I've broken my life.

Lets be honest, the wife sounds rather crazy. Suggesting getting pregnant elsewhere for a child.

I honestly dont know how people can build families with people who are clearly bonkers. Loads of people do it. Surely the signs show WAAAAY before the pregnancy stuff.
 
There are 2 sides to everything, she said if the OP doesnt get her pregrant someone else will. It sounds like all she wants is kids.

The OP also said they broke up prior to him seeing someone else.

Not defending his actions, i'm merely saying it sounds like he's not the only one at fault in this situation.
 
shifty_uk said:
Not defending his actions, i'm merely saying it sounds like he's not the only one at fault in this situation.
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There comes a point in your life where you have to stop putting yourself first and that's when you have children. Even more so with a fourth on the way! It may not make you happy to remain in that house but it will make a world of difference to your kids - and that's all that counts.

You should probably sort out the spending though. Not sure why you're providing for her mother?!
 
i want to point out that relationships and marriages are hard work, after 2-3 years most people lose the soppy romantic feelings and it'll turn into a very close friendship where you satisfy each other. That is how it is, the love feelings will come and go. It's the little things they do that'll remind you.

Pregnancy and kids will make it hard to keep the love and romance going, takes work.

ALSO

your house, your bills, your kids...why should you move out?

Kick her and the mother out, she can go into a hostel through the council and end up with a nice dank council flat in a few years. wheyyyy
 
I've broken my life? :confused:

Just maybe its been broken all along and only now have you realised.

She sounds like an ex I once knew, I had a child to her and it was hell on earth. :mad:
I bailed in the end left the both of them I just got off, I was only 19 at the time.
Within 5 years she had 4 more kids to 3 different men, I dodged a bullet. ;)

I think she has about 8 kids now, not heard anything for years now so could be even more! :eek:

The above relationship put me off having kids for years, it would have been life if it was not for my missus. After 12 years of badgering me for a child, I said you getting one and that's it no more. ;)

Women who want to pump kids out like confetti are a nightmare.

As for anyone saying you left that child bla bla, I didn't I kept supporting my child financially until her mother done a very naughty thing and was spreading false dangerous rumors. :mad:

The steel toe caps came out then and it was volley time on everything. :D
 
itchy said:
I've broken my life? :confused:

Just maybe its been broken all along and only now have you realised.

She sounds like an ex I once knew, I had a child to her and it was hell on earth. :mad:
I bailed in the end left the both of them I just got off, I was only 19 at the time.
Within 5 years she had 4 more kids to 3 different men, I dodged a bullet. ;)

I think she has about 8 kids now, not heard anything for years now so could be even more! :eek:

The above relationship put me off having kids for years, it would have been life if it was not for my missus. After 12 years of badgering me for a child, I said you getting one and that's it no more. ;)

Women who want to pump kids out like confetti are a nightmare.

As for anyone saying you left that child bla bla, I didn't I kept supporting my child financially until her mother done a very naughty thing and was spreading false dangerous rumors. :mad:

The steel toe caps came out then and it was volley time on everything. :D
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So you don't see your child anymore then?
 
G-MAN2004 said:
So you don't see your child anymore then?
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Not seen since I was 22 she must be in her late 20`s now.

Sometimes you have to walk away not matter how hard it is, it was becoming far to complex as she was meeting other men and had got pregnant.

Then she pulled a serious stunt that could have put me behind bars that was the GTFO of everything moment.

Am I curious of how she is or how she turned out? Yes.

Anyway its not about me its about OP.

Advise is don't let kids pull you down, if its wrong then get out but stick about.

Am sticking around for my daughter now, as the missus does my nut in after 21 years. But if she pulled any naughty stunts I would be off like a rocket.
 
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your house, your bills, your kids...why should you move out?
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The house is owed to the family. Unfortunately unlike ocuk like to think, looking after 3 kids while the "hard working" dad goes out and chases other women isn't a great story for a court to hear...

Sounds like you should have thought harder before having kids OP. I hope you keep it amicable for the kids sake, and I would stop viewing it is "your" house, but somewhere nice for the kids to grow up.
 
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Then she pulled a serious stunt that could have put me behind bars that was the GTFO of everything moment.
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Something I don't understand at all see it quite often where one partner gets really vitriolic - I know a couple who broke up recently and she deserves to be in jail to be frank - publicly spun a load of stories about him including going and talking to people he worked with about him abusing her, cheating on her hinting he was into paedophilia and had molested children, etc. he could easily have ended up in a very bad place but fortunately loads of people could attest to him doing volunteering work at the exact times and dates she was saying - I dunno what she was thinking or how she got away without legal action against her.

EDIT: Was kind of amusing at first as she went completely nuts defacing his facebook page but then it got serious :S
 
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Something I don't understand at all see it quite often where one partner gets really vitriolic - I know a couple who broke up recently and she deserves to be in jail to be frank - publicly spun a load of stories about him including going and talking to people he worked with about him abusing her, cheating on her hinting he was into paedophilia and had molested children, etc. he could easily have ended up in a very bad place but fortunately loads of people could attest to him doing volunteering work at the exact times and dates she was saying - I dunno what she was thinking or how she got away without legal action against her.

EDIT: Was kind of amusing at first as she went completely nuts defacing his facebook page but then it got serious :S
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I got accused of rape when all I did was take Easter eggs down for my daughter and as she was not in at the time and it started raining.
I got in the back porch and waited, like a serial sinister Easter bunny rapist does! :D Weapon of choice 5 Easter eggs and a carrier bag. :eek:

After about an hour her sister turned up at her house,:confused: I explained everything and gave her the eggs that was it, so I thought. :rolleyes:

Long story after that...........:mad:

I have a theory, every child you have takes a centimetre from your penis, a good few grand and a 16 year grind.

Have too many and you end up with a press stud for a penis and a pair of rainbow drops for balls. :D (although not sure if its the kids or the women that do that?) :p
 
@itchy As Jeremy Kyle would say then

PUT SOMETHING ON THE END OF IT!

Why is it just down to the woman to prevent unwanted children?

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Walk a mile in someone's shoes before you judge them. Best of luck OP. Do not move out of the house before seeing a solicitor.
 
I don't understand the comments about the man providing everything?

If the children are below school age how do you propose the partner works? Who will look after them?

Unless you have a very high paid job and can justify the expense of a nursey? But still I don't feel that it is right to just dump them there for 40+ hours a week.

I have a GF and an 8 month old baby. I have no problems in paying for everything. After all it was a joint decision to have a child and it is not always going to be like this.

Besides... I'd rather go to work sometimes than change a nappy:D
 
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