Hypothetical question

Ripper · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:13

Would you ever get married before living together? Or do you believe living together should come before marriage?

Gilly · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:13

I wouldn't, no.

I wouldn't knock someone who did though.

Knubje · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:15

I am living with but not married. I am in same boat as Gilly, wouldn't knock those who do.

However, when living with someone you really get to know them and if you don't experience that before you get married how can you be sure it's going to work?

peige · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:17

Nope, I never would ! .. and I would knock somebody who was planning to

ScarySquirrel · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:19

No. I live with my GF now and we are not married.

I would think it is a good idea to make sure it works out first

[DOD]Asprilla · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:19

I lived with my wife for three years before we got married (having been together for three and a half years already.

Each to their own, but given the number of people I've seen rush into marriage after what I would consider a very short period (knowing someone for less than three years) and then getting divorced, I consider it prudent.

Col_M · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:25

No, living together can give a good insight into what someone is really like. I guess in some situations and with some couples it can work though.

semi-pro waster · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:36

I'd probably prefer to live with my future wife for a while before marriage as I think it gives you greater understanding of them and their foibles but as other people have said I wouldn't criticise someone if they did.

Majago · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:37

My wife and I got married before living together. Been married 2 years and a week now and yet to experience any problematic issues.

Zogger · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:52

Knubje said:
I am living with but not married. I am in same boat as Gilly

You live on a boat with Gilly? Are you planning to get married?

LiE · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:53

Is there room on the boat for me?

JBuk · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:55

i wouldnt but nowt against anyone that does

bledd · 30 Jul 2008 at 15:58

Majago said:
My wife and I got married before living together. Been married 2 years and a week now and yet to experience any problematic issues.

quick, knock him everyone that said they would!

I agree with Gilly

meths · 30 Jul 2008 at 16:01

I did.

Coming up on our 4th anniversary next month.

meghatronic · 30 Jul 2008 at 16:07

Gilly said:
I wouldn't, no.

I wouldn't knock someone who did though.

^ this.

I think it's a risk if you haven't lived with them before. Then again, I know people that got married having not slept together before.

psychas · 30 Jul 2008 at 16:10

im with my gf 3 years no marrage planing yet

Vixen · 30 Jul 2008 at 16:21

I wouldn't. To me, a relationship when you're living with someone is very different - you can't really hide who you are, and you're pretty much forced to see each others bad sides. Sure, it works for some people, but it is a big risk.

ChrisJSY · 30 Jul 2008 at 16:32

I would NEVER do this.
They change into demons when you move in.

Haiku · 30 Jul 2008 at 16:41

I'd prefer to live with someone for at least a couple of years before getting married. As others have said, the more you know about the other person the better.

iraiguana · 30 Jul 2008 at 16:42

I would not be willing to marry someone I have not lived with before hand, You just never know how much they are going to annoy you otherwise! Also think of the divorce costs etc etc..