Letter to neighbours

dirtydog · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:34

Nix said:
So you're saying that only people who are lucky enough to have nice detached houses can have fun?

Grow up.

I'm saying that it's out of order to be noisy late at night if you have shared walls/floor/ceilings. Being a student or young doesn't give you the right to do that.

fatiain · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:35

Got any mates who play for the college rugby team? Invite them, and the reat of the team. Pay them with beer.

Agent_matt · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:37

fatiain said:
Got any mates who play for the college rugby team? Invite them, and the reat of the team. Pay them with beer.

Hehe, the idea was to resolve the issue peacefully, not a full scale battle down the side of the house on the drive way that seperates our house and theirs.

basmic · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:38

OvertoneBliss said:
lmao, if someone walked in my house and did that, I'd find it totally amusing. In which case, I might actually end up with a first down my throat!

A first what...

Nix · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:38

dirtydog said:
I'm saying that it's out of order to be noisy late at night if you have shared walls/floor/ceilings. Being a student or young doesn't give you the right to do that.

The whole point of this thread is because he's looking for the best way to inform his neighbours. He IS NOT being unreasonable. There is nothing wrong if he informs his neighbours and they're fine with it.

BTW OP, what day/night are you planning it for? It's not a good idea to have it during the week.

dirtydog · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:40

Nix said:
The whole point of this thread is because he's looking for the best way to inform his neighbours. He IS NOT being unreasonable. There is nothing wrong if he informs his neighbours and they're fine with it.

I agree. What if they're not fine with it though? It sounds like he's gonna do it anyway. Personally I would visit the neighbour in person and ask if he minds, as it's a rare occurrence and a weekend etc. Chances are he won't, but if he does then turn it down at a more reasonable hour, like 10 o'clock.

SpicyDuck · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:41

basmic said:
A first what...

I've clearly been 0wn3d!

Phil.

fatiain · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:41

Agent_matt said:
Hehe, the idea was to resolve the issue peacefully, not a full scale battle down the side of the house on the drive way that seperates our house and theirs.

I meant for them to act as unliscenced "doormen" not your own personal army

Nix · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:42

dirtydog said:
I agree. What if they're not fine with it though? It sounds like he's gonna do it anyway. Personally I would visit the neighbour in person and ask if he minds, as it's a rare occurrence and a weekend etc. Chances are he won't, but if he does then turn it down at a more reasonable hour, like 10 o'clock.

Or ask when it is convieniant.

Agent_matt · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:43

It's a Saturday night and will be an evening event. In light of the past party it would have course be turned down before 12, and yes, the letter isn't to ask for permission, it's to inform them.

nomad · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:44

dirtydog said:
I'm saying that it's out of order to be noisy late at night if you have shared walls/floor/ceilings. Being a student or young doesn't give you the right to do that.

blimey you are a bundle of fun ain't ya?

I would go with the other guys saying pop to his and inform him of the party, and invite him too. If he isnt reasonable then, he has issues that you cant help him with. This is presuming the party is on a weekend.

dirtydog · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:48

nomad said:
blimey you are a bundle of fun ain't ya?

I would go with the other guys saying pop to his and inform him of the party, and invite him too. If he isnt reasonable then, he has issues that you cant help him with. This is presuming the party is on a weekend.

I don't like noisy inconsiderate neighbours. I'd hardly call someone not liking their neighbour having loud music on late at night as "having issues". I've had noisy neighbours before and it isn't fun letting them dictate when you can go to bed or do anything that requires quiet.

Belmit · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:50

Agent_matt said:
he then constantly asked if I wanted to fight him.

Perfect opportunity for the 'Sure, let's step outside' ruse. He steps outside, you shut the door. Job done.

kitten_caboodle · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:52

dirtydog said:
I don't like noisy inconsiderate neighbours. I'd hardly call someone not liking their neighbour having loud music on late at night as "having issues". I've had noisy neighbours before and it isn't fun letting them dictate when you can go to bed or do anything that requires quiet.

I agree. I wasn't referring to the OP's neighbours when I said neighbours are PItA sometimes... just neighbours in general. I've had 'orrible neighbours who played music all the time and fought constantly and complained if I so much as coughed in the night (I lived alone and was hardly ever home but they still found stuff to complain about), but the OP sounds like he's being quite reasonable - if it is a one off and he informs them, then I think they should probably be ok with it. It's all about compromise.

dirtydog · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:56

kitten_caboodle said:
I agree. I wasn't referring to the OP's neighbours when I said neighbours are PItA sometimes... just neighbours in general. I've had 'orrible neighbours who played music all the time and fought constantly and complained if I so much as coughed in the night (I lived alone and was hardly ever home but they still found stuff to complain about), but the OP sounds like he's being quite reasonable - if it is a one off and he informs them, then I think they should probably be ok with it. It's all about compromise.

Sounds reasonable considering it is a detached house. It would be different though if it was a flat/semi/terrace IMO. Unless the neighbour was okay with it.

Retsef · 6 Feb 2006 at 10:59

How about starting the letter with "Dear No. ##".

To be honest, I think midnight is a good time to turn down the music and those who say playing load music at night is unreasonable are obviously not being reasonable themselves.

I would love to go next door to the young family and say "do you mind turning down that screaming baby, it's kept me awake all night". I don't, because it would not be a reasonable thing to do.

dirtydog · 6 Feb 2006 at 11:02

Retsef said:
How about starting the letter with "Dear No. ##".

To be honest, I think midnight is a good time to turn down the music and those who say playing load music at night is unreasonable are obviously not being reasonable themselves.

I would love to go next door to the young family and say "do you mind turning down that screaming baby, it's kept me awake all night". I don't, because it would not be a reasonable thing to do.

Hmm the people in this thread remind me of the attitude of my past bad neighbours. You actually think it's acceptable in a property with shared walls to have loud music on until midnight - amazing. As for a baby, yes they are annoying but you can't "turn them down" - it is out of the parents' direct control to make their baby quieter so they can't be blamed.

NiCkNaMe · 6 Feb 2006 at 11:04

dirtydog said:
Hmm the people in this thread remind me of the attitude of my past bad neighbours. You actually think it's acceptable in a property with shared walls to have loud music on until midnight - amazing. As for a baby, yes they are annoying but you can't "turn them down" - it is out of the parents' direct control to make their baby quieter so they can't be blamed.

wtf?

He's having by the sounds of things a bloody one off party. It's a one off weekend occasion where the music will be loud, which he's even informing them of... hell, it'l even be turned off my 12! I wouldn't even bother going to a party that quietened down at 12

You want a coffin now ?

Vonhelmet · 6 Feb 2006 at 11:21

By the by, if you're offering to turn the music down at a certain hour, 11 would be more appropriate as I think that's when the law requires you to not be making a racket.

The_TailGunner · 6 Feb 2006 at 11:33

at the end of the day, it doesnt matter how much warning you give- you are legally required to turn it down at 11pm, and if he asks you to turn it down, you should.

that said, he doesnt sound like the type to call the police...

TG

Letter to neighbours

Man of Honour