How do I meet women?

Surfer said:
Yeah i lived in Taiwan for 7/8 months and there they approached me (which is a first). Age didn't seem to matter so much either. I think Asian culture is more accepting of a wider age gap between partners as well.
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Is this what you say to the police officers that meet you at arrivals when home? :p
 
I don't think the weight is realy an issue. Once you lose the weight you would still have the same task of talking to women you would then just not have an excuse. I am in a similar position as you and at 96kg so on my way. I have a different way of looking at it i guses, i would like to meet a woman who i could have a relationship with but don't realy like to use dating websites. I also don't go anywhere that increases my chances of even speaking to woman in a casual environment. I have tried going to some meet ups a few years ago and met some people and had some ok discussions but no one was that special that i wanted to talk to them again. I should go out more and do more things and want to meet with people more, but i don't do it, i am not sure if its because im lazy or something else. I was working with this other guy from zimbabwe for a few years a while back and i noticed that he would try and engage with some people outside of work. I am the sort of person that would take some ones number after saying goodbye, say they left the company. Then I would not phone them or bother to contact them. If a woman gave me her number then I would contact her but i am talking men and women in general. The point i was trying to make from that is that i don't realy make an effort in general to make friends outside of work and i think this is some what obvious why i don't have a girl friend.

while I was in dubai I met this south east asian girl who gave me her number. My dad is on the dating sites in dubai and hooks up with all the south asian girls and said he has 6 on the go at the moment. He introduced me to this other girl while I was there. I have the girls email address and the girl is expecting me to communicate with her. I just don't see the point, what do you think, should i bother emailing the girl.
 
Everyone saying loose weight, why should he? Stop being bitches - jeez, you're like women "Oh he's fat he'll never find a girl".

If it makes you unhappy being that size, loose the weight. If you don't care, then don't. I'm fat, I don't care - and it's the people constantly chuntering to loose weight that make me think, "**** off, I'm happy". I'm active and such, so I'm not too fussed about being a chunky monkey.

Got a girlfriend myself, and have had a few - and I'm not thin. So you just need to be a bit confident :) and as I said, if you wanna loose the weight go for it.


[EDIT: Those mentioning health problems - that's sensible. It's the comments I read just telling him to loose weight. I have read plenty of useful advice on this thread]
 
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anderp said:
Everyone saying loose weight, why should he? Stop being bitches - jeez, you're like women "Oh he's fat he'll never find a girl".

If it makes you unhappy being that size, loose the weight. If you don't care, then don't. I'm fat, I don't care - and it's the people constantly chuntering to loose weight that make me think, "**** off, I'm happy". I'm active and such, so I'm not too fussed about being a chunky monkey.

Got a girlfriend myself, and have had a few - and I'm not thin. So you just need to be a bit confident :) and as I said, if you wanna loose the weight go for it.


[EDIT: Those mentioning health problems - that's sensible. It's the comments I read just telling him to loose weight. I have read plenty of useful advice on this thread]
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Losing weight should be for YOUR own benefit not to find a girl.

I'm fat myself, I've been dieting since April. My main reason was because of health problems that might arise later on (I'm 26) if I keep eating junk. I decided that this is something I can control, so I woke up and started dieting.

I've had girlfriends when I was fat (still am, although lost a lot of weight) but you cannot argue that being fat reduces your chances of finding a girl.

And in the end it depends on what the OP wants. If he is happy being fat and wants a girl then just try to go out more, talk to more women, etc, otherwise lose the fat for your own health benefit, not to pick up girls (although you can still socialise and try to pick up women while dieting).
 
As above, lose weight for yourself. Women value men who value themselves. It sounds like you lack confidence, you need to be more alpha. Get in the gym, do some weights and cardio for your own benefit (Might give you 10-20 extra years of life). Acquire success in every aspect of your life and women will appear as if out of magic.
 
Dating sites for Easy riders.

Friends of friends & relatives but you have to be careful here & can't take as many libertys.

Women you bump into like when shopping or out & about. Have to be sly here & get them to recognise you for the 2nd time you see them as approaching them 1st time is a no no.
 
Surfer said:
Yeah i lived in Taiwan for 7/8 months and there they approached me (which is a first). Age didn't seem to matter so much either. I think Asian culture is more accepting of a wider age gap between partners as well.
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For Taiwan/Chinese girls it almost completely about personality and hardly anything to do with looks. In fact if you're too good looking it can be turn off for them because they'll automatically think you're a 'Player' and have loads of girlfriends. You can get some real stunners if you're picky enough.

Japanese girls are actually quite shallow and unless you're an effeminate floppy haired girly-boy you'll have a tougher time getting any attention from any hot japanese girls.
 
anderp said:
Everyone saying loose weight, why should he? Stop being bitches - jeez, you're like women "Oh he's fat he'll never find a girl".

If it makes you unhappy being that size, loose the weight. If you don't care, then don't. I'm fat, I don't care - and it's the people constantly chuntering to loose weight that make me think, "**** off, I'm happy". I'm active and such, so I'm not too fussed about being a chunky monkey.

Got a girlfriend myself, and have had a few - and I'm not thin. So you just need to be a bit confident :) and as I said, if you wanna loose the weight go for it.


[EDIT: Those mentioning health problems - that's sensible. It's the comments I read just telling him to loose weight. I have read plenty of useful advice on this thread]
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I speak for the rest of the group here when i say we will never take anything you write seriously until you put 3Tb WD reds on a crazy low today only price ;)
 
glen8 said:
Years ago there was this aftershave which was supposed to help with picking up women. IIRC, it was called Spanish Fly

you could try that
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Losely speaking, you shouldn't have to much lose skin unless you loose an extreme amount of weight.

I would never consider someone a looser if they had taken steps to loose weight.
 
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