How would you chat up a waitress?

thesubstitute said:
When I asked if she's seeing anyone, she said she's in between things, which kinda implied she chose not to reject me out right, or she's just very honest.

I followed that by explaining that I wanted to ask her out, she said to give her a couple of weeks.

That was week and a half ago, so it's neither a yes or no.

I think she was at least flattered by the way she laughed when I popped the questions. But if she's in between things (not that I understood what exactly she meant by it) then I'd rather not push anything, certainly not getting my hopes up for anything. At least now I can open with "So how about that drink?" next time I see her... which I've always found uncontextual and cliched as the very first line.
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Sounds like its time to go back, and if she doesn't say no, keep on going back !
 
mulpsmebeauty said:
He said he met her in a shop :)

Good luck with it anyway thesubstitute
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Thanks :)

Raymond Lin said:
Sounds like its time to go back, and if she doesn't say no, keep on going back !
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She doesn't work there everyday, which was the reason it took me two weeks after the initial contact to ask her out. I popped back a couple times in between when she wasn't there, sure made me feel like a stalker...

I'm just gonna give her my number if she's not ready when I go back. At least the ball will be in her courts.
 
Well, TBH next time you should wear trousers like these:

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She could be just testing you perhaps! you said she said give it a couple of weeks so she might be wanting to see if you're serious about it or not because she's probably aware most guys just want superfunhappytime above anything else and those guys would just look elsewhere and move on forgetting all about it instead of waiting!
 
mrk said:
She could be just testing you perhaps! you said she said give it a couple of weeks so she might be wanting to see if you're serious about it or not because she's probably aware most guys just want superfunhappytime above anything else and those guys would just look elsewhere and move on forgetting all about it instead of waiting!
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Certainly thought about that! Figured two weeks isn't that long anyhow, and like OP I can't visit everyday, especially considering I don't know what days she works besides Wednesdays.

It could be a pleasant surprise to turn up when she thinks I've forgotten about her.

Grr... I'm starting to overthink again, which I said to myself I wasn't gonna do :(
 
Well it's obviously a good thing to be in such deep thought about her and she must be pretty much bang on (no pun/joke intended!)
 
thesubstitute said:
Thanks :)



She doesn't work there everyday, which was the reason it took me two weeks after the initial contact to ask her out. I popped back a couple times in between when she wasn't there, sure made me feel like a stalker...

I'm just gonna give her my number if she's not ready when I go back. At least the ball will be in her courts.
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Forget about balls, you want the balls in your court, not hers. Unless she says no, ask her next time you see her. Giving her your number rarely works, asking for hers however at least give you control.
 
mrk said:
Well it's obviously a good thing to be in such deep thought about her and she must be pretty much bang on (no pun/joke intended!)
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Well, it's easy to infatuate over someone you don't know too well. I wouldn't even have noticed that she's very attractive if she didn't make small talks with me to start with. So I suspect it's not all physical :)

Raymond Lin said:
Forget about balls, you want the balls in your court, not hers. Unless she says no, ask her next time you see her. Giving her your number rarely works, asking for hers however at least give you control.
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Well it highly depends on the person's attitude, and I think I fall into the layback approach category. The way I see it, I made it clear about my feelings, if she's genuinely interested she should show it as well.

That's not to say I'll leave it all down to her. I'm still going back next Wednesday to ask her out, but if she asks for more time, it seems reasonable to let her decide whether and when.

DampCat said:
Do we know if the OP got his nuts wet? i need updates.
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Well it's only been two days, and he's a busy man :) I'm very interested to find out as well.
 
If she calls you sweet or nice on the first date you may as well stand up, clout her in the face with a wet tea towel and skip off into the sunset LONELY!!!!!

Being called sweet or nice normally ends up in her ending it before it ever happens.
 
If in a club, just converse every time she comes to your table, be polite and funny if you can, (providing you have a table) and then after a while bang out the twirl and ask her to come for a drink after she finishes her shift.
 
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