothing wrong so what's the problem?

 

[DavidB]

thanks hedge for your help.
but why has all this happend she is a mate off my wife.why would she do this

Shes probably one of those women that just gets her kicks off sleeping with her workmates husbands... personally i'd tell my wife in your situation and expose her for who she really is, might cause fireworks in your wifes office, but better than letting her get away with it with other people.

 

[rubin1961]

my wife gave her my number so she knows who iam

 

[Nix]

So, to sum up, you've doing absolutely nothing wrong. Rather, you rejected said woman for the sake of your marriage and now you're about to have a nervous breakdown because your wife happens to know her?

Get a bloody hold of yourself!

Speak to your wife and put it all behind you.

 

[sigma]

Without sounding harsh, I think you need to go and see a psychiatrist. Seriously.

 

[bledd]

my wife gave her my number so she knows who iam

but did she say "here's my husband's number, he's an aerial fitter"

 

[PaulStat]

yes i remember she looks different with clothes on.

fixed

 

[rubin1961]

somthings wrong somewere but as carpmaster said has somthing happend between my wife and her

 

[rubin1961]

yes she knows iam her husband

 

[MookJong]

I really don't understand why you haven't operated 100% honesty from the start. You love your wife and kids, you have nothing to hide, so what is the problem.

If some bloke you worked with had made sexual advances on your wife, would you rather she kept it a secret....I think not.

 

[PaulStat]

somthings wrong somewere but as carpmaster said has somthing happend between my wife and her

christs sakes just tell her, sounds like she took the news pretty well when you first told her. Sounds like the woman might get her arsed kicked by your wife anyway, which would be good to watch

 

[Hedge]

if its your wifes boss, uh oh! shes gonna get sacked

if your wife is her boss, uh oh, da bitch goes down!

 

[sigma]

I think you have issues. Why can't you openly speak to your wife about this? Why are you losing sleep? Do you get scared when you hear thunder and lightening or heavy rain?

Would you like it if your mates tried it on with your wife and she didn't tell you?

Can't believe we're having to spell it out to you... and you're still not getting it.

 

[rubin1961]

ok i tell my wife and she kicks off at work and looses her job.
NO WAY i have to sort it out somehow myself.
yes i loose sleep because its on my mind not all people are the same.
this **** has happend and i need to know how to deal with it but at the moment i dont know how.

 

[Hedge]

Tell your wife. I think the other woman would be more inclined to quit due to embarrassment than anything else.

Youve dug yourself deeper into this hole by looking at the photo and not going "Holy crap thats the crazy lass that got naked to try to pay me!"

you are making matters 10x worse for yourself. For christ sake tell your wife before she jumps to wrong conclusions and you are kicked out of your house!

 

[sigma]

Well you obviously don't seem mentally strong enough to deal with things yourself, how on earth is an internet forum (the majority of which is telling you to tell your wife) going to help??

I'd suggest to go and see a friend (if you aren't too scared to cross the road) or get some councelling.

Or maybe, just maybe tell the wife. This started 8 ( !!!! ) months ago!! How long do you intend to let it go on? What if this woman says that you tried it on with her ? Then what?

I'm tryin not to sound too harsh but you're making this a lot harder for yourself and it'll probably end up in tears.

Edit: it'll end up in tears because you are keeping things from your wife, which, given the situation, is idiotic.

 

[ScarySquirrel]

I can't believe this is still going on.

Get a grip and just talk to her for ****s sake!!

 

[MookJong]

ok i tell my wife and she kicks off at work and looses her job.
NO WAY i have to sort it out somehow myself.
yes i loose sleep because its on my mind not all people are the same.
this **** has happend and i need to know how to deal with it but at the moment i dont know how.

Are you for real?

I'm not married but I'm in a long term relationship and if this happened to me I'd have more respect for my GF than to keep this a secret ESPECIALLY as this person works with her.

Don't you see this as an attack on your relationship? Me and my GF are a team, I know for a fact we would work together to get this sorted out.

Show your wife some ******* respect.

 

[Hedge]

HOLY CRAP the first post was from JANUARY!?!

i thought this had ran for a couple of weeks, shows how ive lost track of time!.

Christ just forget it ever happened and get on with your life. It will never come back up again!

this is pathetic

 

[Things change I've changed]

Tell your wife. I think the other woman would be more inclined to quit due to embarrassment than anything else.

You've dug yourself deeper into this hole by looking at the photo and not going "Holy crap that's the crazy lass that got naked to try to pay me!"

you are making matters 10x worse for yourself. For Christ sake tell your wife before she jumps to wrong conclusions and you are kicked out of your house!

Listen to this man, especially the bold part.

Because you haven't manned up and told your wife your now lying to her instead, is that the right thing to do is it ?, you know what woman are like, she will end up being madder at you for lying to her rather than getting mad at the person that got naked for you, tell her the truth.