In the wrong?

Dreadi · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:30

Sounds like he's upto a bit of naughty naughty with a married women

Rosbif · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:31

What colour are the knickers?

chrislocalboy · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:33

Tut tut......... shocking!!! :eek:

benktlottie · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:39

chrislocalboy said:
Tut tut......... shocking!!!

I've been reading your replies and I get the impression youre a nice chap. Stick with what you know mate. If you are gonna see the other wonam then just make sure your partner doesnt find out. I can tell that even just posting this thread, youre not convinced 'doing' the other woman is a good idea and I suspect youre dead committed to your partner. Youre just toying with the idea of cheating, and the flattery of the other woman telling you she will 'do ya' is only adding to your confused state. Flirting is cool, and allowed in the partners eyes (after all, I bet she flirts when she has to!) so best stick to that I thinks!

chrislocalboy · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:41

benktlottie said:
I've been reading your replies and I get the impression youre a nice chap. Stick with what you know mate. If you are gonna see the other wonam then just make sure your partner doesnt find out. I can tell that even just posting this thread, youre not convinced 'doing' the other woman is a good idea and I suspect youre dead committed to your partner. Youre just toying with the idea of cheating, and the flattery of the other woman telling you she will 'do ya' is only adding to your confused state. Flirting is cool, and allowed in the partners eyes (after all, I bet she flirts when she has to!) so best stick to that I thinks!

Thanks mate, nah I dont want to cheat and dont think I ever could but I'm just a bit messed up at the moment........ its all lust I think and a few other things which have been hit on by some of the other guys who have replied tonight.

Thanks fellas!!!

benktlottie · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:42

chrislocalboy said:
Thanks mate, nah I dont want to cheat and dont think I ever could but I'm just a bit messed up at the moment........ its all lust I think and a few other things which have been hit on by some of the other guys who have replied tonight.

Thanks fellas!!!

Regarding her smooch, its not the end of the world. If she'd done anything else, I'd say leave her, but a snogs a snog. No big deal. Save it for in the future as a 'get out of jail' card if you ever snog/touch/nail someone in the future ! LOL

chrislocalboy · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:46

benktlottie said:
Regarding her smooch, its not the end of the world. If she'd done anything else, I'd say leave her, but a snogs a snog. No big deal. Save it for in the future as a 'get out of jail' card if you ever snog/touch/nail someone in the future ! LOL

PMSL

On a serious note, I nearly left her even from a kiss.......... trust me if it would have gone further I'd have the house to myself now and probably would have the girl from work here with me

But thank god it didnt........... and to be honest I dont think she ever would, I trust her with that even after she kissed someone.

atpbx · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:58

chrislocalboy said:
I've read this about 10 times and it still does not make sense!!!!

Is this just a random post or does it have some meaning that I'm to much of a muppet to pick up on

You feel bad because your missus has kissed someone else.

Imagine how he must feel knowing that I'm nailing his "missus".

atpbx · 27 Jan 2007 at 20:59

Rosbif said:
What colour are the knickers?

Black Lacy ones.

chrislocalboy · 27 Jan 2007 at 21:00

Rosbif · 27 Jan 2007 at 21:07

I wonder what kind of sensations that bloke experiences when he sees his wife get all dressed up for another man? Amazing he puts up with it .. men never cease to amaze me

atpbx · 27 Jan 2007 at 21:15

Rosbif said:
I wonder what kind of sensations that bloke experiences when he sees his wife get all dressed up for another man? Amazing he puts up with it .. men never cease to amaze me

Well he hasnt even raised his voice to me, he is pathetic.
He knows what she does and he just..........blocks it out.
I almost feel sorry him and the complete shame he must feel for not having the balls to either come and confront me, or kick her out and let her be happy rather than whine about the kids all the time.

Cosmic182 · 27 Jan 2007 at 21:17

a little advice would be maybe to go stay at a friends house for a while......being away from your loved ones can really make you see life in a different perspecitive and being away from them makes you think how lucky you are to have them and how much you really love them....i had a friend who i met around 2 years ago who i had feeling for, must have been the best part of 6 months.....she had feelings for me but was in your situation seeing someone else........and being in that situation knowing that you love and care for that person and would do anything , you begin to realise you know that nothing could happen.....i mean it could but it CANT....would you really want to jepordise what you have with you wonderful fiance for someone who youve known for a few months??....even tho you have feelings the best thing maybe would be to try forget about this other person, i know thats hard as i had to but do things you havnt done for a while get your mind active...spend more time with your fiance do things you havnt done for a while, your going to devote yourself and life to this one person, youll share every intamate moment and in my opinion if your this temted by another person you should stay away and your fiance should come first...... i wouldnt say your in the wrong no because you cant control these feelings but what you can do is try steer these feelings in to freindship.......

if your having these feelings and temptations this early in the relationship can you deep down seeing it being a solid relationship?

hope everything works out for you .....and hope which ever you choose youll lead a happy life

^TANK^ · 27 Jan 2007 at 21:20

calnen said:
If you cant trust yourself being around her, then you know what to do! Your relationship with your fiancee comes first.

IMO The grass may look greener, but its probably not.

Morba · 27 Jan 2007 at 21:23

be thankful that you are leaving soon, will save the hassle of being around her.

wont take her out of your mind, but it wont take long as you havent actually done anything yet.

Gaygle · 27 Jan 2007 at 23:28

i think that its just lust. She's something new, alright, something new and hot to look at. But isn't it sometimes nicer to know you could have had the hot girl, but you decided you wanted someone else. It seems that the hiccup that your fiancee had has affect you quite badly. That seems to be the thing you need to fix first. If she's still with you and happy (genuinely) then it was probably a lust thing with her as well, but she was drunk and maybe took it another step because of that. Imagine you were drunk and with this "hot girl at work", i feel that something may happen when u let your guard down, but maybe you would feel after it was totally wrong and definately not what you wanted.

Any updates?

chrislocalboy · 28 Jan 2007 at 11:24

Well I'm back at work tomorrow and will update you as and when something happens or I have 'the talk'

Thanks fellas, you have been a great help

Burnsy2023 · 28 Jan 2007 at 13:00

chrislocalboy said:
Well I'm back at work tomorrow and will update you as and when something happens or I have 'the talk'

Thanks fellas, you have been a great help

We await the outcome.

Good luck dude, I hope she's understanding.

Burnsy

killsta · 28 Jan 2007 at 13:06

To be honest mate, in my book, if you haven't told your fiancee about this woman at work, you're already sort of cheating on her.

RoboCod · 28 Jan 2007 at 13:29

Just get round to her's and intrude!

Do this as much as you can until the missus find's out... then worry about the repercussions when you get to them

At that point I'd try and convince her into the belief of free love.

Seriously though, you have feelings for another woman. You cannot be fully truthful of your love for your fiancee.