Just found out today

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:11

That my ex got fired from her job. Hearing this news however has given me one hell of a flash back to the traumatic times I spent with her when we were living otgether. Just when I thought I was on the mend and moving forward and had found the confidence within myself to ask another girl out for a drink this week.

I found this out from someone thats her friend aswell as mine. I have to say that I no longer trust this friend as I feel that she's more of a friend to my ex than she is me, and whatever I tell her is going straight to my ex.

Knowing what Carrie is like (my ex) she'll be so angry about losing her job that she will be after anyone who ever upset her. The fact that she put me through hell, pointed a kinfe at me, caused me to almost lose my job, lead me to a cliff edge, have me spend all night with her in casualty because she'd taken far too many pain killers and generally treat me like a mug doesn't even make any difference in her eyes. Not only that but at one point I almost lost my family because of her.

I know I shouldn't let this news bother me and I haven't seen her since October last year when I walked out on her at 1am in the morning, when she pointed a knife at me and then slashed my shirts because she was angry that I wouldn't play her mind games anymore.

I've got this horrid gut wrenching feeling that she's going to follow me around, stalk me at work, glad I've changed my car, at least she doesn't know what I drive around anymore.

Sorry for the post guys I just wanted to get this out my system. Am actually feeling quite scared.

Teledude · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:13

Where do you people find these women?!!!?

If I were you I would let her get on with her life and your "friend" really cant be a friend to both from past experience imo

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:16

Teledude - Yup thats the planm next time Clare phones I'll tell her it's best if she leaves me alone in future.

I went to college with her, we were fridns for years and then got together last summer, and thats when I found out what she was really like. at first I could deal with it, but each time it got blown to ther next level every time there was a problem.

I did a quick search on a forum she posts at to see she has listed her employers addresses so all her pals can send them nasties in the post.

Sanzy · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:20

if she stalks you flying kick he in the face

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:22

If she stalks me I'll call the police. Then investigate taking out an injunction or whatever it is on her.

Teledude · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:23

I really can't see it going that far just don't do anything that she can use against you

I remember when an ex flew off the wall and I had to use force to restrain - she tried to turn my family and friends against me and got told in no uncertain terms to f off sharpish by them

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:25

Thats just it, you never know with her. She is about as stable as the first release of Windows 95. The good thing is though we don't live in the same towns, she's a good 20 - 25 miles away from me.

Teledude · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:27

Im down in Cornwall over Easter and love a good argument

Yewen · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:28

I can't say much more than goodluck, but you do not yet know she will do it, so think positive!

Nutter gals seem to be a theme, either the ones posting on OcUK or being posted about

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:30

Teledude said:
Im down in Cornwall over Easter and love a good argument

You'll need a really good body guard mate. She may only be 5ft tall, but she's lethal.

The night I left her to slit her wrists, to try and get me to stay she said, she threw plates and cups down at me in my car. She missed thankfully.

Andelusion · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:32

I don't have advice for you other than be sensible

But can I interest you in a keyboard warrior comment...

....If she bothers you, punch her in the boobies, both of them.

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:34

Whats the keyboard warrior comment ??

No if I hit her she;d accuseme of being a woman beater, she did that to herlast fella and he hadn't touched her.

lordrobs · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:34

It sounds like you really need to cut any ties to your ex and that includes joint friendships. Once all the ties have been cut you can really start to move on.

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:37

Thankfully there's only one tie to cut. She did try getting one ofmy best friends to turn against me, but he told her where to go, she hasn't bothered him since.

lordrobs · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:38

Behemoth said:
Thankfully there's only one tie to cut. She did try getting one ofmy best friends to turn against me, but he told her where to go, she hasn't bothered him since.

Sounds like you know what you need to do then.

Best of luck with it fella.

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:40

lordrobs said:
Sounds like you know what you need to do then.

Best of luck with it fella.

Thanks matey

Feeling a little bit better about it now. We shall see what happens over the next few days.

Teledude · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:42

Chin up and go have a beer on me!!

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:44

Sadly, no beers in the house, darn ! Just a bottle of Blue Nunn that nmy sister bought. Wine is for poofs !!

pyro · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:46

Just don't lose your cool dude, if she starts being a psycho female dog take it easy and avoid her.

Behemoth · 21 Feb 2006 at 00:48

pyro said:
Just don't lose your cool dude, if she starts being a psycho female dog take it easy and avoid her.

Thats the plan. She may never pop up, in which case, great if she does, I'll jump in my car and drive so fast that she'll never see me for dust.