Kindest way to break up with your girlfriend?

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I've been avoiding all contact with my girlfriend for 3 days now hoping she will realize it's over, but the texts keep coming. I'm feeling guilty that avoidance isn't the best way to end things. The relationship is over for me but she's a nice girl and I really don't want to hurt her.

Suggestions on what to say to her? everything I can think of sounds cheesy e.g. "it's not you it's me" or "I prefer to be single". Truth is I don't find her attractive anymore, which is probably the worst thing I could say.

inb4 "tell her you're gay"
 
You're being more unkind to her by not telling her anything and ignoring her.

Be a man and tell her - yes it's not easy, yes it'll break her heart (possibly) - but doing nothing is wrong.
 
Find a better way of wording 'I don't find you attractive'.

Alternatively, if you really want to kill it, tell her you cheated on her. Although that's an awful thing to do (to tell her even if you didn't), it'd probably work :p

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How long have you been together, and why is she now unattractive? Has she put on weight and stuff, or do you just not see her in the same light you used to?
 
You need to tell her - Just ignoring her and hoping she "gets the picture" is horrible and cowardly. You should meet up with her and tell her face to face that you don't see a future with her.
 
If you don't find her attractive, just tell her that you don't feel a spark between you two and you've grown distant to her or something like that. She WILL get over you, don't worry.
 
Avoidance is cruel, honesty can also be cruel dependant on the reason (so yes, being truthful to her in your situation wouldn't be a good idea).


Firstly, speak to her face to face. You can be honest without actually being insulting, for example you can say you aren't happy and haven't been for a while, you don't have to give specifics.

After this they will likely have stuff they want to say and questions to ask, this is where they'll ask for specifics, this is also the difficult part. Answer as honestly as you can without getting to the point where it's insulting ('you're fugly' would be insulting for example). Never, ever even hint that there's a chance you can work things out, be resolute that it's over. Be nice, it will make things easier for you.

Not much help i'm sure, but it's how i approached a breakup after an 8 year realtionship and it wasn't as painful as it could have been.
 
Freefaller said:
You're being more unkind to her by not telling her anything and ignoring her.

Be a man and tell her - yes it's not easy, yes it'll break her heart (possibly) - but doing nothing is wrong.
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Freefaller said:
If you don't find her attractive, just tell her that you don't feel a spark between you two and you've grown distant to her or something like that. She WILL get over you, don't worry.
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Tell her you can't give her what she wants. She wants this and that and you want to smash pasties.
 
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