How to 'get out more'. Go to pub alone?
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- Dogs (Steal one or two from parents most weekends and enjoy walking them)
- Computers (Hardware, gaming etc.)
- Films/TV Series
- Cars (Own a 1992 MX5)
- Gym
- Music (Rock I suppose)
- Engineering (Employed as a design engineer)
- House (Decorating, slowly doing things)
- Eating out
- Cinema
- General outings like Farmer's markets or food & drink festivals
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That's what I use it for.
I only get on with the female variety! 
Bog troll....lnfao!!
Last time I went to a club was before the smoking ban. Not been since!
With the job I had locally that was impossible as it crushed me, but those days are gone and that ship has sailed!
I have changed my out-of-work life that allows me to properly wind down now and I have significantly improved my grumpiness at work over the last month!
That said, the company is slowly going busy (imo) and am moving to a huge company in an exciting new role in the near future - Just pending background checks.
I've promised myself that in my new role I will keep all frustrations bottled up until I go to the gym
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Caporegime
Sounds like you were definitely in there.
Soldato
well you could join the mx5 forums and attend the "south west" or whatever meets.
You could go to an local internet/gaming cafe which admittedly could be a waste of time, but you might meet some fellow geeks. maybe they might have some events on which would make it less strange ie CS or UT night.
either that or you and your homie hit the local pubs and try and make some freinds. I'm sure he'd do that for you, even if its not his thing. Just play some pool baddly and no doubt people will wanna play some doubles.
You could go to an local internet/gaming cafe which admittedly could be a waste of time, but you might meet some fellow geeks. maybe they might have some events on which would make it less strange ie CS or UT night.
either that or you and your homie hit the local pubs and try and make some freinds. I'm sure he'd do that for you, even if its not his thing. Just play some pool baddly and no doubt people will wanna play some doubles.
Soldato
I go to the pub alone all the time. Know 95% of the regulars in there, most not what I'd consider friends as such but know well enough to hold a conversation. My reason for going out alone is to get away from everyone I know socially
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Think of something you like doing then find a suitable group on MeetUp, or start your own group if one doesn't exist.
There are all sorts of groups on there... near me I saw French language speaking, trance music listening, book reading, horror film watching and food cooking & eating. The key is to find something you enjoy doing, that way you'll be having fun regardless of whether you instantly make friends - and people will want to engage with you because you're the fun guy, as opposed to trying to force any kind of friendship. Many events are free, so there's no excuse really.
There are all sorts of groups on there... near me I saw French language speaking, trance music listening, book reading, horror film watching and food cooking & eating. The key is to find something you enjoy doing, that way you'll be having fun regardless of whether you instantly make friends - and people will want to engage with you because you're the fun guy, as opposed to trying to force any kind of friendship. Many events are free, so there's no excuse really.
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I think you're just showing off really.
To clarify...
You own a house and can pretty much come and go as you please as you have few responsibilities (I'm guessing here).
You have a couple of mates.
You can get weed on demand from said mates.
You can get ladies on demand via dating sites.
You own a classic ladies sports car.
You go to the gym and are now like arnie.
My heart bleeds for you.
Seriously, I don't get time to do half the things you do, and even if I did have time the wife might not be too keen on me joining an adult dating site.
Why not learn hairdressing as you already have the required vehicle, that way you can meet all the ladies you could shake a stick at and walk around town like the Zohan.
To clarify...
You own a house and can pretty much come and go as you please as you have few responsibilities (I'm guessing here).
You have a couple of mates.
You can get weed on demand from said mates.
You can get ladies on demand via dating sites.
You own a classic ladies sports car.
You go to the gym and are now like arnie.
My heart bleeds for you.
Seriously, I don't get time to do half the things you do, and even if I did have time the wife might not be too keen on me joining an adult dating site.
Why not learn hairdressing as you already have the required vehicle, that way you can meet all the ladies you could shake a stick at and walk around town like the Zohan.
As you get older it becomes a non issue frankly. When I was a yoof, like all my mates, I hated to be first in the pub and would always arrive late to ensure i wasn't. These days if I am meeting mates I like to get there early, grab a beer and seat and read OCUK on my telephone device, which these days has more power than a Cray computer and many many colours and things they call Apps which allow me to send mates many many messages that tell them I am in the pub and asking them where the **** are they.
Caporegime
The type of people who might be interested in meeting people who go to the pub on their own are probably not the type of people you want to spend time with.
I think xordium nailed it. Clubs and social events are probably going to help you meet people who are in to similar things as yourself.
I think xordium nailed it. Clubs and social events are probably going to help you meet people who are in to similar things as yourself.
At least you made me laugh
.My worst enemy is myself for being critical!
I often go to the gym due to wanting to get out the house. I certainly don't eat right and don't inject steroids!
Where did the weed thing come from?
When I say I meet more women than ever....not hard when the 2 years previous was 0! That is what I meant
.Being successful from a financial point of view is mutually exclusive from being successful socially (friends, partner).
Yes I have a mortgage and yes I have a weekend car (which cost me £900), but I'd happily get rid of the car for someone worth spending time with
.For reference a 3 bed semi round here in the nicer bit is £100,000. This is very easy to get mixed up with the rest of the UK as Stoke is VERY cheap.
Most single men are not well off because they are on mega money, it is because they only have to pay for themselves.....and shop at Primani
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Another thread I'm interested in
I'm in a similar (not In any way as good!) situation
New area
No friends /gf
Not good at talking to random people
Tried one of those meet up groups but people are pretty dull I have to say.
I'm good chatter once I get going, but making any sort of first move isn't easy
I personally wouldn't go to a pub as I would feel everyone is with someone else and I was intruding
Hopefully some suggestions in here are applicable to me!
I'm in a similar (not In any way as good!) situation
New area
No friends /gf
Not good at talking to random people
Tried one of those meet up groups but people are pretty dull I have to say.
I'm good chatter once I get going, but making any sort of first move isn't easy
I personally wouldn't go to a pub as I would feel everyone is with someone else and I was intruding
Hopefully some suggestions in here are applicable to me!
Soldato
Soldato
Get yourself down the ashwood Friday. Come see me sing lol. Or if you want see a real good singer go see dave ( dimple ) off the forums in his band disturbin the peace. Ive seent hem a few time and there great. The wife goes a lot as well with her dad.
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At least you made me laugh
Good because it was meant to be taken that way.
Now to respond to your op.
I personally don't go to the pub alone, not that I'm against it or anything like that but I imagine if you do start to go alone and don't find people to make friends with you would have to spend longer in the pub on your next visit and before you know it you would be there from work until bedtime every night just on the off chance you might meet some interesting folk to spark some decent conversation.
Learn to play a musical instrument and then have a look around for jamming nights etc...
Soldato
I can't go to the pub on my own. Even waiting for mate to arrive for 20 minutes drives me crazy. I hate it.
However, I do have friends who go to the pub alone and they love it. They say it's for socialising, but really it's because they're borderline alcoholics. If you're going to socialise, you don't go at 9AM on a Monday morning.
However, I do have friends who go to the pub alone and they love it. They say it's for socialising, but really it's because they're borderline alcoholics. If you're going to socialise, you don't go at 9AM on a Monday morning.
This alone will help you get friends.
At the very least you can now bust into a pub, flex some bicep and scare off the local hardnuts and you'll be the man instead. Base bitches will fall at your feet. That's what you want, isn't it?