Is this a bit weird?

[dlockers]

I'd go.

Clearly she recalled fond memories of you in her last days.

Honor them and go to it.

Only 1 day if your life. And free food.

She may have hot daughter's now too

 

[dlockers]

I wouldn't go, funerals should be things you go to because you know and care about the person who passed away. In your case it sounds like she was an incredibly distant person from your current life, so much so you can't even call her a friend.

Na funerals are just excuses for long lost relatives to get together and LARP about being sad/sorry for the immediate family, and give the illusion that the death-eee was well loved and respected.

 

[dlockers]

Was she fit?

She's lost loads of weight recently

 

[Manbatius]

Yeah, it's weird.

I think I'd be inclined to go though. I can't really rationalise that out. Feels like the right thing to do.

 

[ltron]

Yes it's weird, I would not go, because it's someone I barely know. Sounds like she was a bit obsessed.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[A2Z]

I definitely would not go, not sure how it's even a question.

You didn't even know her, hardly spoke to her over how many years, just because she put your name on some list doesn't mean you have to go.

 

[~Divine~Wind~]

Na funerals are just excuses for long lost relatives to get together and LARP about being sad/sorry for the immediate family, and give the illusion that the death-eee was well loved and respected.

Doin it backwards, to hell with all the crying

Celebrate their life and what they did/achieved!

Neurological disorder that explains why she liked you.

Brutality

Somebody you knew who liked you wants you at their funeral. What's weird about that?

This 100%

You could have her happy in life, but it didn't happen, do it in her passing

 

[mrk]

Just pay your respects.

If you don't, she might haunt you forever.

Ghosts are gnarly, look at this ghost as proof, haters will say it's fake.

 

[Tuppy_Glossop]

Might be a trap?

 

[Mason-]

Can just imagine him turning up and she smashes her way out of the coffin like a stripper out of a cake. To then proclaim “I knew you’d come! I knew you cared! Now we can be together forever!”

It’s a trap OP.

 

[413x]

Personally, I wouldn't go.
If you've never really met etc etc and it's a long drive, day off work for holiday.
If you've been active in her life yes, if not no.

I want to make a joke, but for some reason I've developed a bit of anonymous empathy? Weird.

Last part of OP surprised me. Expected "in now single, should I go there"

 

[Chuk_Chuk]

Originally, I agreed with the consensus that you should just go. It's just one day.

But the more I thought about it, the more I realised I couldn't come up with a good reason why you should go.

This women was effectively a stranger (you haven't spoken in nearly 2 decades) and the fact that she liked you is not a good enough reason to attend her funeral. You haven't indicated that you were really good friends in the past, and if you were I doubt you would be here asking if you should go.

I hate to pull the uno reverse card or to speak ill of the dead but let's be honest, if the roles were reveresed nobody would be telling you to attend the funeral and some choice words about them being an incel would crop up.

If you decide to go to be nice, that's okay. If you decide not to go because it is too wierd, that is also okay. I don't think there is a wrong answer here.