Is this a bit weird?

throwaway4372 · 2 Oct 2022 at 12:44

Yes it's weird, I would not go, because it's someone I barely know. Sounds like she was a bit obsessed.

cheesyboy · 2 Oct 2022 at 12:45

Seems like it would be the nice thing to do, to attend.

Plus, it gives you a proper ending to this anecdote of young love spurned. Makes you sound bad if it ends without you going to the funeral.

Efour · 2 Oct 2022 at 12:51

if shes still warm there's a chance.

Thekwango · 2 Oct 2022 at 12:52

Was she fit?

Mysterae_ · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:10

It's quite nice to know that she was probably thinking of you for so long and for what could have been.

However, are you sure of her passing? It could be an elaborate set up for a very surprising reunion.

Beef Burger · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:11

Ayahuasca · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:12

Thought the story would have led to you asking if you should clap cheeks. Left disappointed.

Beef Burger · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:15

From my own personal viewpoint (being someone who's quite soft deep down, emotional, and a hopeless romantic) I'd feel quite special and honoured that this girl had important feelings for me and had carried them for so many years.

Of course I would go and pay my respects. Why is that even a question in your mind?

cheesyboy · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:17

I suppose another thing to think about is: are you currently single? There might be women at the funeral who've heard what a dreamboat you are. Like, their dead friend vouched hard for you.

(I'm only partly joking)

Tired9 · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:18

Ayahuasca said:
Thought the story would have led to you asking if you should clap cheeks. Left disappointed.

Could be in with the sisters.

adidan · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:18

Go. Find out more about her. Eat and drink.

Or don't. Depends if it matters to you.

Chris Wilson · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:36

Keep well clear, after the drinks start flowing the relatives will probably blame you for her demise

If you avoided a relationship in life it's a bit off to pretend to show emotional attachment in death.

lakitu · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:36

If she wanted you at her funeral and clearly liked you it would be nice for you and her family to go. Nothing weird at all. Don't feel obliged though.

Resident · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:41

adidan said:
Somebody you knew who liked you wants you at their funeral. What's weird about that?

I haven't seen or spoken to her in nearly 20 years. We were never friends & only in a few classes together. The reunion night was really the only time outside of class that I'd spend anytime with her and even then it was only minutes.

Diagro said:
I'd go.

Clearly she recalled fond memories of you in her last days.

Honor them and go to it.

Only 1 day if your life. And free food.

The Mrs says I should too, for the same reasons. For some unfathomable reason I clearly made an impression.

Thekwango said:
Was she fit?

Last time I saw her she wasn't bad but then she was covered in the usual female 'war-paint'.

cheesyboy said:
I suppose another thing to think about is: are you currently single? There might be women at the funeral who've heard what a dreamboat you are. Like, their dead friend vouched hard for you.

(I'm only partly joking)

Happily married, renewing vows next year.

throwaway4372 said:
Yes it's weird, I would not go, because it's someone I barely know. Sounds like she was a bit obsessed.

Hence the question. I asked because half of me said it was weird.

Jelly4mybelly · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:46

And I am instantly thinking of that Friends episode where Ross pretended to be dead to see who turned up at his funeral.

adidan · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:46

@Resident if it feels too weird just don't go.

Minusorange · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:49

That plot twist at the end of the story, yeah it's weird but I'd personally go just to fulfill the last wishes of a dead person

adidan · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:50

Minusorange said:
That plot twist at the end of the story, yeah it's weird but I'd personally go just to fulfill the last wishes of a dead person

I think I would too, just to find out more about them

Matty8787 · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:51

It's a bit strange yeah, seems like she was hung up on you.

I am assuming in the periods between meeting there wasn't any contact and she kind of clung to the idea.

I on a personal level wouldn't go as A) I don't really know that person, one meeting since school at the age of 25 and now I am in my 40's and the parents I didn't know either.

HungryHippos · 2 Oct 2022 at 13:52

I wouldn't go, funerals should be things you go to because you know and care about the person who passed away. In your case it sounds like she was an incredibly distant person from your current life, so much so you can't even call her a friend.