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The fact is he made it clear that it was ok to drink while he was there, going from a single can to two isn't much of a stretch. how about you be realistic and realise that the sick kid in his bathroom is his responsiblity, he left them alone to drink surrounded by massive amounts of alcohol. seriously what would you expect to happen?
and yes it was stupid because it wasn't his kid!
and yes it was stupid because it wasn't his kid!
I just spat tea
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Agreed, I see where the OP was coming from. From a parenting stand point it's not "giving booze out" it's about showing a bit of trust, which at that age I think would go a long way. If she was on her own, 1 can of cider would probably have been it. However as she was with a mate, things get fired up pretty quickly - like you say, good thing she was at home and not at some random's soiree.
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Oh yes, ply it on nice and thick. You might as well enjoy yourself at her expense if all she's got is dried sick in her hair and a silly feeling. Incidentally, I'll have 2 egg, 2 bacon, 2 sausage, tomatoes, toast and a cup of tea please. Hold the black pudding, it plays havoc.
Andrew... do you think they brought the bottle around to his house intending to leave it in their bag all night?
Hah some of the people in this thread make me laugh.
What about in other countries where kids of a younger age will drink wine with a meal? Are you going to have a heart attack over that too? Get a grip.
1 can of cider to a 16 year old in his own home. Nothing wrong with it at all. The fact they were stupid and downed a bottle of white lightning is their own fault and would have happened anyway, probably out on the street if they weren't in his house.
What about in other countries where kids of a younger age will drink wine with a meal? Are you going to have a heart attack over that too? Get a grip.
1 can of cider to a 16 year old in his own home. Nothing wrong with it at all. The fact they were stupid and downed a bottle of white lightning is their own fault and would have happened anyway, probably out on the street if they weren't in his house.
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The bottle was her dads, read his posts.
he left them alone with a single can of cider, surrounded by 80 more cans, 10 bottles of wine a half bottle of whiskey and 2 litre bottle of cider, they didn't drink the cans her dad gave them obviously because they didn't like it and made their way to the diamond white .
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I don't have any problem with most details of this thread as my own parents used to let me drink from 13, 14 (but only one glass of beer etc) - and It never did me any harm.
I do have a problem witht he fact you gave the alcohol given to 'a friend' of your daughter. I find it strange that you would even consider giving it to someone elses children, even if you have known the girl since they were your babies. I would be well annyed if my kid came in smeeling of drink, and I found out one of his mates parents had given him a can of something without letting me know why first (even at 16)
Technically, you are the responsible guardian of her when she is in your company. If she had fainted while you were upstairs, and, god forbid, choked on her vomit, what sort of situation would you be in now.
If some adult had given my son booze (illegally, I may add - as he was below age) - and something had happened - I would have killed him and wanted to know why he felt the need to give my kids stuff without my consent. The situation could have been a lot worse, and even though you may have been OK with that for your own daughter, what about the someone else kids death or hospitalisation on your hands.
And its, alright for people here to spout off about what 12 or 13 year olds get up to these days, but rules are in place to prevent under 18s getting alcohol for a reason (just like this occurance) - and those age restrictions may even be increased to 21 (simply because underage drinkers put a massive strain on casualty and ambulance crews becuase of being too immature with reagrd to alcohol consumption) - Its one of the reasons the US doesn't have the UKs sort of drink related problems in teenagers.
I do have a problem witht he fact you gave the alcohol given to 'a friend' of your daughter. I find it strange that you would even consider giving it to someone elses children, even if you have known the girl since they were your babies. I would be well annyed if my kid came in smeeling of drink, and I found out one of his mates parents had given him a can of something without letting me know why first (even at 16)
Technically, you are the responsible guardian of her when she is in your company. If she had fainted while you were upstairs, and, god forbid, choked on her vomit, what sort of situation would you be in now.
If some adult had given my son booze (illegally, I may add - as he was below age) - and something had happened - I would have killed him and wanted to know why he felt the need to give my kids stuff without my consent. The situation could have been a lot worse, and even though you may have been OK with that for your own daughter, what about the someone else kids death or hospitalisation on your hands.
And its, alright for people here to spout off about what 12 or 13 year olds get up to these days, but rules are in place to prevent under 18s getting alcohol for a reason (just like this occurance) - and those age restrictions may even be increased to 21 (simply because underage drinkers put a massive strain on casualty and ambulance crews becuase of being too immature with reagrd to alcohol consumption) - Its one of the reasons the US doesn't have the UKs sort of drink related problems in teenagers.
