How insensitive is this?

Shocking, so I'm not alone then. Some of you guys have had it lots worse than me. I seriously think that the power that these people have governs their whole being, they seem to manage peoples emotions and lives as though it were the business itself. It doesn't work.

There needs to be some leniency towards people when they are in times of trouble, you can't be legalistic in situations were people are having to deal with loved ones.

EDIT: Thanks for all the support, he is now home but in quite a bit of pain with his neck - x-rays revealed no breakages or fractures. He's on painkillers at the moment.
 
mishima said:
I seriously think that the power that these people have governs their whole being, they seem to manage peoples emotions and lives as though it were the business itself. It doesn't work.
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Sadly, there are always going to be power-trippers. They are normally unhappy in themselves, and the position of power is an outlet to try and boost their own diminished self-esteem. It happens all the time and you'll find them in every workplace to a certain degree.
 
Sorry to hear that mishima.

I'm a department manager for a large retailer; behaviour like this gives us "bosses" a bad name.

I constantly strive to achieve perfection in my work, and while it can be very frustrating to get a sick call for whatever reason, I know all too well, as this goon of a boss of yours should too, that I can't achieve what I want to achieve alone, which is why it's so fundamentally important that you treat people not just how you would like to be treated, but how they would like to be treated.

I strongly advise you carry through your complaint until you are satisfied.

Hope your dad gets well soon :)
 
That's harsh mishima. Your boss is obviously a nob.

Hope your father is okay.

Tru said:
The reason people become the Boss is because they put work above everything else, sometimes they need reminding that not everyone else does.
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I doth protest. I became a boss so I could smother my staff in soothing oils and feed them Grolsh and fine whisky while they got stressed on the job.

Seriously, some people are so up themselves and see this type of situation as a kind of power trip. I've always taken the view that where there is a genuine need to take emergency time off you'll get far more back from your staff by reassuring them it's okay and there's no problem. There are some who take the mickey out if it but they are the ones who'll find that if they need that holiday at short notice they won't get it, nor will their bonus be up to expectations.
 
Dynabol and Snash, you sound like mint bosses ;) can I work for you??!!

Very fair comments to be honest, I am a hard worker. Even though I do get treated like a fool sometimes by him and other managers I always put in 100% I think its important to.
 
I firmly believe that life gives you back what you dole out, so I always try to treat people the way that I would like to be treated.

Just remember, family always comes first and no-one on their death bed ever said that they wished that they had spent more time at the office.
 
mishima said:
Dynabol and Snash, you sound like mint bosses ;) can I work for you??!!

Very fair comments to be honest, I am a hard worker. Even though I do get treated like a fool sometimes by him and other managers I always put in 100% I think its important to.
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If I had a vacancy, then sure :p

As far as your predicament is concerned, I've been there myself. Fortunately I had sympathetic managers when my dad passed away and I needed a few days off to go to the funeral etc. It's life, and although not always as hard-hitting as what happened to me for example, these things happen. :)

I work in retail, which is a fast paced, challenging environment, and if get back the same attitude, level of commitment, and respect that you show yourself, it's essentially doing half the work for you. Hell, I'd be up the creek with no paddle if I wasn't surrounded by people who are as enthusiastic about work as I am. Sure, you have a bad day (or night, as I'm a night manager!), but Christ, we're all human, we all want to earn a bit of dosh, and I'm sure you'll agree, we all want to do it with the minimum level of fuss; if you can manage to throw in a few laughs, then it's even better! It works both ways - mutual understanding is a key to compromise!

Digressing slightly but there are my thoughts on the subject! :D

Jon
 
This story isnt as insensitive as one I have to share, at work yesterday a guy dropped down, we assumed that because he was old he collapsed, anyway I wont go into details but his heart exploded and he died instantly, we had paramedics at the scene, about 8 members of staff helping in any way they could and some woman asked me to nip and fetch her some parsnips for her! I was a bit shaken as I knew he was dead behind me and I just said quite nastily that I couldnt do that for her, she then went home and called the store and has filed a complaint, its not been taken seriously due to the circumstances I was in at the time! I just couldnt believe someone would still care about that when there was a poor old chap there who was obviously in a bad way!
 
