Long distance relationship advice

DrToffnar said:
No offence dude, but I think that's tripe.

It's all so relative. I've been with my lady friend almost 3 years now and we never speak everyday! Don't get me wrong, I love her too bits and am absolutely confident I'll be spending the rest of my life with her. But ENSURING you talk everyday? Nah, I couldn't live like that. A relationship should be spontaneous. I couldn't deal with a schedule like that and I know for a fact my lady friend would hate it even more!

It's cute as hell when she calls half cut, talking all sorts of nonsense in the middle of the night.

But like I said, it's all relative. That's why I think asking for specific advise is such a bad idea xD
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Not sure how you think youre going to live with somebody and not speak to them everyday, especially if you start a family, good luck with that!
 
finga said:
Not sure how you think youre going to live with somebody and not speak to them everyday, especially if you start a family, good luck with that!
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It's not so much that, it's the idea of feeling you HAVE to converse everyday to keep up this veneer of normalcy. I don't think there's anything more harmful to a relationship (in my experience at least) then banal daily exchanges. If you feel you always have something to say and it's nearly always engaging, that's fine. But you should never have to force a conversation.

Also, we both despise children xD
 
Whether you stay together or not one of you will end up playing away. Long distance is just code for cheating.

The amount of girls and lads that cheated regularly on their fellas when they were at uni was comical. Yet they never told them and were as innocent as can be when the other half came to be.

That said thinking about it if you're just away Monday to Friday and you both work then you may be fine, travelling would become a pain every week though.
 
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DrToffnar said:
It's not so much that, it's the idea of feeling you HAVE to converse everyday to keep up this veneer of normalcy. I don't think there's anything more harmful to a relationship (in my experience at least) then banal daily exchanges. If you feel you always have something to say and it's nearly always engaging, that's fine. But you should never have to force a conversation.

Also, we both despise children xD
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i'd agree it puts too much pressure saying we have to speak/skype/whatever everyday. the last gf put that pressure on me and i now put that pressure on myself to a degree ,and i get worried the gf will be annoyed she hasnt received a txt or email. do whatever is comfortable, and make clear if you dont call or txt every 1hr its not a problem and visa versa
 
Exeter to Brum is only 2.3 hrs drive at most, as long as there are no major traffic jams.

did a similar trip for 7 months daily Exeter to Gloucester although on a motorbike..

once you get settled in most jobs can accommodate a 4 day week for people travelling a long way. then surely you can go home each weekend.
 
As someone who was in a trans-Atlantic relationship for 1.5 years (we met on a holiday in the Dominican), I can tell you that a 2-2.5 hour drive away will be easy.

You could even go back home every weekend, and just rent a room there 4/5 nights a week, it's really not that far at all.

Alternatively, mumsnet will hold all the answers you're after :p
 
I moved from Hoorn in Holland (google it, small little city) to London. I came with the best of intentions to be loyal to my then girlfriends but I cheated on both of them within a month. One of them came over to visit and I ended up getting so slaughtered that night that she caught a cab back to heathrow and flew back the same night.

Ah the joys of being young :D


I'm all grown up now, I promise. I have a wife and everything :eek:
 
Long distance is code for cheating? lol, ok.

Is 2hrs considered long distance? 2hrs is just down the road.
 
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