Why don't you ask your mate Eddie Hall?
Here he is doing his maximum deadlift at 500kg (notice how he lifts the weight in the middle):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHnh3XRFyDE
Here he is lifting a 2 tonne truck (notice he lifts one end and most if the weight is overhanging)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iMPSkOkWUd8
On the first his hands are about a yard apart and not in the middle.
If his arms were outstretched it would be harder to pickup and if his hands were together it would be harder to pickup.
In the second he is lifting ONE END so it is going to be lighter because he's only picked one end up.
I moved paving slabs today picking up one end and bouncing them into place, no way could I pick them up.
In both instances the objects are still the same weight, he hasn't made them lighter.
I want to be proved wrong but you're giving bad examples.
Minstadave may have the answer.