How would you deal with this situation?

[wildman]

I suppose we'll see what happens.

There is no fighting his arrival in the company, so I have done what I can to make it as smooth as possible for me in the short term. If he wants to use his knowledge against me, today's e-mail would not have made any difference.

the difference it makes is that he now knows there is some level of fear that he can exploit. It may sound insignificant, but it's planted that small seed in his brain that he now knows your are already half way bent over a barrel.

Imagine a promotion opportunity comes up in 6 months time. You both want to go for it, he casually slips in the fact that he thinks he is more suited and that you should consider not going for it because he has "dirt" on you. His read on you now is that he can take you to the cleaners.

People are weird folk when it comes to self preservation and taking care of themselves first.

That's why the not playing your hand at all and keeping quiet in these situations is the best. First rule of business is never trust your colleagues for they will not bat an eyelid while they carve you up to get themselves ahead of the game. When it comes to getting a better paycheck there is not such thing as friends or trusted colleagues at work.

 

[Avenged7Fold]

Your all looking at this from a professional point of view. Sure it seems a little messy like that but maybe if you looked at this in a different way then things might start looking better?

tldr (from a different perspective):

-Unhappy with current job, things are feeling stale and could be affecting general happiness outside of work
-OP Seeks recruiter to change things up
-OP instantly hits it off with said recruiter and relationship starts to veer from what is considered professional, as OP pours his heart out to the recruiter
-A mediocre position turns up, Unsure whether to accept
-Position becomes less appealing as the recruiter starts leaking unflattering information, for the sake of OP! (and possibly their relationship which for the moment is business only)
-To prevent his potential soul-mate from accepting a position (thus ending their professional relationship) recruiter tells the business that the OP is no longer interested in the position
-Recruiter tells OP that interview is queued so as to not end their personal talks with each other, of which the recruiter has grown to love
-Months pass and the interview date approaches.
-Recruiter is desperate to find a way to keep in contact but does not want this façade known to the world so he seeks employment with OP. A more permanent position, that will never end...
-OP on his way to check out the place is told by the recruiter that there is no need and unfortunately are no longer recruiting, this is to prevent from being found and thus ruining the relationship built on many many lies.
-Recruiter gets the job and is ecstatic about working with OP, finally he has found love and in all places he has found it in the workplace. He messages OP that he will be working with him.
-OP all of the sudden feels that this is all a plan to destroy him and his reputation.

To be continued...

Will OP ever find out the recruiters true intentions?
Will the recruiter expose OP after he finds out that the OP is slowly planning his demise via 'merde de boîte aux lettres'?

 

[wildman]

Your all looking at this from a professional point of view. Sure it seems a little messy like that but maybe if you looked at this in a different way then things might start looking better?

tldr (from a different perspective):

-Unhappy with current job, things are feeling stale and could be affecting general happiness outside of work
-OP Seeks recruiter to change things up
-OP instantly hits it off with said recruiter and relationship starts to veer from what is considered professional, as OP pours his heart out to the recruiter
-A mediocre position turns up, Unsure whether to accept
-Position becomes less appealing as the recruiter starts leaking unflattering information, for the sake of OP! (and possibly their relationship which for the moment is business only)
-To prevent his potential soul-mate from accepting a position (thus ending their professional relationship) recruiter tells the business that the OP is no longer interested in the position
-Recruiter tells OP that interview is queued so as to not end their personal talks with each other, of which the recruiter has grown to love
-Months pass and the interview date approaches.
-Recruiter is desperate to find a way to keep in contact but does not want this façade known to the world so he seeks employment with OP. A more permanent position, that will never end...
-OP on his way to check out the place is told by the recruiter that there is no need and unfortunately are no longer recruiting, this is to prevent from being found and thus ruining the relationship built on many many lies.
-Recruiter gets the job and is ecstatic about working with OP, finally he has found love and in all places he has found it in the workplace. He messages OP that he will be working with him.
-OP all of the sudden feels that this is all a plan to destroy him and his reputation.

To be continued...

Will OP ever find out the recruiters true intentions?
Will the recruiter expose OP after he finds out that the OP is slowly planning his demise via 'merde de boîte aux lettres'?

so you are alluding to the fact that the recruiter wants some bum fun with OP ? Interesting plot twist..................

