Hit the gym, get a haircut, be yourself. You realise 99% of people aren't insta models - but manage perfectly well in life.
How does a guy like this get a girl like that?
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That's not true, a lot of incels I've seen aren't even that ugly at all, their attitude makes them ugly. That guy that got famous for shooting up a school was actually reasonably handsome and quite wealthy, but his attitude towards women was disgusting and horrible and made him a monster. If he was a normal down to earth kind of guy i'd would say he would've been regarded a jock in most schools and had his choice of women.
If for example, I ended up looking like the left I would have hit the gym hard and that would have changed that face a fair bit and would focus in making **** ton of money in a decent career.
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Was that elliot rodgers? If so you are right he is decent looking. Very odd that he went on to do what he did.
Society already has eradicated the issue over centuries thanks to religion, I guess it is starting to come back a little now though. I mean we all have way more great great [...] etc.. grandmothers than grandparents, historically plenty of men never reproduced. Past societies have controlled this via religion, one man one wife etc.. I guess Islam allows for more (conditional on providing for them and with rules, even then there is a limit). Generally, it's been a bad idea to have too many incel males, it seems to cause unrest, violence etc...
These days there are fewer consequences to sex thanks to birth control and we have plenty more opportunities for meeting people. IIRC the top 80% of women on tinder are basically pursuing the top 20% of men. Of course, when it comes to hooking up most guys have a wider range of women they'd consider than they would with regards to long term relationships/marriage... plenty of average women in their 20s likely find they can hook up with, date etc.. higher status men and then have similar expectations in a future partner.
There are also plenty of guys who seem to have put in virtually no effort at all into making themselves attractive/desirable as partners... I mean you generally can't change your height or do much about facial symmetry (other than perhaps fix a dodgy nose, dodgy teeth etc.. ), you can certainly hit the gym, dress nicely, have good personal hygiene, not be totally awkward when just engaging in conversation etc.. It doesn't require someone to be super confident etc... What excuse do people have in 2020 for crooked yellow teeth? Dirty fingernails? Bad breath? Bad BO etc..? I mean fine if you've got similar standards in a partner but you can't on one hand have expectations of certain qualities in a partner when you've put no effort in yourself.
If the typical incel spent as much time in the gym as they currently do browsing pornhub they'd probably improve their life quite a bit. I don't understand how people are content to get to their 30s and still not be able to give a simple presentation at work or talk to a girl in a bar etc.. being a nervous kid at school is one thing, not fixing that issue after a decade of being an adult is just plain laziness and completely self-inflicted - you're allowed to turn up to a beginners' acting course or improv class or toastmasters group as a nervous person etc...
I don't think that's shallow tbh... quite understandable.
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genetics and money i guess. Cosmetic dentistry isn’t exactly cheap.
Being brought up in a single parent house hold with no father figure is part of the problem.
Make money, make muscles and have game. That's all it takes. But many don't want to put in the work and rather sit in front of a screen.
Men need a higher purpose than simply the woman they are in a relationship with. To be happy without a woman, excel in their craft etc.
Example if Cristiano Ronaldo looked like that bronze bust at Madeira airport from a few years back, but was still a world class footballer, even if he did not looksmax how bad would his life really be?
Some of these people will have spent more on fags in just one year than they’d need to spend to get their teeth whitened.
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Can't argue with that!
Welcome to the forum, please try harder.
Just going back to page 1, whats wrong with that couple?? Yeah he is short and looks could be better, but not shockingly bad by any means,, but the same goes for her,, shes not a stunner but your average looking women in my eyes.... At the end of the day we all see people differently and to be honest I wouldnt pick one of these catwalk models over your Average looking women, because that is beautiful in my eyes. Quirkiness and imperfections does it for me, just aslong as they have a nice face, sod everything else, big boobs, long legs and a super skinny figure, as all of these things are way, way over rated... But, but a beautiful heart is what counts the most, because without that, you haven't got anything.
Also sex is way over rated too, as that shouldn't be the main reason you want a partner.
Also sex is way over rated too, as that shouldn't be the main reason you want a partner.
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i am the OP. i must admit i do feel bad about opening this thread, theres nothing wrong with them although its not your usual couple dynamic i realise that doesn’t really matter.
A thread that should be closed and deleted. It's pretty disgusting some of the comments on it and should be removed totally. Sadly shows the mentality of this forum and how low it has dropped.
No one has a right to judge people in this manner on such a topic, if people are happy it is their personal business. Comment should be wishing them the best and a happy future. The rest of the comments are just rude and disgusting, a lot need to grow up and realise what life is about.
No one has a right to judge people in this manner on such a topic, if people are happy it is their personal business. Comment should be wishing them the best and a happy future. The rest of the comments are just rude and disgusting, a lot need to grow up and realise what life is about.
Ask the mods to delete it as it was your thread.
A thread that should be closed and deleted. It's pretty disgusting some of the comments on it and should be removed totally. Sadly shows the mentality of this forum and how low it has dropped.
No one has a right to judge people in this manner on such a topic, if people are happy it is their personal business. Comment should be wishing them the best and a happy future. The rest of the comments are just rude and disgusting, a lot need to grow up and realise what life is about.
On the bright side, it helps when determining who the real saddos are, and the use of the word "incel" just tells you that they probably don't have much real human interaction.
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Likely has a couple of roughie builders on the side, no doubt
A thread that should be closed and deleted. It's pretty disgusting some of the comments on it and should be removed totally. Sadly shows the mentality of this forum and how low it has dropped.
No one has a right to judge people in this manner on such a topic, if people are happy it is their personal business. Comment should be wishing them the best and a happy future. The rest of the comments are just rude and disgusting, a lot need to grow up and realise what life is about.
No, just no. You've chosen the wrong place to try to get speech cancelled. People have a right to free expression (within the forum rules) and truth be told this thread as has raised some interesting thoughts and ideas. The real world isn't full of unicorns and fuzzy bunnies. And "safe spaces" has done nothing but create soft entitled brats that think they can regulate speech. Which erks me in a major way.
For me sex is incredibly important as a means to bond with your partner. No, it shouldn't be the main reason you want a partner, but it's a major component of a relationship and without it, a relationship would feel hollow and incomplete.
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agreed, I mean having a gf without any sex is basically just having a 'best friend' - most people likely have that anyway, esp. if you're not too oldFor me sex is incredibly important as a means to bond with your partner. No, it shouldn't be the main reason you want a partner, but it's a major component of a relationship and without it, a relationship would feel hollow and incomplete.
That's called, "being married".
