Long distance relationships?

NeoNemesis said:
Yes that is at the extreme end of the scale, but if you are any distance away from the one you love it's just as difficult.
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Given the distance involved though, they don't have to be apart. There is absolutely no reason why they can't find somewhere that's convenient for both and live there.

What makes the OP think that because you work in London you've got to live in London?
 
NeoNemesis said:
Yes that is at the extreme end of the scale, but if you are any distance away from the one you love it's just as difficult. I don't think it's fair to belittle the way these people are feeling just because the distance isnt as extreme as yours!

/edit. On reading that back it seems quite confrontational. My apologies.
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After reading my post back i didnt think about how hard it is not being with someone when you want to be with them. Not waking up with them etc etc.

My apologies to the OP for being a bit harsh :)
 
For the price you pay flying to these far flung destinations to see a distant gf, would it not be more financially prudent to just rent a woman by the hour? (if you get my drift - we pay for it indirectly anyhow!) :D
 
A job's a job at the end of the day.

I would never pick a job over my girlfriend (of 6 years). She's part of your life, and a job is... well just something to bring in the money.
 
Hmm OP doesnt sound that bad..
You get weekends etc. Lets face it during the week you dont get all that much quality time together if you are working do you.
You get time off etc too.

Iv kind of started seeing an ex again, whos moved to essex, It takes me 3-4hours to get to Kings X and then im sure it would take atleast another hour to get to where she is, but im skint so I cant even visit. Shes also barely surviving where shes at due to being on a scholarship, iv seen her once since she left and will see her once again in another 3 weeks time. I move away to join the navy in 6 weeks meaning im off the face of the earth for over a month etc.
Its not really that difficult if you make the use of the time you can speak any time you get to spend together, if the relationship is a laster the seperation is only going to be permanent, you'll find work closer to each other in the future.
 
I don't speak from experience, but I think a long distance relationship would be difficult, mainly because you don't get to physically see them very often and hug/kiss etc.

Just my opinion though, I'm sure some people manage them fine.
 
Nix said:
If you don't consider about a three hour train journey 'too far', then sure.

What career are you looking into Cali? Strangely enough, Bristol is where I want to be at the moment as that's where a lot of the graduate jobs I'm interested in seem to be, but I'm stuck here till I can get on my feet again!
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What sorta grad roles are you looking at in Bristol? I just started in Bristlol this year and loving it!
 
My gf lives 5000 miles away! It's been 3 months since I've seen her and it's another month before I see her. After that it's likely to be about 6 months before the next visit. We know it won't be permanent though and it's worth the [significant] expense and heartache.
 
peetee said:
Hmm OP doesnt sound that bad..
You get weekends etc. Lets face it during the week you dont get all that much quality time together if you are working do you.
You get time off etc too.
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That's true. Sometimes I won't see mine for a week or more because we're free on different days and fairly often whole weekends are written off. He only lives 5 min drive from me!
 
HummuH1 said:
My girlfriend has been living with me for 12 years. I wish we had a long distance relationship.
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I was just coming to say something on a similar line, well, she doesn't live with me, and it hasn't been as long as that, but t'was still in a similar vein, lol.
 
Talbs13 said:
My girlfriend lives in St Petersburg, Russia.
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Whats the point, seriously? Why do people bother with relationships whereby the only contact is MSN and 1 maybe 2 visits a year? I sometimes think its more that they cant bear the thought of not having a girlfriend so it'll do.

I'm not going to knock long distance relationships - I have one myself - but even once a month is frustratingly long time to go. Surely it's not really a relationship at all if you see them once or twice a year, she's a female pen pal.

Even stranger are those where you've never known anything other than seeing her for a week or two a year. You don't know the real her.
 
Chiz said:
A job's a job at the end of the day.

I would never pick a job over my girlfriend (of 6 years). She's part of your life, and a job is... well just something to bring in the money.
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:eek:

For a lot of people, a job is not just a job - for example, mine keeps me mentally exercised, complements my social life by adding an extra large group of friends, and is generally something I enjoy doing. *shrug*

I think it depends on the job tbh. If it's a means to an end and some sort of drudgery then fair enough, but I wouldn't dump a good job for a girl - they come and go :)
 
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