Going clubbing alone?
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whoa, your not their no1 priority all the time, i would have expected them to go out to celebrate your birthday, but as for being there all the time, i cant say you'll get that. maybe like others have said expand the amount of friends you have?Sem said:
There's nothing sad about going out on your own, in fact, I'd go so far as to say I admire you for it. Far too many people waste their lives and the oppurtunties they get because they're too nervous to go out on their own, they rely on unreliable mates. You've got the get up and go to do what you want to do and don't let some stupid social etiquette about having to have drunk mates to back you up get in the way 
Sem said:Hi
I'm in a bit of a predictment
i have these 3 mates and nearly every Friday for the last 4-5 years we have gone out clubbing
but a few months ago one of my mates got a GF
not just any GF he thinks she might be "the one"
anyway it was left with just the 3 of us going (he would come along sometimes but rarely)
anyway 4 weeks ago another one of my mates got a GF and now he hardly comes out anymore as she likes to keep him on a tight leash
and then 2 weeks ago my last mate found a new love interest at work and now he doesn't want to come out anymore
so here we are on another Friday (also my birthday
i can either stay at home or go clubbing alone
I'm pretty quiet and shy and find it hard to try and chat up girls if my mates arnt there to back me up if you get what i mean
you think i should go?
would it mate me look pathetic to the women if I'm out alone
thanks
Welcome to my world mate. Same this has happened every year for the last 3 now I think.
Never been to a club alone and likely never will. Can't imagine anything worse to be honest. Not many people in yer average club appreciate some lone random bloke coming up and chatting to them and latching on all night, and many would wonder why this bloke was out by himself in the first place.
I'd suggest making new friends via hobbies or other activities and THEN going clubbing again. That's just me though.
I'd suggest making new friends via hobbies or other activities and THEN going clubbing again. That's just me though.
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Did they know it was your birthday? Daft question but sometimes people need reminding of such things...
I do know how you feel, I've been let down badly by mates more than once, but there's little point in getting angry and feeling sorry for yourself. Talk to your friends, tell them how you feel, chances are they'll not have realised and once they do will do everything they can (within reason) to make it up.
I do know how you feel, I've been let down badly by mates more than once, but there's little point in getting angry and feeling sorry for yourself. Talk to your friends, tell them how you feel, chances are they'll not have realised and once they do will do everything they can (within reason) to make it up.
Nix said:
im sorry but that's a bunch of crap. you'll never have chance of getting in a decent relationship thinking like that!! assuming that's what you want, how's someone you could potentially spend the rest of your life with going to feel if she's second best to mates?! i love my mates, but we all know that when you get a girl, and it gets really serious, you have to make sacrifices, and we'd just see each other less.
we always go out for each other's birthdays though. that sucks in the OP. hope you had a good night mate...your friends sound like they're being a bit harsh tbh, i'd be pretty upset in your situation.
Rich_L said:Go out dude!!
I went clubbing in Koko in Camden on my own a couple of months ago, ended up pulling a hawt Aussie chick
It's so sweet, you get attention from chicks just cos you are on your own, so take full advantage of it and wrap 'em round your finger (or any other appendage!)
Was out last night in the bierkeller in Brizzle and i was thinking of you, no not like that,
but no was just people watching for a bit ad this kid walks up to these two birds and high fives them both, and instantly i thought of you and chuckled to myself 
But yea going out on your own aint that bad, it just forces you to talk to people, although i never go out on my own i just take my mate tommy, as frankly i may as well be alone, as he's a man of few words.
Agree with most of sic's post as well, i do need both around though as i generally chat about far more interesting things with my mates than any woman i have ever met, but sacrifices do have to be made.
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IMO there's plenty of places it's cool to go out by yourself. There's always the quiet local pubs where you can prop up the bar and chat to whoever's about, or there's the clubs and the rock shows. I wouldn't go out and get ****** in town by myself because everyone's there in their groups, set up at tables etc, but seeing a band or going for a minor rave... No problem! Just don't try any funny drugs or get paralytic.