Soldato
Well... I would have thought the DPA would cover what you told him in a professional capacity?
How would you deal with this situation?
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Soldato
This.
I wouldn't worry about it though, if the guy spills something then it would simply look bad on him ultimately - very unprofessional.
Soldato
There are several members of staff at my workplace with varying degrees of rusted hatches between the shoulder blades and a very happy rusty hatchet collecting man for a MD.
Also find his address and poo through his letter box.
Should I respond to his e-mail to show no animosity? I worry that he may take my silence as a threat and decide to keep any written communication between us as backup. It's not something I would do myself, but I have to consider every eventuality.
I am not scared about the knowledge getting out threatening my position as much as I just don't need the hassle and gossip. The company has been in talks to sell up so that's as good an excuse as any to absolve myself of perceived loyalty issues. I just didn't use that as a reason in my application...
I am not scared about the knowledge getting out threatening my position as much as I just don't need the hassle and gossip. The company has been in talks to sell up so that's as good an excuse as any to absolve myself of perceived loyalty issues. I just didn't use that as a reason in my application...
Soldato
communicate by taking a crap in one of his desk drawers, unless you know his home address and then just squeeze out a greasy one in the letterbox...........
I'd also run the rim of his coffee mug round your arse crack each morning and put it back in the cupboard for him to use. its the only way to be sure.............
Wut.
Simple misinderstanding I reckon.
Your boss isn't interviewing the recruiter with a view of employing him, he's interviewing him to explain some roles that the company needs filling, pay, perks, holiday time, etc etc. Recruiters attend these meetings all day long, it's their bread and butter. Given he's involved in the same industry you are, it's not too far fetched that this is what's going on is it?
Or have I missed something?
Simple misinderstanding I reckon.
Your boss isn't interviewing the recruiter with a view of employing him, he's interviewing him to explain some roles that the company needs filling, pay, perks, holiday time, etc etc. Recruiters attend these meetings all day long, it's their bread and butter. Given he's involved in the same industry you are, it's not too far fetched that this is what's going on is it?
Or have I missed something?
Oh wow, if that's 100% confirmed, then he's as much to blame as you are. If he has half a brain your contact with him will be swept under a carpet and never mentioned again. If he is thick enough to mention it (which is certainly a possibility given this scenario) then deny everything. Pretend you've never met him.
Avoid contact if at all possible.
Avoid contact if at all possible.
Keep on rolling. Put the mess behind you, contact him and congratulate him on the new role.
If you worry about him divulging details, then a silent treatment or being cold to him isn't going to help that situation. Be friendly and polite, be the bigger guy and start with a clean slate.
Who knows, there is a chance that what happened wasn't sneaky and deviously planned but instead a series of events that happened to lead to this point - during the process an opportunity arose for him that he wanted to take and did so without actually screwing you over (we don't know for sure, at the very worst maybe he led you on a bit to give him an edge for his application - a bit underhanded but not diabolically evil).
Carry on with what you've been doing - keep an eye out for job opportunities, in the meantime carry on working as normal. Who knows, you may actually like the guy and him working there may actually make worklife a little more enjoyable.
If you worry about him divulging details, then a silent treatment or being cold to him isn't going to help that situation. Be friendly and polite, be the bigger guy and start with a clean slate.
Who knows, there is a chance that what happened wasn't sneaky and deviously planned but instead a series of events that happened to lead to this point - during the process an opportunity arose for him that he wanted to take and did so without actually screwing you over (we don't know for sure, at the very worst maybe he led you on a bit to give him an edge for his application - a bit underhanded but not diabolically evil).
Carry on with what you've been doing - keep an eye out for job opportunities, in the meantime carry on working as normal. Who knows, you may actually like the guy and him working there may actually make worklife a little more enjoyable.
Man of Honour
Might have missed it, but what line of work are you in? Bit bizarre for a recruiter to then get a job in a company he is recruiting staff from; unless you work in recruitment?
I would play it vague but honest.
You can acknowledge that he's starting, and add something pithy about looking forward to seeing him again. If he does mouth off about you having met him, then you could say that he contacted you and you did speak briefly, but said very little as you weren't looking to leave. Whatever happens just try to make sure he won't have categorical proof that it's not true.
It might be easy to prove that you spoke with him, and it would be a weird thing to make up. But it would be entirely believable that you had different perceptions of the conversation, and that he might over-egg to someone about you being unhappy / annoyed etc.
You can acknowledge that he's starting, and add something pithy about looking forward to seeing him again. If he does mouth off about you having met him, then you could say that he contacted you and you did speak briefly, but said very little as you weren't looking to leave. Whatever happens just try to make sure he won't have categorical proof that it's not true.
It might be easy to prove that you spoke with him, and it would be a weird thing to make up. But it would be entirely believable that you had different perceptions of the conversation, and that he might over-egg to someone about you being unhappy / annoyed etc.
Kol I have already learned a valuable lesson in discretion/candour through this, not making the same mistake again!
Well... I sent him a short and concise email expressing my agreement that the role was not for me, congratulating him on his new job, and asking for assurance that confidentiality would be preserved.
He replied to confirm. Slight weight off my shoulders, but I'll be keeping a beady eye on him.
Well... I sent him a short and concise email expressing my agreement that the role was not for me, congratulating him on his new job, and asking for assurance that confidentiality would be preserved.
He replied to confirm. Slight weight off my shoulders, but I'll be keeping a beady eye on him.
Soldato
he has now won round one of Hatchet wars. You have exposed your weakness and fear of him blurting something out, this will be used against you. Maybe not now, but definitely later when he needs a strategic tactical advantage at the bargaining table.
Hope you have started looking for another job mate.
Hope you have started looking for another job mate.
I was just thinking that, I would not have mentioned anything about previous conversations - by mentioning it you have given him an upperhand should he turn out to be a douche as he now knows you are concerned.
I suppose we'll see what happens.
There is no fighting his arrival in the company, so I have done what I can to make it as smooth as possible for me in the short term. If he wants to use his knowledge against me, today's e-mail would not have made any difference.
There is no fighting his arrival in the company, so I have done what I can to make it as smooth as possible for me in the short term. If he wants to use his knowledge against me, today's e-mail would not have made any difference.