How do you deal with a break up?

Captain · 25 Apr 2012 at 17:35

Are you the sort of person who either:

A. sits at home and mopes around for days and just letting yourself hurt for a while,

B. Stay out the house as much as possible keeping your mind occupied and trying to find a new partner or

C. try and keep talking to your ex, meeting her outside of work and just generally trying to speak to her? or

D. get on with your life and act like they didnt even exist?

hurfdurf · 25 Apr 2012 at 17:37

Sever, success with someone else is the best way to win someone back anyway, by which point you will have found someone better anyway. It's win win.

paradisiac · 25 Apr 2012 at 17:37

a. which is bad, coz it never ends well. d is what i should do, but its sooo damn hard.

Jono8 · 25 Apr 2012 at 17:37

E. By ******* dinosaurs.

Elixir · 25 Apr 2012 at 17:38

(a) for a short time, then (b) and (d).

(c) is pathetic.

NeilMick · 25 Apr 2012 at 17:38

Do their mum, like a boss.

Pawnless Endgame · 25 Apr 2012 at 17:59

Elixir said:
(a) for a short time, then (b) and (d).

(c) is pathetic.

Yeah this.

stuman · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:02

shag around. be alpha for a bit. look at is as a free pass to screw anyone you want!

Drunkenmassacre · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:04

go online and cry for a bit to people I don't know...

Nitefly · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:07

A short glass of b) served with a generous wedge of a).

tidusjar · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:11

I came out of a 4 year relationship around middle of Jan this year.
First I tried C. to try and act as friends, it did not work at all, she found out that i was interested in this girl (Current GF) and went ape ****.

Now it's a D. non-existent. She caused a lot of problems for my current relationship e.g. making up lies that I slept with her when i was going out with my current gf. Saying I wanted her back and s***. All the problems have gone away now.

Maybe it's because she has a bf?... Her 2nd cousin... quite sick.

Srengam · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:14

E, it's a bit like D except D is "acting" like they didn't exhist whereas E is actually forgetting they exhisted in the first place.

I've never understood why people care about breaking up.

Derek W · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:14

I have to say, that is one impressive post history OP since joining :rolleyes:

konicky · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:17

Elixir said:
(a) for a short time, then (b) and (d).

(c) is pathetic.

With a bit more life experience you will realise that C isn't always pathetic!! It's not normally the best course of action but depending on the reason for the break up it can work.

Zefan · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:18

Clov!s said:
Are you the sort of person who either:

A. sits at home and mopes around for days and just letting yourself hurt for a while,

C. try and keep talking to your ex, meeting her outside of work and just generally trying to speak to her? or

A combination of the above for ages and ages and ages, which never ever works but is a vital part of processing a breakup. At some point I wake up, slap myself around the face and begin to...

Clov!s said:
B. Stay out the house as much as possible keeping your mind occupied and trying to find a new partner or

mtrent10202 · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:19

Elixir said:
(a) for a short time, then (b) and (d).

(c) is pathetic.

Frozennova · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:21

After my last break up I got straight back on the metaphorical horse, started speaking to my now girlfriend online the day after the break and and we've now been seing each other for 2 months. If it wasn't for the fact I bumped into my ex a few days ago I'd have forgot she exisited

Skidder · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:24

Have been with my wife forever but previously my strategy for most situations including breakups was to (try to) bang anything that moved. Shagging is the best medicine.

Nitefly · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:25

ManLoveRulesOK said:
After my last break up I got straight back on the metaphorical horse, started speaking to my now girlfriend online the day after the break and and we've now been seing each other for 2 months. If it wasn't for the fact I bumped into my ex a few days ago I'd have forgot she exisited

Wow, good stuff! Have you met her yet?

helpimcrap · 25 Apr 2012 at 18:39

Clov!s said:
Are you the sort of person who either:
D. get on with your life and act like they didnt even exist?

Depends how we broke up but usually this.
We split for a reason and that reason still existss or my last gf we were on a time limit as such with her moving out of the country so i remember her fondly and she's till a friend.

Been single 4 years so far and had a few 'encounters' with the opposite sex but hey-ho.