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Geekazoid

Geekazoid

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girlfriend of 7 years just walked out on me.... Pretty blank and broken at the moment thought she was the one... I put my everything into the relationship... she become abusive recently and now left im guessing someone else was involved I never forced it out of her if there was...

AHHH ocuk forums got to love the place...
 
thanks bro... pretty shell shocked and kind of downer that so much energy and years went into failure... I kiddingly said to one of my mates that if im single I'm going to get a 600cc r6 motorbike and live my life (this was when he was on the rocks with his relationship)... feeling kinda bummed
 
So that R6, how about it..? :)

Nobody can blame you for feeling bummed out... Its more than understandable :(

My first two relationships lasted just 13 months and 15 months. My third and current, is on the rocks at just 7 months... So I don't know how you must feel, but I can imagine.
 
Probably sounds irrelevant right now but time is the best healer. Go and do something rad, keep your mind off things and go live your life starting today.

Oh, and join the club.
 
Pretty sure every guy on this forum has felt this awful pain. The only comfort I can give from experience is to delete memories avoid contact and watch plenty of comedies. Read a good book stay off booze. See your friends. Buy yourself something nice. First few weeks are tough but stay strong and keep busy.
 
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That's pretty sad :( 7 years is a long time to lose. Have you tried to understand why she has been abusive? Any of her friends or your friends understand her well enough to be able to help?

Eitherway, it's not fun/easy at all and I genuinely feel sorry for you :(

No bits of advice, you've just got to keep your head up as much as you can and allow yourself to enjoy a little bit of selfish time to yourself.
 
Sorry to hear that mate, been in your same situation a few years back. My best advice I can give you is cut all ties with her, do not contact her at all and get out as much as you can. Go to friends and family houses to take your mind off it. Eventually it gets easier. The worse thing you can do is keep in contact as it will only prolonge the pain. I found getting a few hobbies really helped me. Good Luck buddy and whatever you do do not sit alone sitting in self pity !
 
I had somebody close have his wife of 12 years announce that it was over, on the way up to spend Christmas with her parents...

Only advice is what has been given: rediscover yourself by doing and focusing on what you are about, what you enjoy and qhat you have probably not done for a few years.

The pain doesn't go quickly but time will give additional and new perspective.

Good luck, buddy. :)
 
I'm so sorry op, I know how you're feeling and it's incredibly hard no matter what the the reason is for things ending... As someone else said one of the best things you can do is delete all memories....

All those texts, emails, photo's, facebook messages etc etc, home movies; delete them...... block her on facebook, even delete her number, block her email.... everything you can think of. It may sound extreme but if you don't when you start feeling low you'll start going through them and make yourself feel worse..... if you don't delete her number you will end up calling her and giving up your self respect.

If she texts you over something important like in regards to coming off the mortgage, respond then delete don't give yourself any opportunity to crack.


Then allow yourself time to wallow in self pity, but after a week or two of not doing anything about it get up and do something productive! Go get that bike you want, volunteer for something, take up an old hobby again or find a new one.... spend as much time as you can with friends and I promise in time you will care less and less...

There will be times mate where you feel you miss her and are desperate to have her back, you will have setbacks but you ill be okay.... then you will be fine, then you will be good.
 
As the great Dr Dre said "bitches aint **** (but hoes and tricks) " :mad:


Make time for you.... avoid any contact and move on with YOU'RE life.... she is clearly not caring about you so sod her....
 
Feel your pain mate. My ex walked out before new year. It's taken me a long time but things do get better.
I agree with the blocking comments I didn't have that option as we had a child but it would have been much easier if I could have.
I realised I had lost me in family life but have to say that I'm now finding myself again and it is getting better.
Live your life day by day.
 
sorry to hear that man. Something similar happened to me, was with a girl from 17, I thought she was everything, invested everything into the relationship, visited the world with her etc etc...8 years later she decided she wanted to be single after doing nothing but tell me I was everything to her also. I was shell shocked, took me 6 months to get over her, then came along the girl who I've been with ever since. Met her on a night out, quite a catch 7 years younger than me, getting marries next May. It's only now I'm seeing what a real woman is and what a relationship should be. My fiancee is the most amazing, caring, fun woman in the world, and dare I say it, waaaaay hotter than my ex :D

Long story short, there's far better out there, you can do better and you will. You'll then look back in the future and realise everything worked out for the best. It will be strange to start out, but enjoy your life with your friends, go out, be happy, do things for you and not for someone else, basically look after number 1 for a while. When your not expecting it, something mind blowing will happen.


chin up son.
 
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