I've read through this thread with interest and at first I thought buying the 4070 would give you a marked improvement in performance, albeit, it would be bottlenecked largely, but still, a marked improvement on your current card. However, after reading the thread fully, I now think it'd be a wasted upgrade, unless you upgrade the rest of your system too, i.e motherboard, ram, CPU.
If you are deadset on wanting to keep your current machine intact, then obviously you need to upgrade everything, not just the motherboard , CPU, RAM, and card. Without wanting to sound rude, you seem to be looking for a solution that isn't there, when basically you have two choices at this point, buy the 4070, be disappointed in its massively bottlenecked performance, or upgrade your full system from top to toe. If cost is an issue, like it is for most of us, then do like most of us do, which is make do and mend with your current system, whilst saving for a new one. Look at it this way, your current system is almost ten years old, it owes you nothing, I dare say you've had your monies worth out of it. To be honest, regardless of whether you were looking at a new graphics card or not, if you're a gamer, which you clearly are, then it's probably time to upgrade the lot anyway - the performance improvement could be massive for not a great deal of money, bearing in mind you were buying the 4070 anyway.