Have you ever been in a long term relationship based purely on someone's personality?

I'd never want to be with someone purely for physical attractiveness. But wouldn't want to be with a total munter either :p

There has to be compatibility personality wise.
 
A lot of women let themselves go once they are married with a kid or two. I know a woman who was a total stunner until she got married and had two kids, now she bears no resemblance to the beautiful young woman of 4 years ago.

Not that I have aged well, mind <LOL>
 
Not at all, I couldn’t be with someone I didn’t find attractive.
I wouldn’t ‘fake it’ either.
 
fez said:
I mean, isn't that the difference between friends and your partner. If you aren't physically attracted to them in any way then just be friends.

Anyone who says people are shallow if they date people because of attraction in any way are complete numpties who are either not dating someone or so holier than thou that they have bigger issues than attracting a partner.
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Its always been someone what "fashionable?" to pretend and say "looks don't matter".

But although it does happen some times its very rare. And potentially a lot of those are kinks anyway! :D
 
413x said:
Its always been someone what "fashionable?" to pretend and say "looks don't matter".

But although it does happen some times its very rare. And potentially a lot of those are kinks anyway! :D
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Its all a package. You are rich, add a point or 2. You're filthy rich, add 5 points. Charismatic, add a few points. Confident, add a few points. Basic hygiene covered? Keep your base points :p

The most baffling argument I hear to try and back this up is the old "if your partner gets fat and you don't find them attractive any more then you are clearly shallow". I don't find fat women attractive for many reasons, one part of it is purely physical. Also, letting yourself get fat if your partner isn't attracted to fat women isn't caring about them either. Goes both ways.
 
Chris Wilson said:
A lot of women let themselves go once they are married with a kid or two. I know a woman who was a total stunner until she got married and had two kids, now she bears no resemblance to the beautiful young woman of 4 years ago.

Not that I have aged well, mind <LOL>
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That's the thing, match people who match your standards, I am past caring about looks as it was my father who used to rip my mother to shreds and claimed he was so much better looking, used her and abused her too.
In a healthy household the choice is much more a choice, my life has had a lot of outside "Things you have no control over"

At the same time we can't control aging either and centering control so much that we stop enjoying life, I mean there is a thread where people cannot even get a woman... wonder why?
 
For me, on the attractive side, nice eyes, smile and dress sense. I don't like fetishes, so no leather fetish, stockings, foot fetish etc. Just a well dressed lady. Then outside of the visual side of things, it's how well we get on with each other that is important.
 
Id say an amazing personality can add up to 3 points on the stupid /10 scale, but I still probably need a base physical attraction of 6.
 
Physical attraction is important but just like personality and intelligence alone it is not enough. It's always had to be a blend for me.

Bearing in mind that attraction and looks are subjective as well.

As long as they make you happy and that you feel content and secure in your relationship nothing else matters really.

Though I keep myself fit and sexy AF because middle aged men all seem to let themselves go - I refuse to give in to "dadbod" :D
 
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