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Guess they learned their lesson, you haven't done anything wrong at all.
You can actually get a shot gun license before your 16 but its slightly hard to, also when i got mine there was no training it was check you weren't made, had a crim record and had a suitable cabinet to house them
Also I found my 2 year old drinking something along the lines of fosters (wre in nz so no one will get the name) and he liked it
ah wll start them young 
Andrew please accept my sincere apologies... I misread the post. I thought she had brought it in. Ah...
OP, what you did was the same as taking a young child alone in a room full of their tastiest sweets and saying: "You can only have one".
Any 16-year old I know would have had the one can then carried on slyly taking something else... when you're young and get tipsy then you just want more. I know I would have done, given access like that.
I have to revise my earlier opinion i'm afraid... in this instance it was silly to leave them with a room full of alcohol and let them have some. If she had brought a bottle herself and sneaked it in I could understand it... but you effectively game them access to your entire alcohol store and what's worse, instead of handing them the cans yourself and saying: "you're not to touch another drop", you let them take it themselves (correct me if i'm wrong, that's the way I took it), which breaks down a mental barrier towards getting another straight away. Yeah, bit silly imo, and yes... a bit irresponsible.
However I stand by my earlier posts regarding peoples opinions on kids consuming any alcohol at that age... I did it, so did many I know, and we all turned out fine (ish).
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I've seen my grandparents give my cousin's some sherry (on their dummy when they were nippers) 
Rosy cheeky and a few laughs ensued.
Rosy cheeky and a few laughs ensued.
I've seen my grandparents give my cousin's some sherry (on their dummy when they were nippers)
Rosy cheeky and a few laughs ensued.
That's how a mate of mine was sent to sleep when he was restless as a baby. He's a right booze hound now
Now there's a Daily Mail headline in the making.Damn, I misread it too. I thought the bottle was theirs
safest way to learn the lesson - in the home. Many European countries give alcahol in moderation to their children - its their culture. In these countries I have never - maybe once seen anyone drunk, yes there were a couple of alcoholics, but no drunken kids, louts, yobs or anything. Seems a much more responsible way of drinking unlike the stereotyped UK which we are famous for
I'm dreading when my kids become sexually active, but would rather they had somewhere safe and clean to 'learn', same with drinking. When they learn to drive, that will be done through an instructor or in a safe environment - quiet estate to learn gears etc.
It's all about learning, learning to drive in rush hour traffic on a motorway is not good for a first lesson, drinking in an alleyway with m8's, might seem cool, but I wouldn't say safe. At someones house with an adult on hand is much better.
Mocking is a requirment as well of course
another lesson.
I'm dreading when my kids become sexually active, but would rather they had somewhere safe and clean to 'learn', same with drinking. When they learn to drive, that will be done through an instructor or in a safe environment - quiet estate to learn gears etc.
It's all about learning, learning to drive in rush hour traffic on a motorway is not good for a first lesson, drinking in an alleyway with m8's, might seem cool, but I wouldn't say safe. At someones house with an adult on hand is much better.
Mocking is a requirment as well of course
another lesson.
Well her mates OK, up and about but my daughter is still asleep.
I don't see anything wrong with giving them the odd can or drink in the house and none of my daughters mates parents do either, including a police inspector.
It was a case of abused trust that they went for the bottle but I very much doubt it will happen again.
I don't see anything wrong with giving them the odd can or drink in the house and none of my daughters mates parents do either, including a police inspector.
It was a case of abused trust that they went for the bottle but I very much doubt it will happen again.
who hasn't stolen alcohol from their parents stash. I did! at the same time my parents let me drink with them or when i was out. I never came home throwing up. I was tought that alcohol is something you have in moderation. Im sure thats what the OP was trying to do. I wouldnt be alarmed if it was my daughter that was given a can of strongbow at 16. however the bottle of white lightning is a whole different matter it just so happened to be at the same time. The girls have lost the trust of the OP and thats the last of it.
They will still drink but hopefully be a bit wiser to the effects of alcohol
They will still drink but hopefully be a bit wiser to the effects of alcohol
booze and kids are always a bad mixture, as they don't know their limits. but you cant find out your limit until you have experimented. but again, that is best left until the correct age of 18. although... i must admit, i did have the occasional drink at 17, but who didnt?? i dont disagree with giving a 16 year old one can, but it would have to be supervised, or they would end up going OTT.
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