Is it such a bad idea to go out with a friends Ex?

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I just don't see it like that I guess...especially if as the OP has said, it was ages ago that the friend and the girl went out.

I don't go telling all my mates as soon as I have a gf, ex of one of my mates or not, so not telling him doesn't seem an issue to me.

Having said that, I've not gone out with a mate's ex. a few friends have done it with mates exs and nobody has cared in the slightest, however they found out.

I find it quite sad that people worry about it though and see it as being behind his back and stabbing him in the back. I could see it if he did it shortly after they broke up, and it was her that broke them up, or even she cheated on the mate with him, but as it is I don't see an issue really.

rover416i said:
The thread 2 weeks ago would be mine, and no I didn't tap it.

Baaaaaad idea, keep out!
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and WHY NOT?!

Also your thread appears to be be deleted. :p
 
If you deliberately keep anything from a mate you're in the wrong IMO. It doesn't matter what it is really, but if you are up front and honest with people and they still get their knickers in a twist they have no-one to blame but themselves. If you hide it from someone and then they kick off when they find out, the moral high ground is theirs and they can issue a partially-justified kicking from it ;)

I think also that it very much depends on the age of the people involved.
 
Gilly said:
I'd tell the guy doing it that if he didn't tell her ex then I would.

Just hope that he does, cos if you get actively involved then you're gonna lose in every single conceivable way.

It's wrong to do it behind his back, it isn't wrong to do it. Depends what he values more, poon or mates. It's bro's before ho's.
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Meh, I just can't see it like that. I'd not deliberately hold something like that from a mate, but I wouldn't find them and tell them as it shouldn't be an issue in the first place. If your mates are that easily irritated then they aren't that good mates really. :)
 
InvaderGIR said:
Why? Are people not allowed to know other people and date who they like once they are single? :confused:
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Sure, they can do what they want. But it depends if he values his friendship with this other guy. The other guy might have an issue with it, and I imagine he definitely would have an issue with it which is why this guy hasn't told him already. If there wasn't going to be a problem he would have told him.

He'd be much better off being up front about it from the beginning. If he wants to take this approach of "its all in the past its none of his business who I see" then he can have no complaints if his friend then makes him none of his business.

I know I'd prefer to know about a friend seeing one of my exes rather from the very beginning. I'd hate to find it out off someone else because he'd been keeping it secret from me.
 
InvaderGIR said:
Meh, I just can't see it like that. I'd not deliberately hold something like that from a mate, but I wouldn't find them and tell them as it shouldn't be an issue in the first place. If your mates are that easily irritated then they aren't that good mates really. :)
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Why is that? My ex faked a miscarriage and harrassed me for about a year. Say one of my mates starts seeing her and bringing her back into my life. That isn't going to go down well with me and he would know that it wouldn't, yet he'd see her anyway. Who is the bad mate in that scenario? For one he would end up being left out of the social group we have.

Not every relationship ends peacefully or amicably. If it was a relationship that lasted 5 months, ended on good terms then I'm sure this guy would have no problem with his mate seeing his ex. If it was like mine however...
 
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The guys I hang around with would never date another mates ex. It's just one of the things we think shouldn't be done. Dating a mates sister is also a no no.
 
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