If you could change an event in your life what would it be ?

[Robbod]

So it seems like you've lived life in your sister's shadow, and that's been miserable for you. It's easy for us on a forum to laugh at you for wallowing about it, but if you've been downtrodden the whole time by parents, other family, etc. always lauding your sister while you struggled a bit in comparison, then I sort of get it.

But you are 31, not 13. The only person to solve this in your head is you, have some respect for yourself and stop blaming things on her. Proper happiness can only come of your own doing. If she went bankrupt you might feel better about yourself for a day, but it wouldn't actually improve your life.

Stop telling yourself you're too old too change, stop pretending the only thing holding you back is her success and the fact you felt like you weren't as good, start thinking about yourself.

You are the problem here, not her. Some people would have been spurred on by a successful sibling, rather than allowing themselves to be held back. You are the one that needs to change, not her.

It has effected me all of my life.

 

[Robbod]

I know i have said a lot of things that you don`t agree with and well opinions are like arse holes everyone has one.

But this one i have been wondering about the last few days. As i have previously said i moved to York in 2003 and my dad moved the year before and my sister and her then BF lived with him while she did her last year at Leeds Met.

I remember discussing this with my family in early 2002 and i said that i was unhappy with this and i thought they were showing favoritism to my sister etc and i said that i did not want to move but eventually went along with it, i was also unhappy as my dad would not be around, my parents had remortgaged the house we had to buy a second home in york also.

I do wonder how things would have turned out if i had dug my heels in more and not moved or at least been able to argue more towards staying in Lincolnshire but moving to Lincoln or Boston for example. Or at a stretch Grimsby or Peterborough.

I wonder how things would have turned out would they have been better or worse.

I also wonder as in summer 2003 my sister moved to London and if i had stressed the importance of sticking together she may not have gone thus her career would not have been as strong.

I also wonder what would have happened if my sister had not stayed at her grammar school for 6th form to do A levels and instead my parents had forced/pushed her into going to college in Boston or Lincoln.

 

[Robbod]

Hmmmm I thinks the OP does protest too much and has an unhealthy obsession with his sister. Please talk to a professional.

You think your funny ??

 

[Robbod]

My sister has and has always had things better than me.

Got both my parents when they were younger.
Got to go to a better school.
Didn't have to move at 16 from where she grew up.
Got to go to 6th form not to college.
Didn't graduate during a recession.
Didn't fail upteen job interviews (has never failed an interview)
She ernes more.
Has a newer car.
Has a much better job
Gets to live somewhere cool.

The only two times i can say i have ever say that i have beaten her in anything are as follows.

I was a prefect at my school, she wasn't at her`s. But thats kinda like one of those odd facts like Ibrahimović never winning the champions league or Rio Ferdinand never winning the FA cup.

Also i passed my driving test first time it took her 3 attempts again that`s kinda one of those wired flukes like Danny Simpson having more Premier league winners medals than Steven Gerrard

 

[Robbod]

Everything i have in my life is rubbish.

My home, tv, laptop, phone, job, qualifications, car, job, chance of a relationship.

You name it

Why am i so rubbish at everything ?

 

[Robbod]

Why do some people never fail at anything ?

 

[Robbod]

I do often wonder why my sister chose to stay at school and go into 6th form instead of going to college