Not straight away but in time maybe due to underlying feelings that one will have for the other. I'm still friends with my long term ex. We didn't have a nasty breakup so there is no reason not to be friends.
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Not straight away but in time maybe due to underlying feelings that one will have for the other. I'm still friends with my long term ex. We didn't have a nasty breakup so there is no reason not to be friends.
Ah, I've just connected these.
During your party-phase, would you have been annoyed by her turning up weekly for several nights at a time? I think you've suffocated her.
OT a bit..
Whilst some recreational drugs can have a hideous comedown (eg anthetamines, dependant on the person), many have no comedown whatsoever (again, person dependant). Whatever your thoughts on recreational drugs, the comedown is usually a very minor factor with MDMA (as per the prior thread). I'm not advocating recreational drug use, but neither do I advocate misinformation
Do this. Most definitely do this
Why not? You should.
In all seriousness. Stop speaking to her family/friends. Their letting you down gently. Go and see her. Unannounced if you have to and tell her your not putting up with this treatment. After how many years she thinks it's ok to tell you she needs a break? Possibly the oldest line in the book. Seriously.
Tell her its over. Your done. You cant be bothered any more. Then delete your number from her phone and facebook. Cut all contact. DO NOT answer her if she calls or tries to get in contact
When she kicks up a fuss and starts crying. Which she probably will, something along the lines of. "You want to try and treat me like a mug after all this time? WTF did you expect me to do. I'm not waiting for you. Your not worth it."
Also remember anything she says to you will be exactly what you want to hear so she can get what she wants out of the situation. In this case to keep you hanging on for whatever reason.
Seriously dude. Ditch this chick. Oh, and post pics.
As many have said, just sack it off and move on. It's hard but you have to do it, these "breaks" rarely work. You might bump into each other in a few years and it might all come back to life but you can't wait around.
I broke up with my ex of 4 years a few months ago and its definitely not an easy thing to do, you have to remove all trace of her from your life and try to think about anything else possible. Get a hobby or something, anything to keep your mind off her. Feelings don't disappear over night and you will still want to contact her in the months to come, just resist the urge and move on.
I broke up with my ex of 4 years a few months ago and its definitely not an easy thing to do, you have to remove all trace of her from your life and try to think about anything else possible. Get a hobby or something, anything to keep your mind off her. Feelings don't disappear over night and you will still want to contact her in the months to come, just resist the urge and move on.
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What he said.
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Start looking for someone else.
At worst you'll have the same girlfriend, at best you'll have a better girlfriend.
At worst you'll have the same girlfriend, at best you'll have a better girlfriend.
I couldn't and haven't... I was with my ex for 4 and a half years and since we split up 2 years ago i haven't spoken to her once. It was hard at first but if i tried to stay friends with her it probably would have broke my mind. Haha! I suppose if your the dumper its probably a lot easier to remain friends than it is if your the dumped. Mainly because you have to try and stop loving someone whereas they already have... The funny thing is i'm still good mates with her bro and her dad is still my mechanic and i've still managed to avoid her?!
I suppose you have to ask yourself whether you could handle seeing her with other people and no longer being a major part of her life anymore?
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My only bit of advice is to never take advice from this board. 
Don't let other people tell you what is happening in YOUR relationship or in the head of someone they don't know.
Do what feels right for you. If you want to be with this girl, help her to deal with whatever problems she has. If not then maybe it's best to walk away.
Don't let other people tell you what is happening in YOUR relationship or in the head of someone they don't know.
Do what feels right for you. If you want to be with this girl, help her to deal with whatever problems she has. If not then maybe it's best to walk away.
I'm the female Minx.Close usernames so I am sure you can forgiven.
I knew there was at least one female on here somewhere.
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I have first hand experience of mothers that really like me suddenly turning when their daughter decides to end things. That was my point. She would lie to you - she'd do anything for her daughter. Unless you're ****** her. Then things change.
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Sounds like it's over to me! I'd move on if I were in your place...
My only bit of advice is to never take advice from this board.
Don't let other people tell you what is happening in YOUR relationship or in the head of someone they don't know.
Do what feels right for you. If you want to be with this girl, help her to deal with whatever problems she has. If not then maybe it's best to walk away.
Sorry, but this really is crap advice.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is ask for the opinion of someone who can look at the relationship with a fresh pair of unopinionated eyes, and almost every single pair of those eyes that have posted in here are saying that the OP needs to give this girl the boot before she does, or at the very, very least understand that this is almost certainly the end.
This chap is obviously a bit deluded/misguided (I'm saying that in the nicest possible way), it seems like the worst possible thing he could do right now is make decisions based 100% on what his heart says