Arguements are something I hate. My girlfriend has this strange belief that everything has to be pulled out into the open and discussed. I'm more of the walk out of the room, flat, town, and go off some where to calm down. If there was a fundamental issue where I didn't want to be going out with her, then like a typical bloke I'd just tell her. But where there are other issues, then I'm likely to bury my head in the sand and hope they go away. My general opinion (and yes I'm occasionally wrong, and could be again here), is that blokes deal with problems in a blunt way. If they are walking out and avoiding the issue, its not because we don't care, its because we know we are blunt and are trying not to upset you futher.
How do you react after an argument with your partner?
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Arguements are something I hate. My girlfriend has this strange belief that everything has to be pulled out into the open and discussed. I'm more of the walk out of the room, flat, town, and go off some where to calm down. If there was a fundamental issue where I didn't want to be going out with her, then like a typical bloke I'd just tell her. But where there are other issues, then I'm likely to bury my head in the sand and hope they go away. My general opinion (and yes I'm occasionally wrong, and could be again here), is that blokes deal with problems in a blunt way. If they are walking out and avoiding the issue, its not because we don't care, its because we know we are blunt and are trying not to upset you futher.
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I always ignore my wife & walk away its the easy option.
That makes a lot of sense. In the heat of the moment when he's walking out it does just feel like he doesn't care.
Mind you I have the texts to back that up don't I.
While we're on the subject, does anyone have any legal knowledge? I'm guessing he cant force me to either move out or make me put the house on the market without my backing?
I suppose that depends who's name is on the mortgage?.. I hope if your paying most of the bills you weren't silly enough to make it a joint mortgage?
As said it is a joint mortgage and we pay the bills between us but then we had anticipated being together for a while (as you do). I take it that complicates things?
Ah, sorry a bit worse for wear, is it really worth about thinking the worst case scenario right now though? hopefully things still maybe salvageable.
I'm preparing for the worst. Judging by the texts I've had tonight I'd be foolish to hope for anything else.
OK, sorry don't mean to make light of the situation, still though they are only texts.
Honestly, and I know this is means nothing considering what you maybe going through, I hope things go your way, as the other half sounds like a kid.
And if you do make up and patch things up.... I never said the stuff above!
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I usually back down because I know if I keep going, whatever it was that happened will end up being my fault.
.I hope everything works out for you both.When me and 'Tina have an argument we settle it there and then and it's forgotten about within minutes and things are back to normal.
We once had a HUGE argument over something, neither of us stormed out, neither of us backed down. We ended up laughing about the whole thing.
Would definately say one of the reasons why we get along so well is due to the fact we talk about any issues at all and resolve them there and then. Any disagreements or issues are solved within seconds and soon forgotten about. It works
We once had a HUGE argument over something, neither of us stormed out, neither of us backed down. We ended up laughing about the whole thing.
Would definately say one of the reasons why we get along so well is due to the fact we talk about any issues at all and resolve them there and then. Any disagreements or issues are solved within seconds and soon forgotten about. It works
When me and 'Tina have an argument we settle it there and then and it's forgotten about within minutes and things are back to normal.
We once had a HUGE argument over something, neither of us stormed out, neither of us backed down. We ended up laughing about the whole thing.
Would definately say one of the reasons why we get along so well is due to the fact we talk about any issues at all and resolve them there and then. Any disagreements or issues are solved within seconds and soon forgotten about. It works
Well that really is grown up, are you telling me passion has never gotten the better of either of you?
If by passion your talking about anger then yeah, we don't let it get the better of us.
It's really odd.
I'm terrible with arguments. I've done the same with my wife for 22 years now. I'm very old fashioned when it comes to these things and too stubborn to change. When we have a heated argument, she usually ***** off to her sisters house and I stay at home or I go down the pub and she stays at home. There will then be a period of ignoring each other, usually for a couple of days. We usually get back talking again just when someone comes round and we have to look happy.
I remember this happened over Christmas about 14-15 years ago and she bloody ruined Christmas for everyone by choosing to argue with me (it later emerged that I was proven right) and putting me in the foul mood I was in. I was actually so engraged at the time I booted the freezer door off its hinges and couldn't get it back on, so of course this led to more arguing. She moved out for a week after that. Funny thing is I can't even remember what that was about, I just know I was right after all that.
We don't do it now as much or as serious as we used to. Nowadays every now and again I'm lambasted over something pathetic like doing the dishes/washing/grass etc or God forbid buying any new item of clothing, no matter what the price. It seems that only she is allowed to rack up bills on dresses/tops (that are next to IMPOSSIBLE to iron), yet I still get burned alive for spending a tenner in Hugheses.
Women Jesus wept.
I remember this happened over Christmas about 14-15 years ago and she bloody ruined Christmas for everyone by choosing to argue with me (it later emerged that I was proven right) and putting me in the foul mood I was in. I was actually so engraged at the time I booted the freezer door off its hinges and couldn't get it back on, so of course this led to more arguing. She moved out for a week after that. Funny thing is I can't even remember what that was about, I just know I was right after all that.
We don't do it now as much or as serious as we used to. Nowadays every now and again I'm lambasted over something pathetic like doing the dishes/washing/grass etc or God forbid buying any new item of clothing, no matter what the price. It seems that only she is allowed to rack up bills on dresses/tops (that are next to IMPOSSIBLE to iron), yet I still get burned alive for spending a tenner in Hugheses.
Women Jesus wept.
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I hate you....
You said you wubbed me!
Bitterness overrides wub.
Don't I know it!