Longest wait?

Psy-Blade

Psy-Blade

Psy-Blade

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Hey all.

Flame me all you want, it'll be entertaining. My gf (of 5 years) has told me that we're going on a break. We're not speaking for a month. It's going to be the longest month of my life.

Have any of you been in a situation where a day, week, month or longer just seemed incomprehensibly long?

Edit: just adding some info. The reason she wanted the break is that she doesn't know if she see's me out of habit or because she wants to. She's got a busy life right now and she's not sure if I'm holding her back.
 
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Viper² said:
I've been waiting to get with this girl for months but she had a boyfriend of 5 years. She's splitting up with him soon to be with me.
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Haha, she's promised me that there's no one else. It's either she wants to be in a relationship or that she wants to be independent for a while. Her and her mum are really close, and I get on with her mum too.

She's been really good at talking to me and said that at no point has she mentioned another guy.
 
Bennie-Mac said:
Sleep with all her friends. If/when she finds out "WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!" /ross from friends
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lol, Actually she said the break is just from me, as I talk too much and go in circles, and want to see her all the time when I worry. She said we're not seeing other people during the break.
 
Ciphon said:
If it so happens that she does contact you in a month and says she still wants to be with you, then great! You can make your decision then.
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I am trying to move on, I'm not holding on to every last bit of hope. I'm just really looking forward to going on this date with her in a month...
 
Nitefly said:
Because sometimes you don't always know what you've got until it's gone, perhaps.
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This is kinda the line she has told me. Since we've been iffy I've made every effort to go and see her. 1: this was too much for her. We've NEVER been like that, seeing each other once a week for a few nights. Or even going 2 or 3 weeks without seeing each other.

and 2: she doesn't know if she behaves as she does now as she's just used to it. Does she show less enthusiasm when she see's me because she see's me so often for example. Or is it because she doesn't want to. That's pretty much what she wants to answer for herself.
 
eatcustard said:
Dont bother with date in a month
Just say NO!! That will **** her off no end.

Dont let her dictate the terms, you should go out and play with a few girls.
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Heh I'll probably really get flamed for this. I had a 50:50 say in the terms. She decided we needed a break. I decided we shouldn't see other people during the break. She agree'd on that no problems.

I'm really not bothered about another guy. If she did meet someone I know at the very least that her mum would tell me. My gf's sister dumped her boyfriend when he had lost his job, had no money. her parents knew that it wasn't his fault, and they helped support him till he sorted himself out. They're an amazing family.
 
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Ciphon said:
Do you live together?
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Nope. We're too independent. Always have been. She actually said it's one of the things she's always liked, that I don't HAVE to see her week in and week out. She's got a job with a lot of pressure, and her own friends to see. I'm the same.

The other reason is that I have a home studio/band project and she is a designer. We have too many things to live in the same house (that we could afford - 3 bedroom, bedroom, studio and design studio.)
 
twentyone said:
Seems like it's over :(

Why would her sister delete her number on your phone? Surely she would trust to you not call her during the break if your relationship really is as open as you say. That's just really weird.
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Because I told her that I'd get drunk and call her within a few days. She didn't forcefully delete it. Just told me that I should do it while we were talking. And so I did.

I guess it really was/is a weird relationship. I get on so well with her family that they know *most* things we get up to. My friends find it weird that they're so open about talking about sex.
 
JBuk said:
you're failing to see what's unfolding between your eyes
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lol. We've had fall outs before. I 100% trust her sister and mother to be impartial and look out for both of our interests. She'll give me the number back when I need it. It's not a plan between the two sisters.

And of course after 5 years I have so many ways to contact her, or get her number. We agree'd to keep our facebooks open to each other for example. It's just erasing the convenience of calling her that she wanted.
 
SS-89 said:
What I personally find odd is the fact you spend up to 2-3 weeks away from each other (I'm final year university and my GF lives pretty far away so during holidays only see her once or so but would never willingly spend that long apart)...if that's the case then how is this any different from those occasions?

Something doesn't quite add up.
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We don't willingly spend them apart. Its just that she'll have work one weekend, I'll have a hike the next and a birthday after that. We live 80 miles apart or so now, but its only an hour on the motorway to see her.

It's different now because we're not talking so that she can get her head sorted out. We'd usually talk every 2 or 3 days and skype once a week.
 
meghatronic said:
I'm gonna put money on the fact she knows and was involved in family discussions about it.

Blood is thicker than water.
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Oh I know that she will prefer her daughter to be happy. I'm not stupid. But she also wouldn't lie to me or do anything to make this harder than it is.

Her mum know's we've been having trouble, and we've talked about that before. But she doesn't know about going on a break. We didn't want her to worry her while on holiday.
 
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