Soldato
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thats always the best sex
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thats always the best sex
Soldato
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lol dont tell my missus, i was kidding
well its true, so i wont tell her either
if only it was that easy.
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Why is it so hard?
It's been almost 6 months now since everything went wrong. Still hasn't been one day where I can safely say I havn't thought about her, its ******* annoying. I stupidly sent her a christmas card and present (even after she ignored the fact that it was my birthday a month previous), she text me saying thank you, I don't know what I expected from it to be honest but I just wanted to show her I still cared.
She just doesn't give a damn about me at all, why is that? We spent almost 4 years together for crying out loud. I can understand she might not want to be in a relationship, but to just completely forget about me and not care for someone who you apparantly loved for so long is just something I can't get my head around. Would it hurt to just send a text seeing if things are ok, or ask how my course is going?
I havn't seen her at all since the night I went round begging for her back in September. Apart from one time I drove past her a few weeks later and my heart jumped into my mouth. Saw her mates here and there about town but i've avoided seeing her up to now for one reason or another. I can safely say that unless I contact her I will probably never speak to her again.
Every so often I see her name pop up on facebook, or she comments on a one of my friends photo's. I deleted her and all her friends when we split up obviously, but there's just no escaping her at times. Everytime I accidently see her profile picture I can't describe the anger/frustration/sadness that runs through me, and I HATE it. Everytime I go out i'm **** scared of bumping into her, just the thought of it sends my stomach weird.
On Friday I had an interview and I got the job, so i'll be moving reasonably far away to start that in either June or September. Maybe this will do the trick (i'd still be coming home most weekends), but I just absolutely hate the fact that I care so much about her, even after not seeing her for so long, and she doesn't give a flying **** about me
/rant
It's been almost 6 months now since everything went wrong. Still hasn't been one day where I can safely say I havn't thought about her, its ******* annoying. I stupidly sent her a christmas card and present (even after she ignored the fact that it was my birthday a month previous), she text me saying thank you, I don't know what I expected from it to be honest but I just wanted to show her I still cared.
She just doesn't give a damn about me at all, why is that? We spent almost 4 years together for crying out loud. I can understand she might not want to be in a relationship, but to just completely forget about me and not care for someone who you apparantly loved for so long is just something I can't get my head around. Would it hurt to just send a text seeing if things are ok, or ask how my course is going?
I havn't seen her at all since the night I went round begging for her back in September. Apart from one time I drove past her a few weeks later and my heart jumped into my mouth. Saw her mates here and there about town but i've avoided seeing her up to now for one reason or another. I can safely say that unless I contact her I will probably never speak to her again.
Every so often I see her name pop up on facebook, or she comments on a one of my friends photo's. I deleted her and all her friends when we split up obviously, but there's just no escaping her at times. Everytime I accidently see her profile picture I can't describe the anger/frustration/sadness that runs through me, and I HATE it. Everytime I go out i'm **** scared of bumping into her, just the thought of it sends my stomach weird.
On Friday I had an interview and I got the job, so i'll be moving reasonably far away to start that in either June or September. Maybe this will do the trick (i'd still be coming home most weekends), but I just absolutely hate the fact that I care so much about her, even after not seeing her for so long, and she doesn't give a flying **** about me
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Ripper I call that love. You deserve much better if you still give a damn and she doesn't. Just put it this way, the next one is always better. Don't give up, chin up and show yourself and others what you can acomplish. If you've held out for 6 months it's good. You can hold out for another 6 and maybe in that time you'll meet someone who actually does really care about you.
Stay positive do what you're doing and good luck.
Stay positive do what you're doing and good luck.
Can't put it better than this! You'll find someone else and forget all about her.Ripper I call that love. You deserve much better if you still give a damn and she doesn't. Just put it this way, the next one is always better. Don't give up, chin up and show yourself and others what you can acomplish. If you've held out for 6 months it's good. You can hold out for another 6 and maybe in that time you'll meet someone who actually does really care about you.
Stay positive do what you're doing and good luck.
for some of us it takes time, others get over it straight away.
its been a year and a few months here now, and theres still something inside thats i feel wont ever go away (hate).
