How did some people cope with there new bundle of joy?

dave1983

dave1983

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Hey guys

My Fianc'e had her first scan last week, it has been estimated that she's 10 weeks pregnant, we are over the moon as we went through a terrible time in may from a miscariage, however with us renting and unfortunately she wont be getting maternity pay, how did some of you survive with daily finances?
 
3 years on and we are nearly back to a steady financial setting
he is nearly potty trained now, so theres another £12 a week on nappies saved, and when he leaves day care 3day a week = £5400 a year we will be loads better off

its a moneysum job this baby lark !

worth it tho :D
 
Lol, i was thinking of buying nappies and stuff beforehand in my weekly shop. were just coming to the 2nd trimester which is good news, but dont want to get stuff to early, but the first scan was awsome seeing the little heart beat of the bean.
 
Is there no chance at all of your fiance getting maternity pay? As someone suggested above, go and see the CAB.
 
yeah im chuffed for you dave, its the best thing ever seeing that, but wait till he / she tells you that they love you ! now that is quite something
maybe start buying some bits now, nappalapas ( nappies ) every month, that way its not that expensive.
enjoy it all ! its great being a daddy
 
Unfortunately no, it's a new job and she told them that she was pregnant.

they did say that if my fiance didn't say anything then she would have got it, but in the sum of things i think she was abit worried that if she didn't it would risk her losing the job.
 
GJ02 said:
yeah im chuffed for you dave, its the best thing ever seeing that, but wait till he / she tells you that they love you ! now that is quite something
maybe start buying some bits now, nappalapas ( nappies ) every month, that way its not that expensive.
enjoy it all ! its great being a daddy
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Aww thanks, how did you cope in the first few weeks regarding sleeping?

iv'e already witness wierd mood swings, :D
 
dave1983 said:
Aww thanks, how did you cope in the first few weeks regarding sleeping?

iv'e already witness wierd mood swings, :D
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sleep wasnt really an issue as i work shifts and i only need 5 ish hours sleep and im ok.
and the mother instinct kicked in, believe me, the slightest noise and my wife is up, even tho she is asleep she can hear it, its amazing reallly, so it got to the point say 3am i would get up and feed him but because of this mother instinct she would also get up, she said there is no point in both of us getting up coz im awake anyway, so she done it ! lol, i did get up with ther too tho so i didnt feel bad.
first 5-6 months are not good, but if you get into a routine it really really does work.
but then again every baby is different
 
In my opinion there is never a right time you will just have to adjust & get all the help you can.
Best of luck to you both
 
dave1983 said:
After what happened in May no, they said that you have to wait a month before you can conceive again, however 2 weeks after MC pregnant, Over the moon :)
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So even though they said you have to wait up to a month before trying to conceive you decided to continue having unprotected sex?

I'd say that's trying for a baby.
 
lucky lot that are parents. Gf and i have been trying for 2 years now with 2x miscariage. Though my brother has a baby girl 7 months which has made up for it a bit.
But the gf still says things about the 1st miscariage saying like the baby would be 1yr now.
 
was she working before this job? you may be able to get maternity allowance, which needs her to have worked for a certain amount of time before the birth if i remember correctly. CAB will be able to advise better.
 
I'd've hoped by then they'd know the difference between there & Their!

edit: but I digress just save as much as you can cut back on the luxuries you can do without and if necsessary work another job
 
congratulations and I hope it is an uneventful pregnancy for your lady. Like sleep bank up as much money as you can now ready for when he/she is born as it will run through your fingers like water then. I remember that we really struggled after the first as I was probably earning about 18k a year then (no idea how we survived) when the first was 3 years old and started school it was a very alien feeling to have disposable income at the end of the month again. So we had a 2nd :( she will start school in September and I cannot wait to not be paying childcare anymore.
 
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