I'm in the doghouse...

danrok · 1 Apr 2006 at 11:21

I think the problem is that you are about to enter in to a serious financial commitment, namely a mortgage. Then she discovers you've been spending money without telling her, so it is understandable that she now has concerns.

PardonTheWait · 1 Apr 2006 at 11:23

Old Wino said:
*bitter, pessamistic, blah blah..*

It's times like this where a kid could do with some harsh truths and not the Oprah, Dr Phil, daytime TV, type garbage advice everyone else seems to be regurgatating (spel.) to him.

The kid is weak, needs to wake up now or have a miserable life

See you're getting confused again.

Have you never met any happy people, or something?

tickle me elmo · 1 Apr 2006 at 11:26

malc30 said:
Can we clarify that your partner is a man.
For no other reason than odviously both sexes react differently to acts of deception.

i believe it is a man from previous threads he has made

Snash · 1 Apr 2006 at 11:33

Old Wino said:
<snip>
You'll prolly go into debt again, get a minor alchohol addiction, earn some scars, sleep with a few ugly women but will have a more interesting personality as a consequence and you can always re-visit the whole 'settling down', marriage thing in 5-10 years time.
<snip>

This man speaketh the truth, he is wise, follow his way, and you will eventually be happy

NightSt@lk3r · 1 Apr 2006 at 11:35

i dont intend on getting into a serious relationship till im at least 40 heck couldnt deal with the stress

Old Wino · 1 Apr 2006 at 11:35

konicky · 1 Apr 2006 at 13:14

Spike_UK said:
We both have fairly high income jobs. I get 23k a year and my other half earns 31k, so money really shouldn't be an issue. We live at my mother's for next to nowt and only have to worry about food and travel costs. We've been here for 2 years, cleared all our debts and saved almost 6k.

So you've only managed to save 6k out of 108k!
Are you sure your partner has not been buying stuff behind your back?!?

dun · 1 Apr 2006 at 13:33

konicky said:
So you've only managed to save 6k out of 108k!
Are you sure your partner has not been buying stuff behind your back?!?

Exactly what i thought when i read it. The money you are both bringing home and like you say it costs you nothing to live at your parents house so it begs the question... What the hell is all the money going on?

LoadsaMoney · 1 Apr 2006 at 13:46

Its your money, up to you what you do with it.

Kol · 1 Apr 2006 at 13:47

konicky said:
So you've only managed to save 6k out of 108k!
Are you sure your partner has not been buying stuff behind your back?!?

dun said:
Exactly what i thought when i read it. The money you are both bringing home and like you say it costs you nothing to live at your parents house so it begs the question... What the hell is all the money going on?

I believe it's possible he had a few debts which ate a lot of the spare cash?

Spike_UK said:
We've been here for 2 years, cleared all our debts and saved almost 6k.

Bunka · 1 Apr 2006 at 13:52

LoadsaMoney said:
Its your money, up to you what you do with it.

Not really, when they are both putting money together to save for a mortgage.

dun · 1 Apr 2006 at 14:25

Mikol said:
I believe it's possible he had a few debts which ate a lot of the spare cash?

Oh ye just re-read abit more closely, like you say may have had a large mortgage etc :\
Thanks

paul@ · 1 Apr 2006 at 15:06

6k saved, it will take you guys a fair amount of time to reach 108k.

108k deposit for a place? That seems quite high for a deposit!

sniffy · 1 Apr 2006 at 16:47

To me it would be the principle of it, not the actual money.

Think, you and your partner are living with your parents (Not an ideal situation aye?) and trying to save up and got 6 grand, then you go blow a grand on toys.

I would be annoyed fella..

PhilthyPhil · 1 Apr 2006 at 16:59

paul@ said:
6k saved, it will take you guys a fair amount of time to reach 108k.

108k deposit for a place? That seems quite high for a deposit!

108k is their joint income over 2 years, not the deposit amount.

paul@ · 1 Apr 2006 at 18:09

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paul@ · 1 Apr 2006 at 18:11

PhilthyPhil said:
108k is their joint income over 2 years, not the deposit amount.

Ah I see, rather selfish spending money behind the back of the missus. Every damn penny I spend is subject to my wife's approval, despite the fact I'm the main breadwinner... :confused:

alexakasloth · 1 Apr 2006 at 18:29

I think you should do what asprilla has said, make a set amount that both of you can spend on what you want. Sorry I can't help with resolving the other issue

me227 · 1 Apr 2006 at 18:34

Well you've saved 6k and you've spent 1k on yourself that is a rather large proportion of your savings.

To everybody saying how it's your money and do what you want with it, yes thats truth but do you not have the concept of saving together and working together in a relationship? :confused:

Fair enough you should still have some free will over your own money but also be considerate for the other half.

Why don't you's sit down and talk and maybe try and work out some kind of agreement so you's can treat yourselfs every few months. It normally doesn't work out in relationships when people save and all their money is bookmarked for savings with no room for treating themselves.

atpbx · 1 Apr 2006 at 18:46

On the one hand:
This situation is unfortunetly one of the downsides of being a man.

YOU BUY TONS OF WORTHLESS CRAP.

On the other hand:

This is a not to be missed opertunity to buy MORE WORTHLESS CRAP.

Grasp this chance with both hands.

I'm in the doghouse...

Gangster