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Delete her number, delete her from social media....etc... and get on with your life. Have some fun for a bit and do what you want without having to please anyone else. Yes, it will take time and yo'll have times when you remember things you both enjoyed but thats life.

And when you're ready, look for someone if you want to. You'll enjoy life a lot more. Have fun in Amsterdam!
 
Bickaxe said:
Delete her number, delete her from social media....etc... and get on with your life. Have some fun for a bit and do what you want without having to please anyone else. Yes, it will take time and yo'll have times when you remember things you both enjoyed but thats life.

And when you're ready, look for someone if you want to. You'll enjoy life a lot more. Have fun in Amsterdam!
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This exactly.
 
6 mths minimum with no contact other than the essential financial disassociation stuff - no thinking up excuses to contact her either!

7 years with someone is a long time, you're a different person to the man you were 7 years ago. Keep putting one foot in front of the other until you're comfortable in your own head. You said you put everything into the relationship; keep a bit back for yourself next time round :)

Keep you head held high and hold on - good times are coming!
 
Times a great healer, get out and about and start enjoying life, theres a hotty waiting out there for you somewhere, don't waste your time on her if she was mean/abusive to you..

The Dam sounds like a great place to start ;)
 
Geekazoid said:
Thank you all for the helpful comments much bro love for you guys... Well a wee update mates come around to pick me off the ground and now were off to Amsterdam 4 day bender they paid for me... My promise was to forget... although i have been tempted sending her a cheeky picture text me enjoying my time with the boys then deleting her off my whatsapp for good...

Again much thanks guys...
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Awesome mates you have there fella....
 
Why do nice guys finish last? Why can you never find a girl that is attracted to a guy that's nice? It seems girls are only attracted to **** :(

Feel sorry for you pal, chin up though. If someone who was supposed to love you can hurt you that bad then they arnt worth your love or time. Don't give in and txt her.
 
My gf told me tonight she didn't love me. She was coming for Christmas and said to my mum tonight how excited she was. She told me yesterday she loved me. There was no warning or anything, we had a great weekend as it was her birthday. We have a trip to Switzerland booked for Christmas. I feel so heart broken :( I feel so angry, how am I meant to understand this? first time I've cried in front of my parents since I was a child. I honestly don't know how to feel or what to do. Pretty ironic that it was me giving the advice I now need in the last post :( :(
 
OP - Sorry to hear your news. There is great advice here but understand how hard it actually is to follow. Do your best, enjoy your trip! Try not to contact her. Sending her a picture on watsapp in your current state of mind means "ha look at me i dont need you" but it really means "i miss you". Don't contact her because you are just dragging out your pain.

Cosmic - Sorry to hear mate. I've been there to. One day saying shes so in love with me, the day after saying she wants to break up. Probable the hardest kind of break up as it will confuse you and mess your head up and make you think there is still a strong chance.

Have you talked to her? What is her reasons?
 
Seems the festive period is always the worst for this kind of thing.
my brother has had two birds walk out on him at christmas, its horrid.
 
Geekazoid said:
thanks bro... pretty shell shocked and kind of downer that so much energy and years went into failure... I kiddingly said to one of my mates that if im single I'm going to get a 600cc r6 motorbike and live my life (this was when he was on the rocks with his relationship)... feeling kinda bummed
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CBR's are sexier :p
 
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Time to join a gym, keep yourself busy by getting big and strong. And when you are feeling angry the iron never argues...

Seriously, big hugs. Never easy. Echo all the above, keep yourself busy, rediscover old friends and old hobbies.. Fill your time with stuff you always wanted to do.

:)
 
She said she just doesn't love me the same amount. I feel so hurt because I haven't done anything wrong. There was no warning in the slightest. I was there for her, I treated her like a gf should be treated, I was only ever good to her. I feel like I can never find someone that loves me the same back. Starting to think it's me! The thought of her eventually finding someone else is making my chest pound so hard. :( how do I stop myself from txting/ringing her and being angry and upset. I feel like I want to try get even but try to do everything to make Her change her mind :(
 
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Sorry to hear that bud, it really does suck to begin with but just fill your time with things you enjoy doing and surround yourself with good mates as much as you can and you'll bounce back.

The best thing you can do is cut all contact and delete all previous messages and contact information, I wish I'd had that advice after a GF left me years ago as all you do otherwise is drag out the breakup so much longer and keep giving yourself false hope.

As a silver lining however what TonyTurbo said is very true and I'm also with an amazing lady now who I would never have met if not for going through that breakup, and probably wouldn't appreciate what I have as much if I hadn't been in relationships before - so you certainly shouldn't see it as 7 years wasted by any means.

We need a bro-hug emoticon for GD.
 
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