how can I prevent son from using internet after 11pm

Theirs loads of people saying beating and whipping the son is the right way to go.
Were do you think we live were beating your kid is the best way to educate your kids?
My dad tried that when i was 15 and it worked the complete reverse as now i pretty much hate him and his choices in life and i now live my life in the mirror reverse of what he would do. including beating your kid to stop him doing things. any advice he tryed giving me at this point i do the total opposite and it seems to be working pretty well.

Don't be a dick to your kids blocking the internet and terming the electric off and beatings and ****. just sit him down and speak with him and see how you can work together and come up with a solution and move him forwards with his life.

unless you completely failed with your kids and they have 0 respect for you and there's no way they would ever have an adult conversation with you anymore because you are a bad dad..... sucks to be you...
 
KIA said:
OP's house. OP's rules.
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This tbh.

If he wants to stay up late streaming filth then the least he can do is pay something towards the broadband.
If he does not like it, tell him to live elsewhere. The power will soon be back in your favour.

pumaz said:
He's 19 sits on his backside all day in front of his computer and thinks the world owes him and its not as easy as telling him to turn it off believe me we've tried everything :(
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Sounds like a slob. Show him the back of your hand!
 
NorthstaNder said:
You sound just as bad to be honest.

Trouble with a lot of kids these days is that they have no respect for the rules laid down by their parents (which are normally there to help, not hinder). If my kids want to stay up to all hours when they're 19 that's fine, but they'll be doing it in their own place, not mine.
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I certainly want the perfect child, i got away with a lot of stuff by pointing out I still earned my own money and got top grades. By 19 is was at uni anyway and independent.

Kicking out children for not conforming to rules is (in the experience of what has happened to friends of mine) counterproductive
 
Tappits said:
Don't be a dick to your kids blocking the internet and terming the electric off
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Tell that to the **** kid keeping people awake at night... the very people who have to go to work to keep a roof over his head, let alone the electricity for his internet.
Were he in a block of flats doing that, he'd have angry neighbours kicking his door in to do what his parents should be doing!

NorthstaNder said:
Trouble with a lot of kids these days is that they have no respect for the rules laid down by their parents
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Or is it the parents who don't enforce it?
Got an acquaintance whose daughter keeps stealing her credit card and running up large bills. Parent won't do anything about it and just keeps struggling to pay it off. Mine would have had the Police round!
 
What a bunch of mouth breathers.

"Herp derp if people are doing something you don't like hit them until they stop, because that's the mature and well reasoned way to deal with it"
 
ttaskmaster said:
Or is it the parents who don't enforce it?
Got an acquaintance whose daughter keeps stealing her credit card and running up large bills. Parent won't do anything about it and just keeps struggling to pay it off. Mine would have had the Police round!
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Yeah because the OP's kid's actions are comparable...
 
edit - This thread has made me overly angry, dont belt him, but the kid fully grown adult who should be looking after himself needs sorting out
 
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ttaskmaster said:
He's 19!!
At 16 I was already living alone, had a full-time job and was successfully supporting myself.

I find the fact that anyone would let their own child call the shots in their own house even more disturbing... what kind of person will that kid grow up to be, do you think?
That kind of disrespectful attitude will end in tears when the guy meets someone who IS willing to put their foot down (or in some cases even put the boot in), whereupon he either learns respect or it's game over.

Jeez, If I'd behaved like that when I was a kid, my stuff would have been out that window like a shot and I'd likely have been smacked through it straight after...
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You say that with pride but I find it sad that you had to leave home at 16 and support yourself.

Family means the world to me and life without family is empty. Personally I think the Asian attuides towards family members are far superior to our westen ideas where you will find generations of family members living together while in the westen world, everyone wants to live alone.

Age is irrelevant, he is his son and will always be his son. If he didn't want to support him whatever he does, maybe he should had used protection.

No offense intended though to anyone.
 
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IronWarrior said:
You say that with pride but I find it sad that you had to leave home at 16 and support yourself.

Family means the world to me and life without family is empty. Personally I think the Asian attuides towards family members are far superior to our westen ideas where you will find generations of family members living together while in the westen world, everyone wants to live alone.

Age is irrelevant, he is his son and will always be his son. If he didn't want to support him whatever he does, maybe he should had used protection.

No offense intended though to anyone.
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Yeah, he should carry on supporting him keeping him awake all night so he is knackered even before he goes to work. /sigh

Give and take mate, you should only get support if you are respectful of the situation you are in. This kid has it too good, he might need it bad for a few weeks to appreciate what he has.
 
Love how judgemental this thread got.

To focus in on the OP's request.