 

[Avenged7Fold]

so you are alluding to the fact that the recruiter wants some bum fun with OP ? Interesting plot twist..................

None of that smut!

He is after a deep and meaningful relationship that his previous clients and job could not offer him. Bum fun is just a bonus

 

[Schlong&Stable]

With a gun.

Next question?

 

[D3K]

Your all looking at this from a professional point of view. Sure it seems a little messy like that but maybe if you looked at this in a different way then things might start looking better?

tldr (from a different perspective):

-Unhappy with current job, things are feeling stale and could be affecting general happiness outside of work
-OP Seeks recruiter to change things up
-OP instantly hits it off with said recruiter and relationship starts to veer from what is considered professional, as OP pours his heart out to the recruiter
-A mediocre position turns up, Unsure whether to accept
-Position becomes less appealing as the recruiter starts leaking unflattering information, for the sake of OP! (and possibly their relationship which for the moment is business only)
-To prevent his potential soul-mate from accepting a position (thus ending their professional relationship) recruiter tells the business that the OP is no longer interested in the position
-Recruiter tells OP that interview is queued so as to not end their personal talks with each other, of which the recruiter has grown to love
-Months pass and the interview date approaches.
-Recruiter is desperate to find a way to keep in contact but does not want this façade known to the world so he seeks employment with OP. A more permanent position, that will never end...
-OP on his way to check out the place is told by the recruiter that there is no need and unfortunately are no longer recruiting, this is to prevent from being found and thus ruining the relationship built on many many lies.
-Recruiter gets the job and is ecstatic about working with OP, finally he has found love and in all places he has found it in the workplace. He messages OP that he will be working with him.
-OP all of the sudden feels that this is all a plan to destroy him and his reputation.

To be continued...

Will OP ever find out the recruiters true intentions?
Will the recruiter expose OP after he finds out that the OP is slowly planning his demise via 'merde de boîte aux lettres'?

I'm enlightened. I thought I had to go to Thailand for that kind of loving.

 

[Kol]

Kol I have already learned a valuable lesson in discretion/candour through this, not making the same mistake again!

Well... I sent him a short and concise email expressing my agreement that the role was not for me, congratulating him on his new job, and asking for assurance that confidentiality would be preserved.

He replied to confirm. Slight weight off my shoulders, but I'll be keeping a beady eye on him.

So yes then, otherwise a recruiter would be moving into a different line of work. They wouldn't go from recruiting into engineering, for example.

I'm sure it'll work out. There are plenty of recruitment companies looking for consultants, I'd just speak with another.

 

[D3K]

the difference it makes is that he now knows there is some level of fear that he can exploit. It may sound insignificant, but it's planted that small seed in his brain that he now knows your are already half way bent over a barrel.

Imagine a promotion opportunity comes up in 6 months time. You both want to go for it, he casually slips in the fact that he thinks he is more suited and that you should consider not going for it because he has "dirt" on you. His read on you now is that he can take you to the cleaners.

People are weird folk when it comes to self preservation and taking care of themselves first.

That's why the not playing your hand at all and keeping quiet in these situations is the best. First rule of business is never trust your colleagues for they will not bat an eyelid while they carve you up to get themselves ahead of the game. When it comes to getting a better paycheck there is not such thing as friends or trusted colleagues at work.

I've worked in a few large companies where that would be entirely true. We are a small company with a flat hierarchy (the boss and us) and each member is, to an extent, invaluable. We have a bit of dead wood that is recognised as such but we'd never remove them. He will be sales, I'm technical and there is nothing he can want from me that he could blackmail me over. If something ever arose then I don't see his ammunition as a big enough threat to succumb to it.

 

[D3K]

So yes then, otherwise a recruiter would be moving into a different line of work. They wouldn't go from recruiting into engineering, for example.

I'm sure it'll work out. There are plenty of recruitment companies looking for consultants, I'd just speak with another.

Well he's come from selling people/jobs to selling for us. His agency focuses on our industry, hence me applying via them. Sales is sales, but I do wonder why he chose us over all the other companies he dealt with.