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Right I will be blunt. She does not want you.
All the "friends" stuff is just to soften the blow. It is over, stop clinging onto any idea you have of beings friends and getting back with her like many people do in the many threads like this that are posted.
You are 22 there are loads of women out there.
All the "friends" stuff is just to soften the blow. It is over, stop clinging onto any idea you have of beings friends and getting back with her like many people do in the many threads like this that are posted.
You are 22 there are loads of women out there.
Being with a girl for so long from the age of 16 rarely works out. After 3.5 years she probably just wants to go out and have fun, with no ties, all that which she couldn't do before. She missed out on 16-19 and as a result just wants out.
I'd break contact with her completely, it's for the best.
I'd break contact with her completely, it's for the best.
I can sympathise with this, i felt exactly the same way about my ex but she probably feels different and despite how much you love her she probably won't realise that until your not there anymore,
Don't make the mistake of holding on and asking for her back, give her space and let her make up her own mind, try to get on with your own life, you obviously have an important year ahead of you so try to get yourself prepared mentally for that.
Its hard and the first few days and weeks are the worse, and i wish i could say it was gonna be easy but the truth is it won't be, but in time u'll move on.
Anyways i notice your from staffs, so i'm guessing u go staffs uni, so if you ever fancy a beer or need a friend give us a shout fella.
Another vote for cutting all contact mate. Once you've both moved on with your lives, you can make the conscious decision to get back in touch as friends if you want to.
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Also, I've been on the other end of this situation, and it's not strictly correct when people say "they won't realise what they've lost until you've met someone else". It's not always the case. Sometimes you know *exactly* what you've got, and it makes the decision even harder because you don't want to end it unnecessarily, but you're sure there's something wrong and you need to go out on a limb and experiment with it.
I've ended things with a girl of 5 years after we were crazy about eachother, but things didn't feel right for me, and even now I feel like I made the right decision. She's met someone else, so have I, and we're both happy.
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Also, I've been on the other end of this situation, and it's not strictly correct when people say "they won't realise what they've lost until you've met someone else". It's not always the case. Sometimes you know *exactly* what you've got, and it makes the decision even harder because you don't want to end it unnecessarily, but you're sure there's something wrong and you need to go out on a limb and experiment with it.
I've ended things with a girl of 5 years after we were crazy about eachother, but things didn't feel right for me, and even now I feel like I made the right decision. She's met someone else, so have I, and we're both happy.
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It sucks, but unfortunately that's life. Most (I won't say all) people go through this at some point, and it hurts like hell, turns your life upside down for a while and the only thing you can do is cut as much contact as possible, and move on.
It doesn't really ever stop hurting either, just hurts less as time goes by.
It doesn't really ever stop hurting either, just hurts less as time goes by.
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least you dont have a house/mortage when you found out!
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I've been in a similar situation, my ex and I were together since we were 14/15 for over 4 years, and we basically were best friends, but she didn't love me in that way. That was back in march, and I'll tell you it's going to be hard for a while, there will be points when you feel strong to move on, and others where you want her back so badly. As others have said, you need to see what life is like without her, be yourself, be single (going on the rebound will probably not help, at least in my experience). It helped that my ex was on her gap trip at the time (so I didn't see her for 3 months after she broke up with me...bitch).
That too.
That too.
As soon as I started reading this my first thought was I bet she is young. The problem is that you have been with her since she was 16. All her mates will be free and single and she probably wants to get out there and live some more before deciding to settle on one person.
You should be doing the same
You should be doing the same
I know how hard it is (recently had my fiancee do something similar), but the above just isn't true, and you cannot make it true.
People change and grow, sometimes in different directions.
To quote my ex, which I think is a somewhat valid analogy, is that everyone has a contract, an almost predetermined amount of time and impact they will have on someone's life.
If it was meant to be, it would be, but as it is not, better to celebrate waht you had, experienced and learnt, rather than mourn what you have lost.
You might meet someone even better in the future. In fact, you probably WILL, as you will change, have changed, and someone better suited to you will come along as a result.
Chin up mate, things only get better from here.
But the staying friends thing, difficult, I've never personally managed it, it's just too awkward most of the time, especially when trying to have a conversation with a person that you have spent most of your time with as your partner.
yes he can, petrol + lit match to the face. nobody could love what's left of her face.
I doubt that there is anything worse than this feeling in the world!
I feel for you and only time will heal this 1 if you do finish with her completly, give it time before u get back as just mates, you know time to heal and that, rushing into it could and prob maybe will make it awkard and scupper chances of the friendship lasting
Just chin up!
Sadly, love is over for her. I know it might seem impossible for you to comprehend but... try your best to forget about her.
Get together with mates, play squash more often and find other things to do with your time.
I was in a similar relationship with a girl when I was 14. We lasted 5 years and it seemed we where made for eachother, but we seperated and it took me years to truly get over her. Even now I'll have a dream about her and it'll leave me with lingering thoughts, but I've dealt with it and moved on.
Love is like that, but it doesn't work one way sadly.
Chin up!
Get together with mates, play squash more often and find other things to do with your time.
I was in a similar relationship with a girl when I was 14. We lasted 5 years and it seemed we where made for eachother, but we seperated and it took me years to truly get over her. Even now I'll have a dream about her and it'll leave me with lingering thoughts, but I've dealt with it and moved on.
Love is like that, but it doesn't work one way sadly.
Chin up!
Another thing I forgot to mention is that her mate recently split up with her boyfriend and they started a few weeks after us. That was kinda the first thing that started to get me worried as the reasons for her splitting up with him were because she basically wanted a single life because she had been with him since she was 16 too.
Apparantly this has had no bearing on anything but I can't help but feel that its made her think a bit, as she's now the only one left with a boyfriend out of her regular mates.
Apparantly this has had no bearing on anything but I can't help but feel that its made her think a bit, as she's now the only one left with a boyfriend out of her regular mates.