Is she being selfish??

eddiemcgarrigle · 17 Sep 2009 at 21:58

A 9 mile commute is nothing more than a local jaunt. I have a 12 mile journey to work which takes 20 minutes in the car and 40 on my bike. Easy.

Rich1988 · 17 Sep 2009 at 21:59

9 miles isnt much of a commute I do 15 miles and dont even conisder it a commute! shes a big wuss tbh

.Lethal · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:00

You haven't even moved in somewhere and there are problems already!

If she cant even take the time to view a place you rate very highly and say is the perfect place then yes she is being really selfish.

There is no harm in looking at the place, screw being an extra 10 minutes closer to your family.

If she has that mentality she isn't ready to leave home!

Rich1988 · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:02

yea sounds like she has issues, ovary punch might be applicable in such an occasion?

slylittlefox · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:07

If you let her get away with this, you will do so for the rest of your relationship.

Dump her if she doesn't agree to look at it and give it a fair chance.

Yamahahahahaha · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:15

So basically you have to make all the concessions?

Yes, she is being unreasonable.

Jingo... · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:23

Good friends of mine commute ~55 and 60 miles respectively each way to work - now that's a commute.

9 miles is a decent 'bicycle commute' and 25 mins in a car is bugger all.

DominicStar · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:25

Is she always that lazy?

Hellsmk2 · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:26

She doesn't want to live there - deal with it. There is nothing selfish about saying no to something that you know will make you unhappy.

MarkDavis · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:29

Teledude said:
So I went and looked at one round here tonight and OMG - its stunning.

Its 9 miles from her place of work - about 25-35 min drive and about 20 minutes on the bus to my office - its bang on budget and has everything we both want.

Has she been smoking the crack pipe?

She's got a car, can sit back, have the radio on and be at work, presuambly door to door within 30 mins. That's nothing. She should try living and commuting in London....

You have a slightly shorter journey of 20 mins but then you have to hang about in the wind, rain and cold waiting for a bus to turn up and then fight the locals to get a seat.

And you say the house is stunning.

Makes we wonder whether her intransigence is anything to do with the house or commute at all....is she generally one of these 'inflexible' types, who always wants everything 'her way'?

If so, you might want to rethink the living together / marriage lark.....

PS. Email the link to this thread to her

The Mad Rapper · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:31

Just kick her in the fanny and tell her to stop being akward!

*Standard OCUK GD response*

P.S. Show her this thread so she knows she is WRONG on the Internet!

slylittlefox · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:32

Jingo... said:
Good friends of mine commute ~55 and 60 miles respectively each way to work - now that's a commute.

9 miles is a decent 'bicycle commute' and 25 mins in a car is bugger all.

HIIII-FIIIIIVE

I commute 54 miles each way into Manchester every day, roughly an hours drive each way.

BiGT- · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:41

Mr Jack said:
Nope, she's perfectly within her rights not to want to travel that far. Find someone else.

Fixed

Begbie · 17 Sep 2009 at 22:44

Zefan said:
9 miles is not a commute, so she's clearly a nut case.

Therefore the solution is to leave her.

Its 9 more than I travel!!

MarkDavis · 17 Sep 2009 at 23:01

slylittlefox said:
HIIII-FIIIIIVE

I commute 54 miles each way into Manchester every day, roughly an hours drive each way.

If that's through Snake Pass, you deserve a medal!

E61 Grouphead · 17 Sep 2009 at 23:14

Tell the cheeky mare to get a bicycle. Her arse and thighs should improve and the money saved on the 'commute' can go towards your new pool table

You need to set a precedent for the future of your relationship by asserting your dominance. Good luck OP

Teledude · 17 Sep 2009 at 23:27

Right after chatting to family and friends I'm going for another look tomorrow to shake on it - just need a polite way of telling her its now or never.

GHz · 17 Sep 2009 at 23:32

Yes she is, and tell her to stfu

Tell her that if she drove properly she would be able to do that distance in less than 9 mins.

Amleto · 17 Sep 2009 at 23:33

Teledude said:
Right after chatting to family and friends I'm going for another look tomorrow to shake on it - just need a polite way of telling her its now or never.

let us know how that goes for you

Teledude · 17 Sep 2009 at 23:35

Badly I'm guessing. Plenty more fish in the sea if she can't see past her issues I guess.