Whats worse is all my mates have either turned into *********'s or dont never go out and smoke weed all day... So ive been out what, 5 times since Oct 2007. So what do i have instead? Just my car it feels like. I drive miles finding nice places or generally just enjoying the drive but, who am i going to meet doing this? no one, no one ever.
the ******** mate takes the **** that i drive and never go out but with him its not worth the hassle, as i feel like repeatively hitting him with the biggest glass bottle i can find when i DO go out with him.
on the facebook problem. BLOCK her, then she will never show up in any other friends convo's/tags
its been a year and a few months here now, and theres still something inside thats i feel wont ever go away (hate).
Whats worse is all my mates have either turned into *********'s or dont never go out and smoke weed all day... So ive been out what, 5 times since Oct 2007. So what do i have instead? Just my car it feels like. I drive miles finding nice places or generally just enjoying the drive but, who am i going to meet doing this? no one, no one ever.
the ******** mate takes the **** that i drive and never go out but with him its not worth the hassle, as i feel like repeatively hitting him with the biggest glass bottle i can find when i DO go out with him.
on the facebook problem. BLOCK her, then she will never show up in any other friends convo's/tags
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She's moved on mate, that's what happens when one person ends a relationship (particularly if they have someone else to move on with). It sucks to be on your end of it, no doubt about it but if she was acting like she cared then you'd probably think you could get back together so if she doesn't want that then it's better to just leave you alone.
I've been on all sides of this - the one left behind, the one who left and the one who the person left to be with. Each time it played out pretty much like this, one person gets badly hurt, the other two might not feel great about it but they have each other and so any guilt is outweighed pretty quickly.
Just keep on going, someone will come along and you'll be able to move past all of this.
I've been on all sides of this - the one left behind, the one who left and the one who the person left to be with. Each time it played out pretty much like this, one person gets badly hurt, the other two might not feel great about it but they have each other and so any guilt is outweighed pretty quickly.
Just keep on going, someone will come along and you'll be able to move past all of this.
What everyone else has said mate. I think what's missing now is the love of a good woman who surpasses the qualities of your old one by miles, this will be a sure fire way of finally moving on. As you were the one who was obviously hit hardest by this (as she doesn't seem to care), it's going to be longer for you to get on with things.
I think at the moment you are "over" her but you haven't "moved on". You're kinda sat idling with nothing to process
New job, new oppertunities, new people. These are things that you are looking at in the near future so I'd say you have every chance of getting on with life in a more positive manner now!
I think at the moment you are "over" her but you haven't "moved on". You're kinda sat idling with nothing to process
New job, new oppertunities, new people. These are things that you are looking at in the near future so I'd say you have every chance of getting on with life in a more positive manner now!
exactly what happend here, acted as if it was a temp thing and that she might be fine in a few weeks, still acting like she cared, but within a month she had moved out with her new bloke.
I dunno why she just didnt come around my house and stab me with a blunt knife and keep twisting it untill i stopped kicking. Would have been less painful
ive slept with 1 person since her and it was "fun" but crap as well. its not what im after.
In my experience, thats the one thing that keeps them coming back and would make her think twice about her decision. Personally, if she came crawling back, begging for forgiveness you should still have some self respect and tell her where to go.
You don't have meet your future wife to be
It's just a good way to move on and stop living in the past.
its not that she doesnt care about you
look at it from her point of view, in your own words, the last time she saw you, you was begging her to take you back, shes not going to be risking giving you the wrong idea and has done the right thing and moved on and broke all contact, you sending her a present was just like telling her youre still desperately in love with her so she is not going to encourage you by showing too much gratitude, she will be worrying you will be back on her doorstep
go and shag someone else and realise that there are plenty of women out there!
look at it from her point of view, in your own words, the last time she saw you, you was begging her to take you back, shes not going to be risking giving you the wrong idea and has done the right thing and moved on and broke all contact, you sending her a present was just like telling her youre still desperately in love with her so she is not going to encourage you by showing too much gratitude, she will be worrying you will be back on her doorstep
go and shag someone else and realise that there are plenty of women out there!
We know he is. Unfortunately a number of people think it's funny.
You need to make some new friends, start some new hobbies and meet some new female friends. Hopefully you will find someone who will want to spend time with you and things will move on for you.
The fact you seem to see them and let it worry you, you need to take control of your life and make it what you want it to be. Forget about this girl as much as you can, it will not be easy but keep trying. With time you will and the best way to start is to meet someone else.
Good luck!
The fact you seem to see them and let it worry you, you need to take control of your life and make it what you want it to be. Forget about this girl as much as you can, it will not be easy but keep trying. With time you will and the best way to start is to meet someone else.
Good luck!