Yeah, it's not a nice thing to happen, in a supermarket it's compounded by insensitive rubber-necking buffoons who just want to gawp at some poor chap's life slipping away... makes me mad :mad:
 
my dad is having his gall bladder out this week. a month ago when he told his (and my) boss, he said it would happen at short notice and prolly need at least 3 weeks off to recover, the boss went " ure kiddin 3 weeks " ? ?!!

my dad said no and walked out a l'il peeved.

we dont like any of the bosses, they are all ****'s in their own ways...
 
dynabol said:
If I had a vacancy, then sure :p

As far as your predicament is concerned, I've been there myself. Fortunately I had sympathetic managers when my dad passed away and I needed a few days off to go to the funeral etc. It's life, and although not always as hard-hitting as what happened to me for example, these things happen. :)

I work in retail, which is a fast paced, challenging environment, and if get back the same attitude, level of commitment, and respect that you show yourself, it's essentially doing half the work for you. Hell, I'd be up the creek with no paddle if I wasn't surrounded by people who are as enthusiastic about work as I am. Sure, you have a bad day (or night, as I'm a night manager!), but Christ, we're all human, we all want to earn a bit of dosh, and I'm sure you'll agree, we all want to do it with the minimum level of fuss; if you can manage to throw in a few laughs, then it's even better! It works both ways - mutual understanding is a key to compromise!

Digressing slightly but there are my thoughts on the subject! :D

Jon
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Yeah and I bet the staff that you manage respect you for your attitude and the work environment is friendly and productive. I understand exactly what your saying and I completely agree.

The stories keep coming in on these bosses/managers there seems to be a lot of them about.

As for that woman in the supermarket thats just beyond arogance :mad: Can't believe sometimes how people can act like that in such situations, total lack of care and regard for anything.
 
Once things have calmed down a bit, I would confront this manager regarding his attitude. People like this rely on their staff being afraid to stand up to them and they get away with it for so long because most never do. When I say "confront" I don't mean storm into his office and smack him!. Arrange a meeting with him and be very professional about it. In my experience most people don't realise they are being nobbs and just need to be told, contructively! Though there is a risk he is an uber nobb and will make your life hell. Then it depends on the type of organisation you work for, can you take it higher, HR , etc?

Whatever you do, don't just brush it off. Such managers can quickly become bullies and once you've shown you'll take it...............well I guess you know the rest. Anyway, more importantly, hope your Dad gets better soon.
 
Well I don't think this is just a few instances him. It seems that since he came to our store he has been an absolute pig, we heard bad stuff about him when it was rummoured he was on his way. It seems to be that it is this guys nature to be so nasty to people I have seen and heard it so many times. Like I said its not the first time HR has been to visit him but they love him at head office and it seems to be brushed under the carpet. He gets the results regardless of how he treats people and thats what they want.

Even when he's not angry or in a mood he through general conversation he is just rude, a good example of this was a few weeks ago when I was being given some instructions by him by reception, customer comes up to us when he is talking and there is a gap in the conversation and the customer asks him "Do you have any toilets in the store please?" and my boss looked at him after he had said it and said "At the back of the store." and immediately after continued to talk to me turning his head away from the customer. I was personally quite shocked, because the situation seemed very rude at the time and I felt quite bad for the old man. I even commented about it to someone else and they were under the same impression that he was rude.

So it seems he doesn't even really know he's like this, as though its his nature now to behave in such a way. I think when he's like this to customers and I have witnessed him and his cocky attitude with them too, he has really lost it. He would never listen to a staff member under him especially after all the complaints - probably thinks he isn't behaving wrongly.
 
Hope you dad is ok mate, forget about your boss, there plenty of gimps like him in the world you will have to deal with :(
 
cheers, well he's much better today and he's been looking at getting a new car as that one is written off. he's had 2 or 3 people drive into him in that car - maybe its hard to see lol!
 
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