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theNude

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theNude

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So, the week before Christmas, my partner of over 7 years has decided that we should go our seperate ways.

i was going to propose to her in the new year, once i had saved.

Devastated is not the word, i know its sad posting on a forum this stuff, but i left everything behinde to move to London to be with her so i have very few people to talk to. sad, i know.

Dude.
 
Unfortunately not. otherwise i could just kick the world and it would spin on its axxis in reverse and i could go back in time.
 
A lot of the stuff that gets posted here is the same old cliché advice but it will get better mate and things will sort themselves.I know its not what you want to hear; but at least it didn't happen once you were married and had kids I suppose.

If you can get back with family and friends over Christmas and decide what you want for 2009 and get on it mate. Time is a healer and London is probably a damn good place to start meeting new people.

Chin up fella, things may seem like the end of the road now, but it WILL get better!
 
It hurts like **** now but if you make a determined effort to move on/away, it will slowly get better.

Try to occupy yourself with making other people feel good/happy over this Christmas; at the very least you won't be thinking of your situation every waking moment and at best, you will help others and might even find a few new friends.

Best of luck.
 
Man that is Harsh but look on the Bright side, You can Refund the prezzy before xmas & blow it on yourself to compensate.
You are doing the Right thing getting it out though even if it is on a Forum where half of us will take the **** or have nothing of substance to say. Loads could happen from now so Don't go doing nothing stupid.
My advice would be to get your Flat/House in order, Sort your wardrobe out, get a hair cut & tidy yourself up & Always keep yourself Clean & Smart no matter how you feel inside.
If you do see your X again the last thing she will want to see is a Pathetic shell of the man she once Loved, Be the Man she once Loved instead ;)
 
malc30 said:
My advice would be to get your Flat/House in order, Sort your wardrobe out, get a hair cut & tidy yourself up & Always keep yourself Clean & Smart no matter how you feel inside.
If you do see your X again the last thing she will want to see is a Pathetic shell of the man she once Loved, Be the Man she once Loved instead ;)
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Exactly, chin up and do your best to look forward and make the most of your new start rather than wallow in misery of the past year. It hurts like hell but it does pass.
 
Sorry to hear of your troubles theDude, I guess she couldn't of picked a *****er time to do this to you. Seven years is along time, my only advise to you is keep yourself busy and around friends family!
 
Is their ever a good time for it to happen though?

Ok the holidays are going to be rubbish for him but what better time than new year for him to pull his socks up and embark on new endeavours?
 
I don't know the ins and outs of the relationship OP, so it would be a little unfair for me to suggest any advice past the present circumstance. Honestly, it will hurt badly at the moment and no matter what anyone says or does will make you believe that its either over or that any good can come of this; you're very much emotionally involved so you won't be thinking as clearly and you possibly could. I can only offer the same sentiment and suggestions as the other infomed posters in that it will get better, although seven years was a very long time so the time it takes to heal is entirely up to you. Afterall, it's said that it will only hurt as much as you cared for her.

Get through the initial shock Dude and keep yourself busy. You'll slowly accept what's happened and at some point you'll have moved on and your won't even have realised. Surround yourself with the things and people that matter to you and start taking positive steps towards a 'better' life. Remember, don't blame yourself but don't hide from your feelings either; let them out!

As cliché as it is: chin up fella. At this point you can either soldier on with your head held high or mope around until the walls close in. It's your call, take your time. I know it's probably no consolation, but Merry Christmas mate. You've got a whole new year to look forward to! :)
 
^TANK^ said:
Sorry to hear of your troubles theDude, I guess she couldn't of picked a *****er time to do this to you. Seven years is along time, my only advise to you is keep yourself busy and around friends family!
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Good idea to keep busy and have special people as much as possible around you. Get out there and make friends, small changes can make all the difference.
 
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