Long distance relationship advice

Also, don't pay any mind to these ********* telling you she'll cheat. Only YOU and her KNOW whether she will or won't. If you have any doubts then just talk it out with her dude. There's nothing wrong with confronting your partner with stuff like that and if she makes it a problem then...

People forget that it's all relative and so much of it comes down to context. In a relationship very little is cut and dry.
 
I've been in two long distance relationships and it is very difficult but in my cases there was not a predefined amount of time specified so I guess this is where the difference is.

If you are going to see each other every other weekend, it'll help a great deal and you'll both cherish this short time you both see each other, this is where you'll know if you'll keep this up for a year.
 
I managed to make things work while my missus went to uni, at first I saw her every other weekend, it worked quite well actually as we'd talk almost every day on the phone and when you see each other its always really exciting :)

after the first year she was coming home to work at weekends so saw each other every weekend. I think you both have to really want the relationship, if you are a bit meh about the whole thing your interest will drop off.
 
Ive been with my gf 3.5year now and we have not been closer than 270mile from each other. Weekends + summer hols + christmas has worked wonders.

Engaged and looking to buy a house back home (even though ill still be working away)

Its certainly a test, but if you have total trust its not an issue and it keeps the relationship fresh not being with someone day in day out. It definitely makes you appreciate time together... I guess it depends on who you are with. Its cliche but its easy with the right person.
 
TBH dont force yourself into calling her every day. Call when you feel like it but obviously she should have the same mindset. You might even appreciate the time away for a bit!
 
I've been long-distant with my GF for over 6 years now. (Manchester - Bristol)

We started seeing each other literally just before i went to Uni. She used to come down to Bristol every weekend, then eventually when i'd finished uni, we used to alternate the weekends - but still see each other every weekend.

Now i'm lucky my work is pretty flexible and i wfh on Fridays, so i'm only away half the week or so.

For only a year should be no problem really. I would suggest you attempt to meet every weekend, obviously if things come up then that's fine, but if you both had no plans on a weekend, it doesn't really make sense not to see each other.

Things might start out a bit tricky, but if you're both committed then it'll work itself out.
 
Semple said:
I've been long-distant with my GF for over 6 years now. (Manchester - Bristol)

We started seeing each other literally just before i went to Uni. She used to come down to Bristol every weekend, then eventually when i'd finished uni, we used to alternate the weekends - but still see each other every weekend.

Now i'm lucky my work is pretty flexible and i wfh on Fridays, so i'm only away half the week or so.

For only a year should be no problem really. I would suggest you attempt to meet every weekend, obviously if things come up then that's fine, but if you both had no plans on a weekend, it doesn't really make sense not to see each other.

Things might start out a bit tricky, but if you're both committed then it'll work itself out.
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Much better if you can see each other each weekend.

I live in Derby through the week but I've bought a place in London with my girlfriend (of 7 years) and I can leave work at 2pm, catch a train down and be in the door for 4.45pm on a Friday afternoon. Then I head back up early Morning via train and I'm at my desk for 9.30am :)

It is quite difficult sometimes, but you just have to work at it :)
 
If you cant spend an hour on skype each night just chatting about your day then its not going to work out. It doesnt have to be meaningful conversation, just the stuff you would normally say to each other when you get in from work.
My wife regularly goes to Poland for a fortnight at a time and we do this, its just like being in the same room as each other, I dont understand how people can run out of things to say to each other, surely that would happen anyway!
The lack of sex may become a problem though! Id be going back and forth every weekend.
 
That's not long distance. And it's ONLY for 1 year!

Not sure what you are worried about, you can easily see each other every weekend. Just trust each other, communicate regularly and it will be fine.
 
Tefal said:
she's going to cheat on you.
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rather unlikely if they're together every Friday/Saturday/Sunday night + bank holidays + vacation days and she also works full time

I know people who are married with kids and (temporarily) have to work in another European country Monday - Friday - they fly home each weekend and spend 3 nights with the family.
 
Not even long distance and 1 year. If you both want it to work it will be easy.
if you cant keep your sex drive under control for a week then .. ok
 
Think every other weekend is a good thing to aim for. I guess you both have families/friends that you will want to visit occasionally as well and this will let you do that without feeling guilty
 
if it is only for a year give it a go. 150 miles isn't too far at all.

with smartphones and the internet you can talk daily for free and make it feel like there is no distance between you. 20 years ago this would be a lot different.

go see each other on the weekends. if you are into each other then it won't be hard to work through for a year.
 
amigafan2003 said:
I started going out with a girl when I was 21 and she was 17. She went to uni for 4 years a year after that and stayed at uni halls for the first year, so we only saw each other occasionally.

We've been married 13 years week on Tuesday.
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I started going out with a girl when I was 19 and she was 17. I went to uni for 4 years a year after that and stayed at uni halls for the first year, so we only saw each other occasionally.

She dumped me at the end of the first term and I never saw her again.

(Just for the sake of balance).
 
Mr^B said:
I started going out with a girl when I was 19 and she was 17. I went to uni for 4 years a year after that and stayed at uni halls for the first year, so we only saw each other occasionally.

She dumped me at the end of the first term and I never saw her again.

(Just for the sake of balance).
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:D:D
 
My other half went to Uni for 3 years and went to to a Uni that was around 100miles away (2 hours) we would always meet every other weekend, And talk on the phone/skype in the week.

Like others have said I don't feel this sort of distance is long distance, As its so easy to hop on a train/drive to go and meet them.

We are still happy together now and that was 4+ years ago now :o
 
It's only 3 hours away?

Me and my partner did ~2 years of me living down in Watford then commuting back up
to Leeds.

I used to leave to go back down on a Monday (5am) then leave work on Friday 1pm and head back up.

We've now got our own place and I no longer live in the South so WIN WIN!
 
finga said:
If you cant spend an hour on skype each night just chatting about your day then its not going to work out. It doesnt have to be meaningful conversation, just the stuff you would normally say to each other when you get in from work.
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No offence dude, but I think that's tripe.

It's all so relative. I've been with my lady friend almost 3 years now and we never speak everyday! Don't get me wrong, I love her too bits and am absolutely confident I'll be spending the rest of my life with her. But ENSURING you talk everyday? Nah, I couldn't live like that. A relationship should be spontaneous. I couldn't deal with a schedule like that and I know for a fact my lady friend would hate it even more!

It's cute as hell when she calls half cut, talking all sorts of nonsense in the middle of the night.

But like I said, it's all relative. That's why I think asking for specific advise is such a bad idea xD
 
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