Your router should be able to do this for you, if it isn't working then you may need to do some testing and fiddling to see if you can get it to work (maybe try a spare machine and see if you can lock it down also).

Personally, sitting in their room on a computer is probably one of the better case scenarios, I think my parents would have killed to have me in the house at 19.
It's better than being out drinking, doing drugs or hanging around on street corners mugging grannies.
 
KelDG said:
Yeah, he should carry on supporting him keeping him awake all night so he is knackered even before he goes to work. /sigh
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Then he needs to be told to keep it down. :D

Though if the OP does try to restrict his internet access, I doubt that last long. It's most likely he knows more about computers then the OP and anything he can do will just get "fixed" by the son.

Also agree with Steveocee, there are far worst things he could be doing then playing games.

Anyway, good luck.
 
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IronWarrior said:
You say that with pride but I find it sad that you had to leave home at 16 and support yourself.
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Who said I had to?
I actually joined the Army at 16, but had to leave within a year for medical reasons. From there on, I chose to remain independent. Back then independence was a matter of pride among my peers and those still living at home or off their family without good reason was derided. A couple of guys had student debts gone bad, one girl was looking after a disabled parent. That was about it. The rest of us were busy bragging about jobs (from shelf-stackers to office workers), showing off the rooms and studio flats (occasionally houses) we were renting, having parties, bringing home girl/boyfriends and being all Yuppie about life.

Most of us still had great families too, to varying degrees, but actually owning the responsibility for yourself? That was the measure of your worth!
I dunno, maybe it was a Class System thing... but even among the richer kids, they'd only be at home if they had this mysterious thing they called "Inheritance"! :D


spoffle said:
Yeah because the OP's kid's actions are comparable...
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Kid's, no. But the parent doing nothing and just putting up with what may be a fairly serious impact on their life - Definitely. The point being no-one I knew at that age would have gotten away with it, because the parents simply would not have allowed it.
Case in point, the credit girl is comitting an actual crime, so calling the Police on her would give her the reality shock she needs to wake up and learn. The OP needs something proportionately appropriate to achieve a similar effect.

Talking with this 'nightmare' kid seems not have achieved nothing and he's smart enough to work around IT things that I wouldn't have a clue about. I don't think it's a router problem so much as one of attitude, from both the parent and child, toward each other.

Smacking him may be politically incorrect these days, but it works for every other animal on the planet and worked perfectly well for the majority of us too. I once heard my grandmother tell my 60-something dad that he's never too old to be put across her knee - We all knew she was jesting, of course... but he still shut up and stopped making fun of her!!

The keys are moderation and making sure the kid understands/appreciates why he's now getting a smacking. If you choose a different kind of punishment, fair enough, but the exact same rule applies - That is one of the major differences between good and bad parenting!
 
Wow what a can of worms I opened! Sorry been really busy so not had chance to check on this thread. Anyway last night internet went off and he turned his PC off so fingers crossed me catching him out might of made him change is ways but would still like to make sure he can't do it again.

There are 2 reasons I want him to turn his PC off at 11, one is for noise - he as a very deep voice, a mechanical keyboard and plays a lot of Counterstrike which we simply can't sleep through and we need to be up for work at 6am. Two is trying to keep fuel bills down a bit. He gets up around 10am gets his breakfast, takes it to his room and apart from coming down for food that's where he'll stay in front of his PC till bedtime. It's not that we're telling him to go to bed, we've said to him he doesn't have to go to bed just turn computer off and be quiet, he does have a tablet he can use.

We've tried reasoning, I've lost my temper with him but nothing works. He's not stupid he'll get around timer switches and unplugging router etc. he'll wait till we're asleep then turn it back on! I'm not going to beat him! And I can't bring myself to throw him out. We've tried motivating him, family members have got him a couple of jobs at supermarkets but he lost them both due to being lazy! Basically his whole life revolves around Counterstrike, just wish he'd grow up :(
 
pumaz said:
We've tried reasoning, I've lost my temper with him but nothing works. He's not stupid he'll get around timer switches and unplugging router etc. he'll wait till we're asleep then turn it back on! I'm not going to beat him! And I can't bring myself to throw him out. We've tried motivating him, family members have got him a couple of jobs at supermarkets but he lost them both due to being lazy! Basically his whole life revolves around Counterstrike, just wish he'd grow up :(
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I do feel for you and to be honest, his life is a lot like mine so I totally understand.

Job wise, it's anyone's guess, it's very likely he hasn't found the right job yet and working at supermarkets isn't something he or I would want to do. If he finds a job that he would enjoy, he will soon change.
 
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