Heartbroken

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Stupid mare, "needs to get her head clear"

I think it was perfectly clear when she said "she didn't want to be with you any more"...

If that wasn't the case, then any sane woman would have worked something out WITH YOU...



Snakes with ****, the lot of em.. ;) :D
 
I always find that once ive relieved myself (;)) i forget about the ex.

Make sure ya thinking with ya brain and not ya balls :)
 
Glad to hear you are Bouncing on well. Try not to get to hung up about what you get, What she gets & concentrate on forgetting her. Getting new kit & binning off the old is part of the process ;)
 
I was feeling fine earlier when I posted. I just got back from taking all of her stuff that she'd left here. We also went for a walk and talked about it. I cried despite trying my best not to. I didn't break down though, I tried to stay firm and not lose ALL of my pride. I feel ******* terrible now, but I know it will fade. I suppose the consolation is that she cried too, so I wasn't doing it alone.

It's weird, I was fine, even blasé about it until I started finding things in the draws that she'd given me over the years. All the little notes and such. We hugged before I got back in the car to leave and it was horrible letting go :( . But at least now I've drawn a line under it and I can actually move on. The sadness will pass in time, I just hope it's sooner rather than later.

I'm going out Xmas eve with some mates and I know I have a good night planned for new years eve too. I'm just going to try and keep busy. It's the best way and the only thing I know to do right now.
 
Wow, that really does suck. I know exactly how you probably feel. Don't know what advice to give because I havn't fully got over my ex yet :( But one thing I would suggest is to cut all contact as soon as possible, and I won't be the only one to say this.

A lot of people on here suggested going out and getting laid, but that didn't work for me. However, I got close to getting in a relationship with one girl since, didn't happen but during that time I wasn't bothered about my ex much. So my advice would be to start looking for the next Mrs Dude asap :)
 
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Do you want her back though?

And is it just me who thinks that just maybe she is going through a phase and may realise that she misses you and want to work through things?

I only ask as my gf of 2+ years broke up with me 3 months ago because she didn't know what to do after a rough patch, still had(has) feelings for me, but wasn't quite happy, but won't talk about it at all, etc, etc. But because she means the world to me, I am willing to "fight" for her and show her I still care until such time I either give up and/or finally manage to move on. She's only been my first long term relationship so maybe I am wrong to stretch it out but I willing to risk making this mistake I guess. I am keeping even busier though to keep my mind off things though.

Either way, hope you get what you want and are happy.

Women are fickle btw.
 
UPDATE...

We got back together early in the new year and things were going ok, even though she said she didnt know if she loved me or not i tried my best and was up beat and was working hard on the relationship, however we have both been really busy as of late and it didnt help the fact she goes out a lot for drinks after work and i dont see her until 10pm and at the weekends she is always with her uni group. Understandably i got a bit down and i was at times a bit grumpy. Last weekend i had saved about £500 to take us away somwhere to patch things up and then my car broke (the new car i got as she wanted a bigger car to make her happy) and i had to pay £500 to get it fixed. I was pretty depressed about this due to pinning a lot on this holiday so i just sat around and played xbox. This didnt go down to well as she thought i was just being an idiot and we had a small arguement. well a week later she is obviously still sore about it and we had a chat and she told me she only said she loved me to make me feel better.

we argued and said i am leaving today as i cant deal with this make up break up rubbish and she said thats what she wanted, so :( i am now packing up my belongings.. she just had the cheek to ask me to put the key in the letter box when i go and was annoyed i was taking the sofa i paid £1600 for!!!

also what has really annoyed/hurt me is she got angry when i didnt burst out in song when she said she loved me, SHE WAS LYING!!!!!!!!!

anyone know a cheap place to rent in east/central london. looking for a studio really.
 
Dude that sounds like a grade A bitch you had there :eek:(and not in a good way), you are better off without her by the sounds of it so think yourself lucky :)
 
I know it sounds cliche, but exs are almost always exs for a reason and it's rarely a good idea to get back together, even though it seems so at the time. (speaking from experience here)

Its a harsh lesson to learn, but hopefully will help you avoid the same situation in future.

Give it some time and you'll be thinking yourself lucky when you find someone 100 times better =)
 
she wanted a bigger car to make her happy
she only said she loved me to make me feel better

she just had the cheek to ask me to put the key in the letter box when i go and was annoyed i was taking the sofa i paid £1600 for!!!

also what has really annoyed/hurt me is she got angry when i didnt burst out in song when she said she loved me, SHE WAS LYING!!!!!!!!!
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wow.... thats low


she's a woman - thats the only explanation for that shocking behaviour - know that sounds sexist but thats the truth.
 
anyone know a cheap place to rent in east/central london. looking for a studio really.
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London, cheap, studio - pick two 'cos you can't have all three :p

Get a houseshare with a bunch of lads or something rather than cooping yourself up on your own cos you'll have Insta-Mates to go out with and you'll soon realise how much better life is without her :p
 
may sound a bit harsh but tbh it sounds like she is better off without you rather then you better off without her but meh i don't know the whole situation :( any way the only stupid thing to do now would be to not learn from it like it sounds you didn't the first time.
 
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wow.... thats low


she's a woman - thats the only explanation for that shocking behaviour - know that sounds sexist but thats the truth.
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Oh come on - always the way! When one man does something bad, he's an illegitimate child, when one woman does something bad, all of womankind are female dogs?

Like this, but nastier: http://xkcd.com/385/

I'm sorry for you Dude - sounds really awful. She's obviously misguided and hasn't really though too hard about you! What a bint.
 
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Man that is Harsh but look on the Bright side, You can Refund the prezzy before xmas & blow it on yourself to compensate.
You are doing the Right thing getting it out though even if it is on a Forum where half of us will take the **** or have nothing of substance to say. Loads could happen from now so Don't go doing nothing stupid.
My advice would be to get your Flat/House in order, Sort your wardrobe out, get a hair cut & tidy yourself up & Always keep yourself Clean & Smart no matter how you feel inside.
If you do see your X again the last thing she will want to see is a Pathetic shell of the man she once Loved, Be the Man she once Loved instead ;)
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Great advice tbh, go treat yourself to some new clothes too. Also meeting another girl is one of the best cures and will boost your self confidence, one more thing. cut all ties wth her or you will just prolong the pain.
 
Just make sure when you leave, you fool her butler into thinking that you are allowed to pick any rug in the house to take with you :D

Remember...TheDude abides!

Take it easy mate, sort yourself out - anything is being better than what you have been going through by the sounds of it!
 
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