How do you feel about breaks in a relationship?

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Clov!s said:
Ok cheers guys.

I was talking to my girlfriend lastnight and she said that she wanted to break up, so we did.

This morning i get a phonecall from her saying that maybe things can work out after a few weeks of having some time to ourselves, and she said that nothing would happen with another person, but if it was, that she doesnt want me to hate her.

Now i just cant get my head around it, to me that seems like a break but we really have broken up "/
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Actually that sounds like "I want to try someone else but want you there just in case it doesnt work out".

Don't accept that for a second if its over its over make a clean break and move on dragging it out any further is pointless.
 
She wants to bonk someone else but isn't sure if that person wants anything long term so is keeping you on the back burner. Ditch her and bonk her friend.
 
She isnt close to anyone else and she isnt looking or wanting to do anything, she just said if someone shows an interest and something happens, she doesnt want me to hate her.
 
Clov!s said:
She isnt close to anyone else and she isnt looking or wanting to do anything, she just said if someone shows an interest and something happens, she doesnt want me to hate her.
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look how under her thumb you are...sad :(

That sentence translated: There is someone I want to bonk and when I bonk them i want it to be okay with you cos I'm a cowardly ****.

The fact she even has the audacity to say something like that to you shows she has no respect for you.
 
Breaks never worked out for me, but I have some mates where breaks have actually helped their relationship. With that said, the breaks didn't consist of any fooling around with others, but having time to themselves, etc.

Never understood the whole idea of getting with someone else during a break though. It's like, if you're able to go out and hook up with someone else and feel that it's not a problem, then shouldn't you just break up? It's like cheating without consequences :p
 
Clov!s said:
She isnt close to anyone else and she isnt looking or wanting to do anything, she just said if someone shows an interest and something happens, she doesnt want me to hate her.
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You have broken up but she wants to keep you around for her own sense of security/comfort while she looks for someone else. Don't let her.
 
We've probably made the situation worse but it does sound like there's someone else for her. I was the same at first and thought lets see what happens but nowadays if there's even a mention of breaking up or it's not going well I just end it. Not worth the hassle and heart ache in the long run.
 
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